The Healing Touch

17/06/2019

16/06/2019

There are many roles a father plays, keeping his family happy, being a responsible son, being a good husband.
Father, dad, papa, baba, Appa, Abu, no matter what you call them,
He is no less than a superhero!
Happy Fathers Day!

14/06/2019

05/05/2019

Dear all
Read the heart touching story, written by Katherine Hepburn, on how the giver is happier much more than the receiver, am sure you will enjoy this heartfelt story, as much as I loved reading this story, thank you FD

Once when I was a teenager, my father and I were standing in line to buy tickets for the circus.

Finally, there was only one other family between us and the ticket counter. This family made a big impression on me.

There were eight children, all probably under the age of 12. The way they were dressed, you could tell they didn't have a lot of money, but their clothes were neat and clean.

The children were well-behaved, all of them standing in line, two-by-two behind their parents, holding hands. They were excitedly jabbering about the clowns, animals, and all the acts they would be seeing that night. By their excitement you could sense they had never been to the circus before. It would be a highlight of their lives.

The father and mother were at the head of the pack standing proud as could be. The mother was holding her husband's hand, looking up at him as if to say, "You're my knight in shining armor." He was smiling and enjoying seeing his family happy.

The ticket lady asked the man how many tickets he wanted? He proudly responded, "I'd like to buy eight children's tickets and two adult tickets, so I can take my family to the circus." The ticket lady stated the price.

The man's wife let go of his hand, her head dropped, the man's lip began to quiver. Then he leaned a little closer and asked, "How much did you say?" The ticket lady again stated the price.

The man didn't have enough money. How was he supposed to turn and tell his eight kids that he didn't have enough money to take them to the circus?

Seeing what was going on, my dad reached into his pocket, pulled out a $20 bill, and then dropped it on the ground. (We were not wealthy in any sense of the word!) My father bent down, picked up the $20 bill, tapped the man on the shoulder and said, "Excuse me, sir, this fell out of your pocket."

The man understood what was going on. He wasn't begging for a handout but certainly appreciated the help in a desperate, heartbreaking and embarrassing situation.

He looked straight into my dad's eyes, took my dad's hand in both of his, squeezed tightly onto the $20 bill, and with his lip quivering and a tear streaming down his cheek, he replied; "Thank you, thank you, sir. This really means a lot to me and my family."

My father and I went back to our car and drove home. The $20 that my dad gave away is what we were going to buy our own tickets with.

Although we didn't get to see the circus that night, we both felt a joy inside us that was far greater than seeing the circus could ever provide.

*That day I learnt the value to Give.*

*The Giver is bigger than the Receiver.*

*If you want to be large, larger than the life, learn to Give.*

*Only if you Give can you Receive more. The Givers heart becomes the Ocean, in tune with the Almighty - The Source*

*Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything.*

06/04/2019

Settle Down?!?

The whole concept of 'settling down' is misleading. We think we will settle down after finishing our studies (seriously?) maybe after marriage (nope), then we think we might settle down after being successful (doesn't happen), certainly after having kids(do we?), ok after the kids grow up, (absolutely not).
Life is not meant to settle down, life is meant to struggle, to explore, to wander. to love, to lose, to learn, to unlearn, to fail, to rebel, to live.

Even our ashes don‘t settle, they fly away in all directions."🙏🏼

Worth a share 😍😍😍

30/03/2019

*BODY TALKS, ....Pay attention .....

13 Types Of Pain That Are Directly Linked To The Emotional States*

DIS-EASE (I AM NOT AT EASE) is just an emotional state of mind. Chronic pain is not only caused by physical injury, but also caused by stress and emotional issues.

Let’s take a look at what pain in a particular area of your body indicates and how to self heal ourselves:

*1.Head*
Headaches (little or chronic) can be caused by invalidating the self.Self-criticism. Fear.
Self-Heal : Do left nostril breathing (Chandra nadi).
Inhale-Exhale through left nostril 2 sets of 10 counts twice a day.

*2.Neck*
Neck pain represents inflexibility & stubbornness.
Self-Heal : Rotate the neck clock - anticlockwise 50 times.

*3. Shoulders*
Pain in the shoulders indicate that the person carries a heavy emotional burden. Shoulders carry everything.
Self-Heal : Rotate the shoulders clock-anticlockwise for 50 times.

