29/03/2026
In our last post we mentioned how perfectionism makes it harder to get to our goals.
Perfectionism is often shaped by social, cultural and systemic pressures. Over time, these external pressures can become internal beliefs. When these standards become internalised, we may begin to monitor and criticise ourselves constantly, even when no one else is demanding it in that moment.
Gloria Steinem reminds us that people, especially those in marginalized groups are often pressured to perform flawlessly in order to be accepted or taken seriously. Internalised oppression occurs when the expectations imposed by larger systems begin to shape how we treat ourselves. When these external pressures become internal standards, people begin to police themselves, striving for impossible perfection.
Understanding this can be liberating because it shifts the conversation away from personal inadequacy and toward compassion and awareness.