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22/03/2023

There are a lot of misconceptions about how s*xual desire works which might arise certain concerns and issues in one’s s*xual life.

Responsive desire and spontaneous desire are two different models of s*xual desire.

Spontaneous desire is often referred to as "intrinsic" or "drive" desire, and refers to the experience of feeling a spontaneous, unprovoked urge to engage in s*xual activity. People who experience spontaneous desire may find that they become aroused simply by thinking about s*x or being in a s*xually suggestive environment.

In contrast, responsive desire refers to the experience of feeling desire in response to s*xual stimuli or intimacy. People who experience responsive desire may not feel a spontaneous urge to engage in s*xual activity, but can become aroused and interested in s*x through physical touch, emotional connection, or other s*xual cues.

It's important to note that both models of s*xual desire are normal and natural, and people can experience both types of desire at different times or in different situations.

The idea of responsive desire was developed to help explain the experience of many women who may not experience spontaneous desire but still enjoy and desire s*xual intimacy.

Ultimately, the essential thing is to understand your own patterns of s*xual desire and to communicate openly with your partner about your needs and preferences.

What type of desire have you experienced lately? Go to my stories to vote😊

20/03/2023

Achieving an or**sm during in*******se can be a complex and individual process for women, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer.

However, here are some general tips that may be helpful:

1. Engage in foreplay: Foreplay, such as kissing, touching, and oral s*x, can help women become more relaxed, aroused, and ready for in*******se.

2. Communicate with your partner: Communication with your partner is key to achieving an or**sm. Let your partner know what you like and don't like, what feels good, and what doesn't.

3. Experiment with different positions: Certain positions may be more stimulating than others. Try different positions and angles to find what works best for you.

4. Use a vi****or: Incorporating a vi****or during in*******se or foreplay can provide extra stimulation and increase the chances of achieving an or**sm.

5. Focus on cl****al stimulation: Many women require cl****al stimulation to achieve an or**sm. Try incorporating cl****al stimulation during in*******se, either manually or with a vi****or.

6. Relax and let go: Achieving an or**sm requires relaxation and letting go of any tension or anxiety. Try to focus on the sensations in your body and let yourself get lost in the moment.

Remember, every woman is different, and what works for one may not work for another. It's important to explore your own body and communicate with your partner to find what works best for you.

13/04/2022

“….Let me give you an example. Imagine a bow in front of you and your goal is to shoot the arrow as far as possible. In order to successfully achieve this goal, you need to draw the string of the bow so hard until you feel enough tension on the bow. The stronger you draw the string, the more likely your arrow will hit the aim.

Now let's compare it to the foreplay. We need to draw the string of play and temptation, creating seductive erotic mental tension until we feel enough s*xual tension in our bodies. The stronger the tension, the greater the likelihood of having more amazing s*x and experiencing more pleasure….”

//from my new e-book “15 foreplay ideas to make your s*x life great again”//

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18/02/2022

Let’s talk about self-kindness/self-compassion as the antidote to self-criticism and self-judgement concerning your body image or any s*xual functioning issues.
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First, let me start with reminding you that beating yourself up for any of these issues just create more space for stress and unhealthy patterns.
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Kristin Neff, researcher, educator and author of the book “Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind” talks about self-compassion’s three key elements:
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1. “Self-kindness is our ability to treat ourselves gently and with caring.
2. Common humanity is viewing our suffering as something that connects us with others, rather than separates us.
3. Mindfulness is being nonjudgmental about whatever is happening in the present moment.”
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Self-compassion doesn’t mean that you would miraculously stop feeling all the unpleasant emotions, it just means that when you do feel them you treat yourself with kindness and care.
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Here is a great exercise for you.
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Try to list all the critical thoughts and feelings you have when you beat yourself up around your body image, intimate relationships or s*xual functioning and write them down, describing your situation and concerns.
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Then picture your best friend describing that situation to you and write their name at the top of the page. Now imagine that you are in your most empathetic, compassionate and kind state and write to them all the things that you think they need to hear to feel better.
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Now reread it to yourself and check what has changed within you.
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Do this exercise regularly.
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Remember, try to avoid telling yourself hurtful things. Treat yourself as the person you love and care about the most.
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On the scale from 1 to 10 where 1 is the lowest, how kind to yourself are you feeling right now?
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16/02/2022