*4.Upper Back*
Upper back pain manifests lack of emotional support. Holding back feelings or doesn’t feel appreciated or loved.
Self-Heal : Place the hand in Namaste position in the centre of the chest, thumbs touching the chest. Apply pressure with the thumbs to the chest and exhale through the mouth.Do it 20 times.

*5.Lower Back*
Pain in the lower back indicates fear of money, lack of financial support.
Self-Heal : Do visualisation meditation (imagine yourself) counting a bundle of notes. Do it daily.(Fake it till you make it).

*6.Elbows*
Elbows and arms signify a lack of capacity & ability to hold the experiences of life. Resisting change of directions and acceptance.
Self-Heal : Just wrap your hands around yourself as if hugging your own self and say this to yourself..
"I trust, love, accept, approve and forgive myself." As many times as possible everyday.

*7.Hands*
Pain in the hands may be caused by all ways of dealing with hold & handle, clutch & grip, grasping & letting go.
Self-Heal : Hold a pen/pencil tightly in your hand (image that the object (pen/pencil) is the xyz situation of ones life) then when ready to "Release" the situation just throw the pen/pencil with full force & free yourself.

*8. Abdomen*
Undigested thoughts.
Self-Heal : Place your hands on the belly button(navel) & do 4-4-4-4 count breathing.
4 count Inhale
4 count Hold
4 count Exhale
4 count Hold.
Do it as long as comfortable.

*9.Hips*
Major thrust in moving forward.
Self-Heal : Sit on the floor placing the legs straight try walking lifting the hips.Walk 25 steps forward & 25 steps backwards.

*10.Knees*
Pain in the knee is a sign of pride & ego.
Self-Heal : Lie down on the floor, place the left ankle over the right knee & move the right knee up & down for 5 minutes. Then do the same with right ankle placing it above the left knee for 5 minutes.

*11.Calves*
Calf pain is caused by stress, emotional tension.
Self-Heal : Press the tender point 20 times located exactly in the centre of the calf(behind). Twice daily.

*12.Ankles*
Pain in ankles mean lack of ability to receive pleasure.
Self-Heal : Lie down on the floor, legs slightly apart & rotate the ankles clock-anticlockwise 50 times.

*13.Feet*
Feet pain represnts our lack of ability to understandable one self, life or others.
Self-Heal : Take a tennis ball & place it under the feet & roll on it. Can do it while sitting or standing.

Do these exercises & observe self.. Lets help the body heal itself automatically.

90% SICKNESSES are Psychosomatic.

25/03/2019

Here is a buffet spread for a meaningful lifestyle - the choice is yours.

*Starters: (pick any 2)*

1. Get up early (you can accomplish 20% more from 5 am to 8 am)
2. Exercise at least for 30 minutes daily (you have no choice on this)
3. Meditate /pray/ visualize positive things/do yoga for 30 minutes every day.

*Main course (pick any 4)*

1) Invest in best clothes you can afford-along with good shoes (It has been proved, that better-dressed people appeal 15 % more-all things being equal)
2) Outsource everything, which is not your core competence.
3) Reduce your mobile time by 30 % (Mobile phones are the biggest time waster)
4) At least take one bold decision, which you were always scared to take. (No one wants to die with regrets- do you?)
5) Train your brain to think creatively every day. Try to do different things to exercise your brain muscles- play some sport, go to new restaurants, visit the zoo, listen to different music, watch kids playing, spend time with senior citizens.

*Desserts (pick all)*

1. Take at least 2 vacations in a year.
2. Devote at least one day a week for family n friends.
3. Learn a new hobby.
4. Smile at all possible times.
5. Watch one movie in a cinema hall/ play in the auditorium every month (it is therapy for the soul)
6. Read at least 12 books in a year. ( 1 every month )
7. Start picking n completing things undone. Discard unwanted & unused stuff from your house and your mind.
8. Get in touch with one old friend whom you have not spoken for years.
9. Laugh often.

*Have an Awesome Life !!*

👍🏻👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻💐💐💛💛

13/03/2019

*LAWS OF NATURE*

*The food we eat, has to be digested and then thrown out of body in 24 hours, else we will fall ill.*
*The water we drink, gets in our body and is thrown out in 4 hours, else we will fall ill.*
*The air we breathe, has to be thrown out in 1 minute, else we will die.*

*What about negative emotions like hatred, anger, jealousy, insecurity ... we hold in our body for days, months and years.*
*If these negative emotions are not thrown out regularly it props up into psycho-somatic diseases.*
*Meditation, prayers and above all an attitude of goodwill are safest way to dissolve these emotions.*

*Worth sharing*

09/03/2019

Loved this Message

If you want to be the queen of your husband's house, *let him be the king.*

Don't raise your daughters like your sons. Womanhood has it's own beauty.

