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08/09/2023

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19/09/2021

Sharing an article read elsewhere.

IQ, EQ, SQ, AQ
....According to psychologists, there are four types of intelligence:

1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)

1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your comprehension ability", solve maths; memorize things and recall subject matters.

2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others; keep to time; be responsible; be honest; respect boundaries; be humble, genuine and considerate.

3. Social Quotient (SQ):
This is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.

People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go farther in life than those with high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize in improving IQ level while EQ and SQ are played down.

A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.

Your EQ represents your character; your SQ represents your charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs but more especially your EQ and SQ.

EQ and SQ make one manage better than the other.

Pls don't teach children only to have higher IQ , but also to have higher EQ and SQ.

Now there is a 4th one :
A new paradigm

4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ):
The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life and come out without losing your mind.
AQ determines who will give up in face of troubles and may abandon their families.
In the current context of Corona, many professionally successful people are going thru bouts of Depression. Because they haven't seen and thus are unprepared for Adversity.

To parents:
Expose children to other areas of life than academic. They should adore manual work, sport and art .

Develop their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of the parents.

Finally, *do not prepare the road for the children. Prepare the children for the road.*

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Anticipatory anxiety occurs when you feel dread and fear about an upcoming event, and limited information is available to you. While not a standalone mental health diagnosis, anticipatory anxiety is a symptom of other conditions including panic disorder and generalized anxiety disorder.
The good news is anxiety is highly treatable.
Create a Calm Plan and a Relaxation Routine
When you focus on bringing peace into your day, you’re acting with intention, and not reacting defensively. The two most important variables are finding what works for you, and sticking with a consistent schedule. Your body’s stress signals let you know when something doesn’t feel right. And slowing physiologic arousal can reduce anticipatory anxiety. Common relaxation practices include:

Journaling

Deep breathing

Guided meditation

Progressive muscle relaxation

Be Mindful About Your Thought Process
Mindfulness brings awareness to the present. Think of this as paying attention to what you pay attention to. When you record your thoughts you’re better able to see patterns. Anxiety is a future-oriented emotion. People who struggle often default to catastrophizing. For example, it’s not a headache causing the pain in-between your ears, but a brain tumor. Or, you cancel social plans because you believe nobody will be interested in your point of view and everyone will think you’re a loser.

Track your thoughts. A common practice of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is recording your thoughts, followed by the subsequent feelings, and how your feelings then inform your actions.
For example:

Thought: If things don’t go as planned, I will be miserable.

Feelings: Hopeless, afraid, worried, unsafe, unmotivated.

Behaviors: Isolating from friends and family, avoidance of activities you formerly enjoyed, refusal to engage in problem-solving.

Here’s an example of a reframed thought:

Thought: Although I don’t like uncertainty and I’m worried about the future, I have agency over how much time and energy I spend worrying.

Feelings: Hopeful, somewhat sad, less worried, and more feelings of being in control.

Behaviors: Asking “Am I being realistic?” Focusing on what's going well in your life, and choosing problem-solving over excessive worrying.

Watch for polarizing language such as “always,” “never,” “complete failure,” “total success,” “everybody,” “nobody,” etc. Instead, find the gray areas. The time you flubbed the work presentation was a moment in time, not an indelible mark on your skillset. The breakup that “came out of nowhere” may be a blessing in disguise in the form of tightening up your relationship boundaries.
Check your control fallacies. This distortion involves believing you are in complete control of every situation, by internal or external means. The fallacy of internal control means you see yourself as responsible for the suffering and happiness of those around you. For example, “I must have done something to upset you. How can I make this right for you?”
When we feel externally controlled, we view ourselves as helpless victims of fate. For example, “The world is such a dangerous and unpredictable place. I can’t trust anyone. I don’t feel safe.”
Scroll social media and news outlets mindfully. Anxious people are wired to look for “proof” that their negative predictions are correct. Pre-emptive worrying, worst-case scenario seeking, and the habit of a “mind full” versus a mindful existence are the culprits. Instead, get comfortable with allowing the truth to unfold. When you let go of your need to know what’s coming, you’ll find things usually work in your favor.

Practice anxiety affirmations when your stress levels rise.

“I have love and support from others.”

“I will not take on the weight of the world.”

“I am a capable problem-solver. I have options.”

“I will let go of those things outside my control.”

“I will inhale the good and exhale the bad energy.”

“Every day I have a choice to practice peace of mind.”

“My track record for overcoming anxiety attacks is 100%.”

Seek Help
Mindfulness and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) are common strategies to reduce anticipatory anxiety. Working with a therapist trained in CBT may help you identify what your anxiety triggers. You can also learn to notice unhealthy thought patterns that distort your view of reality.

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7 Things To Never Do While Raising A Sensitive Child

If your child gets emotionally hurt easily and reacts with strong emotions, chances are that he’s a highly sensitive child. Here’re 7 things to never do while raising a sensitive child.

Children are a bundle of emotions, and some are more sensitive than others, like Vijay.

In her article, ‘Highly Sensitive Children’, published in Early Years Educator (2010), Tania Schmieder says, “High sensitivity is a temperament trait found in 15–20 per cent of babies and young children, which is often misunderstood and mis-diagnosed, and is only recently becoming much better understood.”

So, according to the study, it can be surmised that one in about five children is a highly sensitive child. These children process information more deeply and reflect on issues with greater subtlety. As a result, they also show higher emotional reactivity.

Why are some children highly emotional or overly sensitive?

Individuals who display high levels of sensory processing sensitivity (SPS), measured by the Highly Sensitive Person Scale (HSPS), are considered highly sensitive. But, what exactly is SPS?

Acvedo et al published a study titled, ‘The highly sensitive brain: an MRI study of sensory processing sensitivity and response to others' emotions’, in the journal Brain and Behavior (2014). According to the study, SPS is “associated with enhanced awareness and behavioral readiness to respond to salient environmental stimuli, particularly important social situations.”

Children who have higher levels of SPS have a nervous system that works harder. As a result, they are more alert, observant, able to understand problems better, and empathise and understand others’ feelings. All these qualities also make them highly emotional and prone to becoming overwhelmed or emotionally exhausted.

What causes higher levels of SPS?

Apart from personality traits, it has been found that genes also play a big role in determining how sensitive an individual may be.

According to Todd et al’s study, ‘Neurogenetic Variations in Norepinephrine Availability Enhance Perceptual Vividness’, published in The Journal of Neuroscience (2015), “carriers of the ADRA2b deletion variant showed higher levels of subjectively experienced perceptual vividness for emotionally salient images (EEV) than noncarriers.”

So, highly sensitive individuals are biologically wired to think and react emotionally, irrespective of the culture or the society they are born in.

According to Aron et al’s study, ‘Temperament trait of sensory processing sensitivity moderates cultural differences in neural response’, published in Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience (2010), “individuals high in SPS should be less likely to exhibit cultural differences in a perceptual processing task because they are more likely to be highly attentive to all aspects of a stimulus.”

How can you recognise a highly sensitive child?

Various personality tests are available online to determine if a child is highly sensitive. However, displaying certain behaviours can also be a signal that you have an emotionally sensitive child. Some of them are:

Dislikes surprises

Feels shy and hesitant, especially

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