27/06/2022
Being secure in yourself doesn't
make you selfish. In fact, it improves the quality of your
relationships. For someone with an anxious
attachment, becoming self-full will allow you to
confidently share your needs with your partner and
also find a safe group of people to rely on.
The goal in relationships is to form interdependency.
This means you can meet and know your own needs
and also tend to the needs of another. Both are a dance
where the relationship allows for your individual needs
and your partner's needs.
Through awareness and understanding, we find
ourselves speaking up and compromising. Everyone
wins when we are flexible and needs can get met on
both sides. Understanding, asking for, and getting your
needs met is so important.
A lot of people learn to self-sacrifice in their
relationship but the art of meeting both your needs and
your partner's needs is part of the dance of beautiful
interdependent relationships.
That is not selfish, that is becoming self-full!