If you are the princess of your father, your man is also the prince of his parents. So don't expect him to *tolerate all your stupidities.*

Work hard, lift weight, do your tasks alone, gain knowledge about more and more fields, walk alone with confidence and push your limits. *Don't beg for the equality, establish it.*

It's not always the men's duty to leave seat for a senior citizen. If you can tolerate menstruation and pregnancy then traveling uncomfortably becomes a small thing.

*Don't create a hell* for other women around you. Love your mother-in-law and treat your daughters-in-law like your own daughters.

Don't label a woman with simple clothes as *'behenji’.* Western clothes don't make you superior.

If wearing shorts is a choice then wearing *Burqa/Saree/Hijab/Salwar* *suit can also be a choice*. Stop judging others by looking at their appearance.

You are strong enough to hold your bags and walk in a sunny day. Don't behave like a *touch-me-not.*

If you can earn money then you can spend it too. Don't depend on your husband or boyfriend to pay all your bills.
*He is not an ATM.*

Your knowledge of brands doesn't make you modern, but your education does.

Fair skin is not a privilege but the intellect is.

Rather than being a wife of some rich man, you can be a sportsperson, a writer, a doctor, an engineer, businesswoman and what not!

Lastly,
Boldness is more beautiful than the beauty. So be strong, be bold!

For all the women

03/03/2019

*Care or control ??*

I was in a a consultation with a middle age couple.They started fighting right in front of me. The upset husband said- See doc....I 'care' so much for her & this is what I get in return..To which the fuming wife replied- He doesn't care...he just 'controls'...!

The care from one person was perceived as control by another !

Made me think...what is care and what is control?? How to identify them??

Soon I received the answer.

I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue...Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears...😪
After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other...My daughter hugged me
and said-Papa ,you know why you got upset? You were not upset because I did wrong..but u were upset because I didnt follow your instructions....there is a big difference..!

I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern. ..I received my answer too... I was trying to control her under the disguise of care...that caused the conflict ....

If I really 'care' for someone , I will not get upset or angry with that person...I will keep searching different ways to help him..

If I am struggling in any relationship...I need to closely observe if there is any subtle control hidden behind my apparent care...because

Care is an expression of love while control is an expression of ego...

Control cuts...Care connects ...

Control hurts...Care heals...

Keep caring for people but dont control them ... because

Often people are not wrong...
they are just 'different'...

Keep caring... 😊

12/02/2019

*Die empty*

One of the most beautiful article that I have read in the book called "Die Empty" by Todd Henry.
The author was inspired and got this idea of writing ​​this book while attending a business meeting when the director asked the audience: "Where is the richest land in the world ?"

One of the audience answered: "Oil-rich Gulf states."
Another added: "Diamond mines in Africa."
Then the director said: "No. It is the cemetery. Yes, it is the richest land in the world, because millions of people have departed from it, _'they have died'_ and they carry many *valuable ideas* that did not come out of the light and benefited others. It is all in the cemetery where they were buried."

Inspired by this answer, Todd Henry wrote his wonderful book "Die empty" where he did his best to motivate people to pour out their ideas and potential energies in their communities and turn them into something useful before it is too late.

The most beautiful of what he said in his book is that: *"Do not go to your grave and you carry inside you the best that you have, always choose to die empty."*

Die empty is a new expression and unique on its own way. At first glance you will think it is normal.

But I was surprised to know the true meaning of this new expression.
It is to die empty of all the goodness that is within you. Deliver it before you leave this world.

If you have an idea perform it.

If you have a knowledge give it out.

If you have a goal achieve it.

Love, share and distribute, do not keep it inside.

Do not keep the goodness inside of you, and die full of ideas and be a delicious meal for the earthworms in the grave.

Most of us live with the stubborn idea that we will always have tomorrow. But sooner or later all of our tomorrows will run out.

Are you empty?
I think we all weigh thousands of tons of goodness, creativity, love and hope that we can give.

We have not given all of it, except a little.

How I wish that we start the race to give and remove every atom of goodness inside us. We should learn how to find and sustain our passion and creativity, even in tough times.