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14/02/2026

San Valentino: l’amore è raro. Il resto sono incastri.

L’amore vero è raro.
Molto più raro di quanto vogliamo ammettere.

Spesso chiamiamo amore ciò che in realtà è bisogno, paura di restare soli, attaccamento.
Due solitudini che si aggrappano non fanno automaticamente una relazione sana.

L’amore vero non ti mette in ansia.
Non ti fa dubitare costantemente del tuo valore.
È stabilità, scelta consapevole, libertà emotiva.

Questo San Valentino chiediti: stai vivendo l'amore… o stai ripetendo uno schema?

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🇬🇧 Valentine’s Day: Love is rare. The rest are just patterns fitting together.

True love is rare.
Much rarer than we want to admit.

What we see around us is almost never love.
It’s need.
It’s fear of being alone.
It’s the search for validation.

Two lonely people clinging to each other
do not automatically create love.

Many relationships are born from wounds that recognize each other.
From insecurities that lock together.
From patterns that keep repeating.

You call it chemistry.
You call it destiny.
But often, it’s attachment.

True love doesn’t make you anxious.
It doesn’t make you feel unsafe.
It doesn’t force you to constantly prove your worth.

True love is stable.
It is a conscious choice.
It is emotional freedom.

This Valentine’s Day, ask yourself:
Am I living love…
or am I just repeating a pattern I already know?

Because until you heal what drives your choices,
you will keep calling love
what love is not.

13/02/2026

L’autostima non si costruisce con le parole.

Si costruisce quando smetti di tradire le promesse che fai a te stesso.

Ogni scusa che ti racconti abbassa la fiducia che hai in te.
Ogni azione coerente la ricostruisce.

Se vuoi smettere di continuare a raccontarti scuse, contattami.

🇬🇧 Your self-esteem is the result of the excuses you stop telling yourself

Do you want to know why your self-esteem is low?

Because you keep betraying yourself.

You promise you’ll change.
That you’ll start.
That you’ll respect yourself.
That you’ll say no.

And then you don’t.

Every time you postpone,
every time you justify yourself,
every time you choose comfort over growth,
you’re sending a very clear message to your brain:

“I’m not worth real commitment.”

Self-esteem doesn’t collapse in one day.
It collapses every time you don’t keep your word to yourself.

It’s not bad luck.
It’s not random insecurity.
It’s repeated inconsistency.

Want to feel strong?
Do hard things.
And do them even when you don’t feel like it.

Self-esteem is not built through positive affirmations.
It’s built when you become reliable.
To yourself.

Because in the end,
you don’t trust people who talk well.
You trust people who follow through.

And until you become that person for yourself,
you’ll keep looking outside
for the security you can only build within.

12/02/2026

L’autostima non nasce dalle parole, ma dai risultati.
Ogni obiettivo raggiunto rafforza la fiducia in te stesso e ti dimostra che puoi contare su di te.

Se vuoi sapere come raggiungere i tuoi obiettivi, contattami!

🇬🇧 Achieving your goals builds self-esteem

Self-confidence doesn’t happen by chance.
It comes from seeing, in concrete terms, what you are capable of accomplishing.

Goals are not just boxes to tick.
They are concrete proof of what you can do,
of the value of your commitment and determination.

Of course, there will be slowdowns.
There will be detours, obstacles, unexpected challenges.
But the only thing that truly matters
is not losing focus on the final destination: achieving your goal.

Every step, even a small one, that brings you closer to what you set for yourself
strengthens your self-esteem.
It tells you: “I can do this. I can rely on myself.”

Real self-esteem is not an idea.
It is the tangible result of what you accomplish.

So choose a goal.
Stay focused.
And see it through to the end.

29/01/2026

L’empatia è una risorsa potente, ma senza confini può diventare una ferita.
Non tutti gli ambienti sono sicuri per chi assorbe molto.
Proteggerti non è egoismo: è autoregolazione.

Se sei empatico e senti il bisogno di ritrovare equilibrio, chiarezza e confini, contattami.
Possiamo lavorarci insieme.

🇬🇧 If you’re empathetic, solitude is a survival measure

Not every environment is made for you.
Not every person is safe.

Empaths absorb.
Moods, tension, unspoken emotions.
Even when they don’t want to.

In hostile, negative, manipulative environments,
this openness is not a gift.
It’s constant exposure.

Narcissistic attacks,
subtle devaluation,
emotional confusion
wear you down slowly.

You don’t notice it right away.
You notice it when you’re exhausted,
when you start doubting yourself,
when you no longer recognize who you are.

And no, it’s not “hypersensitivity.”
It’s your emotional system under attack.

That’s why, sometimes,
empaths need to be alone.

Not to shut down.
Not to isolate.
But to protect themselves.

Solitude is what allows you to clear the noise,
restore order,
and regain clarity and boundaries.

