Bodhi Tree India

13/07/2024

The loud ones may initially grab our attention, but it is the calm ones who ultimately earn our respect. For it is in their stillness that we find true strength, true wisdom, and true leadership.

Unknown.

20/02/2024

FRANTIC FEBRUARY

The exam season has started. A little bit of stress is cool, particularly during exam time as stress is a part of life. A realistic approach to life is a part of positive parenting. Parents should discuss exam nerves with children.
But Before parents try to help their children cope with exam stress, they should check their own stress levels. Many parents know they are stressed but tend to ignore it, believing that the child is more important and hence needs all the attention and care.

Also, some vulnerable parents fall prey to strong opinions and advice from extended family members. This can be confusing for parents, and they end up confusing their children too. While it's helpful to have someone older than you or a friend to talk with and share worries, offloading your worries on several people will only invite a flood of advice. Do remember that most people's advice is based on their own experiences, which could be quite different from yours.

Using comparisons with other children, repeatedly recalling past mistakes and harping on the child's limitations are methods that will make the child feel upset, angry and helpless.

Remember , this is not the end of the world.
Here are a few tips to follow :

1. Last minute preparations do not work well. Just reassure your child to revise and retain whatever they have learnt so far.

2.Chalk out timetable and routine

3.Practicr stress busting exercise

4.Positive and encouraging environment at home.

5.Healthy diet and sound sleep to tame stress

6.Reassurance and support is a must.




Neha Anand counselling psychologist

16/09/2022

“Once a little boy went to school.
One morning
The teacher said:
"Today we are going to make a picture."
"Good!" thought the little boy.
He liked to make all kinds;
Lions and tigers,
Chickens and cows,
Trains and boats;
And he took out his box of crayons
And began to draw.

But the teacher said, "Wait!"
"It is not time to begin!"
And she waited until everyone looked ready.
"Now," said the teacher,
"We are going to make flowers."
"Good!" thought the little boy,
He liked to make beautiful ones
With his pink and orange and blue crayons.
But the teacher said "Wait!"
"And I will show you how."
And it was red, with a green stem.
"There," said the teacher,
"Now you may begin."

The little boy looked at his teacher's flower
Then he looked at his own flower.
He liked his flower better than the teacher's
But he did not say this.
He just turned his paper over,
And made a flower like the teacher's.
It was red, with a green stem.

On another day
The teacher said:
"Today we are going to make something with clay."
"Good!" thought the little boy;
He liked clay.
He could make all kinds of things with clay:
Snakes and snowmen,
Elephants and mice,
Cars and trucks
And he began to pull and pinch
His ball of clay.

But the teacher said, "Wait!"
"It is not time to begin!"
And she waited until everyone looked ready.
"Now," said the teacher,
"We are going to make a dish."
"Good!" thought the little boy,
He liked to make dishes.
And he began to make some
That were all shapes and sizes.

But the teacher said "Wait!"
"And I will show you how."
And she showed everyone how to make
One deep dish.
"There," said the teacher,
"Now you may begin."

The little boy looked at the teacher's dish;
Then he looked at his own.
He liked his better than the teacher's
But he did not say this.
He just rolled his clay into a big ball again
And made a dish like the teacher's.
It was a deep dish.

And pretty soon
The little boy learned to wait,
And to watch
And to make things just like the teacher.
And pretty soon
He didn't make things of his own anymore.

Then it happened
That the little boy and his family
Moved to another house,
In another city,
And the little boy
Had to go to another school.

The teacher said:
"Today we are going to make a picture."
"Good!" thought the little boy.
And he waited for the teacher
To tell what to do.
But the teacher didn't say anything.
She just walked around the room.

When she came to the little boy
She asked, "Don't you want to make a picture?"
"Yes," said the little boy.
"What are we going to make?"
"I don't know until you make it," said the teacher.
"How shall I make it?" asked the little boy.
"Why, anyway you like," said the teacher.
"And any color?" asked the little boy.
"Any color," said the teacher.
And he began to make a red flower with a green stem. “

“We have a narrow definition of what constitutes being smart that leaves people out and wounds people’s sense of self.

We have elevated one type of brain at the expense of all the other representations of intelligence and flourishing.

Intelligence is not one thing, it’s many things. The problem is a set of institutional practices that reinforces the idea that difference is the problem.

-Jonathan Mooney

26/08/2022

Gillian is a seven-year-old girl who cannot sit in school. She continually gets up, gets distracted, flies with thoughts, and doesn't follow lessons. Her teachers worry about her, punish her, scold her, reward the few times that she is attentive, but nothing. Gillian does not know how to sit and cannot be attentive.

When she comes home, her mother punishes her too. So not only does Gillian have bad grades and punishment at school, but she also suffers from them at home.

One day, Gillian's mother is called to school. The lady, sad as someone waiting for bad news, takes her hand and goes to the interview room. The teachers speak of illness, of an obvious disorder. Maybe it's hyperactivity or maybe she needs a medication.

During the interview an old teacher arrives who knows the little girl. He asks all the adults, mother and colleagues, to follow him into an adjoining room from where she can still be seen. As he leaves, he tells Gillian that they will be back soon and turns on an old radio with music.

As the girl is alone in the room, she immediately gets up and begins to move up and down chasing the music in the air with her feet and her heart. The teacher smiles as the colleagues and the mother look at him between confusion and compassion, as is often done with the old. So he says:

"See? Gillian is not sick, Gillian is a dancer!"

He recommends that her mother take her to a dance class and that her colleagues make her dance from time to time. She attends her first lesson and when she gets home she tells her mother:

"Everyone is like me, no one can sit there."

In 1981, after a career as a dancer, opening her own dance academy and receiving international recognition for her art, Gillian Lynne became the choreographer of the musical "Cats," both in London and Broadway. She also directed and choreographed the Vienna production.

Hopefully all “different” children find adults capable of welcoming them for who they are and not for what they lack.

Long live the differences, the little black sheep and the misunderstood. They are the ones who create beauty in this world.

"And those who were seen dancing, were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music."❤

21/03/2022

I salute his will power, determination and consistency n offcourse his parents who instilled such values in him.
No luxury life can instill such things in your child.Parents don't make your children a show piece who can only blabber inBritish English..instead work on these hard core values and dedication.
May God bless you my child !!

21/09/2021

Free spirit

"All good things are wild and free."
-Thoreau

There is nothing more satisfying than inner happiness. Not elation, not laughing until your side hurts, or relying on someone, something else for contentment.
It’s peace that wraps you in serenity – a smile within – knowing that no matter what life throws at you, you can handle it. For better or worse, you have, you can and will continue to do the best... and mean it.
“You got this.”
Life isn’t about perfection, it’s about being wild and free.
debbie lynn

A free spirit is just an old soul with all its Karma paid… needing to prove nothing.

13/07/2021

Most often my clients share that they feel guilty when act weak and vulnerable.They try to shun their negative emotions and the guilt of going in a shell breaks them.
Remember, just before Caterpillar encountered a great deal of darkness inside the cocoon,it turned out to be a butterfly.Allow yourself the time and space to rebuild yourself.

22/06/2021

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07/05/2021

07/05/2021

EVERYTHING IS A MIRACLE

Albert Einstein

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.

But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people; first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy.

A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving.

A human being is part of a whole, called by us the "Universe," a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest -a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us.

Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.

Only a life lived for others is worth living.

--Albert Einstein

Neha Anand
BODHITREE INDIA