Faye Quadros- Counselling Services

15/04/2022

One way we lose trust in ourselves is by seeking the approval of others - to the point of reliance. Our self-worth starts to depend on outside validation. This becomes addictive and we quickly start to seek it more and more. This can be extremely overwhelming and exhausting. Most importantly, if not addressed, it manifests as symptoms of anxiety and/or depression.
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The underlying cause for this usually stems from a lack of confidence and self-esteem. When we cannot trust ourselves, we become fearful of the unknown, of failing, and of being rejected. In order to feel confident without requiring the approval of anyone else, we must learn to love ourselves despite our flaws. We must recognize our self-worth. We must believe that we belong and that we matter. ⠀

Take care of your mind and body. Love, Nawal ♥️

14/04/2022

Like many others, I too used to be a parent who said no to screen time for my son Ryan (name changed) when he was a toddler, and I was so proud of it!

However, when Ryan was about a year old, the dreaded pandemic hit, and I had no extra help caring for him while I worked from home full time. I did the inevitable. The TV and smartphone turned into "nannies" at times when I just HAD to work without any interruption.

Read on for more on Rebecca's experience and helpful tips on how to manage screen time for your child with autism! Click here: https://sethu.in/screen-time-2/

07/04/2022

17/03/2022

In Play Therapy, puppet play enables children to project their thoughts, feelings and needs.

Children find it easier to reveal their inner worlds through the medium of a 'third person', - a puppet. Puppets provide a safe psychological distance for a child to express troublesome experiences, thoughts and emotions.

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16/03/2022

When someone we care about is going through a difficult time (e.g., heartbreak, relationship difficulties, a personal crisis), they usually are not looking for advice or a solution. But all we want to do is 'fix' their problem. This might be because it is difficult for us to acknowledge their pain and sit with it.

What helps is to offer support in any capacity you can, such as listening to them vent, asking open-ended questions to help them talk through their thoughts, asking them what they need right now, or helping them do everyday tasks that they might be neglecting.

Also, try to avoid relating their situation to a previous experience you had. This is something I learned when I was training to be a therapist. The reason is that it takes away from them talking about their problem and can feel invalidating. But, at the same time, listening to someone else who went through something similar can be helpful for some, as long as you are careful to not pressure them into advice that worked for you during that time.

What is the best way you feel supported when in a crisis?

Take care of your mind and body. Love, Nawal ♥️

02/03/2022

Reminder 🌸

23/02/2022

Today I wanted to conceptualize how anxiety feels to someone internally vs. what you might see externally. Many of the things people with anxiety do might seem rude on the outside. But, if you can better understand their internal struggles, you might get a better sense of why they may seem hot and cold.

We all experience anxiety to some extent. It is a normal human emotion. However, for some individuals, it can become debilitating. Please be understanding and compassionate with your loved ones who are affected with anxiety.

If you are someone who regularly experiences anxiety, I’d encourage you to openly communicate what you feel inside with your loved-ones so they aren’t left wondering what might be causing you to withdraw, feel irritable, or seek reassurance. You can use the statements on the right as a resource for when you need it by saving this post.

Take care of your mind and body. Love, Nawal ♥️

*please see disclaimer in highlights

21/02/2022

Have you checked in with yourself today?

18/02/2022

Sensory Play is the method by which children in their early years, explore their surroundings.
Sensory play activities aim at stimulating each of the five senses, namely

Sight
Smell
Touch
Sound
Taste

Sensory play activities encourage children to use different methods while completing a task. Activities that involve the use of multiple senses are more engaging in comparison to activities that involve the use of only one of the five senses.

15/02/2022

15/02/2022

Why is a messy room SO triggering?

Here are some of my thoughts on this: Our house being messy brings our body into contact with our circuitry around the topic of “mess” - a visual mess activates all we’ve learned about how ok (or not ok!) it is to be out of control, to have things out of order, to be in the “figurings things out” space.

In other words, a messy room activates our early experiences of “mess”: were we allowed to be messy - emotionally, literally with our stuff, with not having things completed (yet)?

Did our family value linearity and external product or space to figure things out and process? Did we cling to control ourselves because our family of origin felt so out of control and chaotic? Was “being clean” on the outside a way to feel good on the inside?

How many of you feel triggered by mess? What was it like to read this caption and reflect on why it’s so triggering? What did it make you think about or remember or make connections about? Let’s share and come together - so we can learn and grow together.

For more on this topic, check out this week’s podcast episode - available on all major podcast platforms.