18/07/2013
TACKLING THE NOTORIOUS PICKY EATERS !
CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW SMART KIDS CAN BE...WE GIVE THEM NOODLES WITH VEGGIES ......BUT SMART THAT THEY ARE...THEY SEPARATE THE NOODLES FROM THE VEGGIES WITH EASE....AND THIS IS THE SIGHT AT THE END OF THE MEAL :
NOODLES IN THE TUMMY.....YUMMY , YUMMY!
NO HUNGER FOR THE VEGGIES...MOMMIE!
HERE'S THE SOLUTION.....
Most toddlers go through a phase of only eating a very narrow range of foods. This is a normal part of toddler development called food neophobia - being frightened of new foods. Your toddler needs time to learn that these foods are safe to eat and enjoyable. She will learn this by watching you and others eating those foods. Eventually she will widen the variety of foods she eats but some take much longer than others to do this. To help her on her way, and to keep your sanity, follow these tips:
Eat with your child as often as possible. Toddlers learn to eat foods they are unfamiliar with by watching and copying their parents and other children eating them.
Make positive comments about the food you are eating. Parents are strong role models and if you make positive comments about foods, your toddler will be more willing to try them.
Arrange for your toddler to eat with other toddlers as often as possible. Invite a friend from her playschool or neighbourhood over for some snacks. Your toddler may eat better when she is with her own age group.
Develop a daily routine of three meals and two to three snacks around your toddler's daytime sleep pattern and try to stick to it. Toddlers thrive on routine and knowing what to expect. She won't eat well if she becomes over-hungry, and toddlers who are tired will be too miserable to eat. Don't expect her to eat a large meal just before going to bed. Give her a small snack or drink and save her proper meal until later, after she has woken up.
Offer two courses at mealtimes: a savoury course followed by a sweet course. The savoury course itself can consist of different items, say a small puri with potato and some rice with dal. For the sweet course, try kheer or halwa if she hasn’t eaten any cereal in the savoury course, otherwise choose fruit based desserts. Toddlers often get bored with too much of one taste and will be ready to try something new. Two courses also give your toddler two opportunities to take in the calories and nutrients needed and means there is a wider variety of foods at each meal.
Limit mealtimes to about 20 - 30 minutes and accept that after this your toddler is unlikely to eat much more. It is better to wait for the next snack or meal and offer some nutritious foods then, rather than extending a meal for an hour trying to persuade your toddler to eat more. Most toddlers eat whatever they are going to in the first 20 minutes.
Praise your toddler when she eats well because toddlers respond positively topraise. If you only give her attention when she is not eating, she may refuse food just to get some attention from you. Toddlers like attention, even if it is negative. If she doesn't eat well, take the uneaten food away without commenting and accept that she has had enough.
Give small portions. Toddlers can be overwhelmed by large portions and lose their appetite. If the small portion is finished, praise your toddler and offer her some more. Offer her a second serving if she asks for one or seems eager to eat more. Typically serving sizes should be one fourth that of adults.
Offer finger foods as often as possible and allow your toddler to make a mess at mealtimes. Toddlers enjoy having the control of feeding themselves with finger foods. Let her try to feed herself with a small fork or spoon if she wants.
Eat in a calm relaxed environment away from distractions such as the TV, games and toys. Toddlers can concentrate on one thing at a time so distractions make it more difficult for them to concentrate on eating. While a change once in a while helps, constantly trying to distract your toddler by carrying her around the house or to the window or door while feeding her, may make mealtimes seem like a different kind of play time.
Be aware that if you are eating out, your toddler may not be prepared to try any of the food on offer, as it may all be unfamiliar to her. Take something that she will eat with you to tide her over until her next meal or snack. Packing a small chapatti with cheese spread, a banana or a tomato sandwich in a favourite lunchbox might make it easier for her to eat in unfamiliar surroundings.
Involve older toddlers in food shopping and preparing for the meal such as putting things on the table. This will encourage a positive attitude to food and mealtimes.
Involve your toddler in simple cooking and food preparation (if you have the time and patience) – give her a ball of chapatti dough to roll and flatten or pick out some pea pods for her to shell. By handling and touching new foods without pressure to eat them, your toddler will become familiar with new foods and may be more likely to try them.
Change the venue of your toddler's meals. For example, have a picnic outside. This will make eating a fun experience for your toddler and will allow them to see others enjoying food.
What shouldn't you do?
Don't rush a meal. Some toddlers eat slowly and rushing your toddler to eat can reduce her appetite.
Don't pressure a toddler to eat more when she has indicated to you that she has had enough. Never insist she finishes everything on her plate.
Don't take away a refused meal and offer a completely different one in its place. A toddler will soon take advantage if you do. In the long run it is always better to offer family meals and accept that your child will prefer some foods to others. Always try to offer one food at each meal that you know she will eat.
Don't offer the sweet course as a reward for eating the first course. You will make the sweet course seem more desirable than the savoury one.
Don’t punish your child for refusing to eat. She may start disliking food in the long run.
Don’t bribe and reward your child to finish up her meal. She will expect something in return each time she finishes her meal.
Don't offer large drinks of milk, squash, fizzy drinks or fruit juice within an hour of the meal. Large drinks will reduce your toddler's appetite. If she is thirsty, give her a drink of water instead. Try to phase out bottles so that all your toddler's drinks, including milk, are given in cups or glasses.
Don't offer snacks just before or just after a meal. Don't give a snack soon after a meal if your toddler hasn't eaten well at her main meal. It is tempting to do this just to ensure that your toddler has eaten something. However, it is best to have a set meal pattern and wait until the next snack or meal before offering food again.
Don't assume that because your toddler has refused a food she will never eat it again. Tastes change with time. Some toddlers need to be offered a new food more than 10 times before they feel confident to try it. Or try a different way of preparing food; if she doesn’t take to paneer cubes try grating them into stuffed parathas, she might prefer boiled chickpeas chaat (kabuli chana chaat) instead of chana masala gravy.
Don’t have varied routines and patterns while feeding your toddler. Be consistent – if you have more than one person taking care of meals for your toddler, make sure that everyone follows the same routine and sets similar limits. Mealtimes which vary from grandparents or a baby sitter to parents will only confuse your toddler.
Finally, don't feel guilty if one meal turns into a disaster. Put it behind you and approach the
next meal positively. Parents also learn by making mistakes