We aren’t born with the innate self-criticism hating and judging our body.
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We are involuntarily learning this from our caregivers, culture and society. From the moment of our birth till we hit puberty we have zero control over what destructive, self-shaming and self-criticising messages are being planted in us.
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We trust our bodies less than the messages that the media and culture spread out there about our inadequacy about how we look, how much we weight, how s*xy or normal we are.
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Self-criticism and hurtful self-judgements about your body negatively affect your s*xual well-being. They reduce s*xual desire, mess up with your arousal, prevent achieving or**sms and enjoying your s*xual life.
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The destructive thoughts and feelings that you have about your body can be so deeply planted into you that you might not even recognise them in the moment. Those subtle voices inside of your head can be so habitual that you might feel very certain that it’s how it should be.
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Other people “justify” the benefits of self-criticism saying that without it they aren’t motivated enough to become better.
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But, guess, what?
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Self-criticism is just another type of stress. Our mind perceives all the negative self-judgements as a threat and our body reacts to that with the spike of stress hormone levels which for the majority people especially women push the brakes of s*xual excitation system.
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Solution: Try self-kindness instead of self-criticism.
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Easier said than done, I know.
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Leave ❤️ in the comments if you’d like to learn more about evidence-based ways for changing patterns of self-criticism.
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26/01/2022

The more you are focused on having an orga⚡️sm the less chances there are that it will happen.
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Almost every woman has experienced the internal pressure from “I must come” anxious thoughts either several times in her life or feels it on a regular basis.
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Even if we have never been told directly or hinted by our partners it is still there. Why?
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Well, there are several reasons, some of them are: the lack of comprehensive s*xual pleasure-focused education, the wrong portraying of s*x in movies, p**n, and also the society’s long-lasting “obsession” around p***s in va**na in*******se. That brings us to some unrealistic, idealistic, ignorant understanding of what “normal s*x” should look, be, and feel like, and what is “expected” from s*xual partners.
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This race for the imaginary “normal s*x” brings us further away from actually turning our s*xual experience into something pleasurable, relaxing, motivating and inspiring.
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So, repeat after me, my lovely ladies:
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“I’m not obliged to come during s*x!
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“I am ok, nothing is wrong with me if I don’t come during s*x.
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I don’t have to climax simultaneously with my partner.
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I’m ok if it takes me longer than my partner to come.
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If I don’t come at all, that’s absolutely normal. I am having s*x because I want to explore and feel pleasure together with my partner.”
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Remember, thinking about coming is what keeps you from coming.
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Create your new perspective on s*x🥰

01/01/2022

Happy New Year, lovers!
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May we all learn how to make love to life in the most authentic, primal, unique, festive way!
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May we all nurture our hearts and bodies with more love, pleasure, care and self-compassion in 2022!❤️

28/12/2021

Today I’ve become an official Allied Professional Member of World Association of S*x Coaches!
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I am beyond excited to be a part of this amazing worldwide community of professionals in the field of S*xology.
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A huge thank you for this amazing opportunity to my wonderful teacher Nastya Mikheeva **na_guru.
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Here’s to this coming year of new profound s*xological knowledge, expansion of professionalism and networking connections with other s*xology experts around the world!🎆

13/12/2021

I used to give my pleasure into the hands of my partners. And when I didn’t receive what I wanted I felt anger, resentment and disappointment.
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But then I understood a simple yet complex thing: No one is responsible for my or**sms & pleasure but me. This is my zone of responsibility. To communicate what and how I want is also my zone of responsibility. To endure, manage my feelings and contain sometimes an unpleasant reaction from a partner when you convey what you need is also a skill to learn.
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We are used to blame someone for our issues and struggles. This way we put responsibility on someone else. This way we don’t need to learn something new or change. We are waiting for some miracle that will change our state of s*xual life without any effort from our side. Or we wait for a perfect lover who will discover all our magic buttons and will bring us mind blowing or**sms & pleasure. That’s why we tend to fall into a codependent trap.
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Change is unknown. It scares us a lot. To put some effort for this change to happen is even scarier.
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There can be lot of resistance on the way. Even to admit that you are responsible for your s*xual life takes courage and time.
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So majority of people consider only two choices: to leave everything as it is or change a partner.
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I am offering you the third option: get to know yourself & your body more, study your s*xual responses, needs, desires, increase your body sensitivity, fall in love with pleasure, learn how to communicate with a partner. And from that space try to transform your s*xual life.
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I am happy to be your guide on this journey. Send me a PM if you are tired to leave things as they are and pretend that everything is ok.

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