Protecting yourself is not selfish.
It’s self-regulation.

Because if you don’t learn how to do it,
someone else will use your empathy against you.

If you’re an empath and feel the need to learn
how to manage your inner world,
how to protect yourself without shutting down,
contact me.
We can work through this together.

26/01/2026

L’empatia è una forza, ma senza confini può diventare una vulnerabilità.
Capire non significa giustificare. Amare non significa sopportare.
Proteggere te stesso è parte della tua crescita.

Se ti riconosci in queste dinamiche e senti di aver subito attacchi narcisistici, contattami.
Possiamo lavorarci insieme.

🇬🇧 If you’re empathetic, be careful: not everyone deserves your heart

“If you’re an empathetic person, this is important for you to know.”

Being empathetic means feeling deeply,
understanding others,
giving second chances.

But today there’s a real risk:
empathetic people are often the ideal target
for narcissistic and manipulative personalities.

Not because you’re weak,
but because you can see the pain behind people’s behavior.

The problem is that
those who manipulate use empathy against you:
they make you feel responsible,
they confuse you,
they lead you to believe that if you love more, they will heal.

But empathy without boundaries
turns into self-abandonment.

Understanding does not mean justifying.
Loving does not mean enduring.

If you’re empathetic,
the most important work
is not saving the other person,
but protecting yourself.

And if you feel you’ve been subjected to narcissistic attacks,
if you recognize yourself in these dynamics,
contact me.

We can work through this together.

22/01/2026

Le vittime non “impazziscono”. Vengono fatte crollare.
Il gaslighting confonde, logora e sposta la colpa su chi subisce.
Il crollo non è la causa dell’abuso, è una conseguenza.

Se ti riconosci in queste dinamiche e senti di aver bisogno di aiuto, contattami.
Ti aiuterò a uscire dalla spirale pericolosa in cui il manipolatore ti ha fatto entrare.

🇬🇧 Abusers break victims down and then label them as “crazy”

There is something that is often not said about abuse.
The victim does not “lose their mind” on their own.

First, they are provoked.
Belittled.
Confused.
Pushed to their limit.

The abuser acts repeatedly
to make the victim doubt themselves,
their emotions,
their own perceptions.

Then, when the person breaks down,
when they react,
when they are exhausted…
the label appears: unstable, crazy, overly emotional.

This has a precise name: gaslighting.

It means lying in the face of evidence.
Denying things that clearly happened.
Saying “you made it up”
while the proof is right there.

This is how the focus shifts:
no longer on what was done,
but on how the victim reacts.

And in this way,
the abuser tries to absolve themselves
and destroy the other person’s credibility.

It’s important to say this clearly:
the breakdown is not the cause of the abuse —
it is a consequence.

Giving a name to these dynamics
is the first step to getting out.

If you recognize yourself in all of this,
I can help you understand what is happening
and get out of the dangerous spiral
the manipulator has drawn you into.

19/01/2026

L’abuso non è mai solo individuale.
Non è solo l’atto di una persona, ma spesso una dinamica che coinvolge silenzi, minimizzazioni e spostamenti di colpa.

Anche chi guarda e tace contribuisce a mantenere il trauma.
E va detto con chiarezza: la responsabilità non è mai di chi subisce.

Se questa esperienza ti riguarda da vicino e senti di aver bisogno di aiuto, contattami.
Non devi affrontarlo da sola.

🇬🇧 “Abuse is never only individual”

“When we talk about abuse, we often think of just one person.”
The one who hits.
The one who humiliates.
The one who controls.

But in reality, abuse is rarely only individual.
It is often a group dynamic.

There is the person who commits the abuse.
But there are also
those who see and stay silent,
those who minimize,
those who say “it’s not that bad,”
those who shift the blame onto the victim.

And that is where the trauma intensifies.

Because those who experience abuse
do not suffer only from what happened,
but from not being believed, protected, or defended.

Silence, denial, and normalization
are part of the abuse just as much as the act itself.

It’s important to say this clearly:
responsibility is never on the person who is abused.

And if this dynamic feels close to your own experience,
if you feel you need help, contact me.
You don’t have to face this alone.

15/01/2026

“Io sono fatto così” a volte non è identità, ma una difesa.
Non è carattere: è una ferita che ha imparato a proteggersi.
Lavorare su di sé non significa cambiare chi sei,
ma smettere di confondere una ferita con il tuo vero sé.

👉 Se senti che è il momento di lavorare su questo, contattami.

🇬🇧 “That’s just how I am” (when a wound becomes a defense)

When someone says:
“That’s just how I am.”

It often sounds like a description.
In reality, it’s a defense.

It’s not personality.
It’s a wound that learned how to survive.

Saying “that’s just how I am”
sometimes means:
“I don’t know how to be different,”
or
“I’m afraid to look at what hurt me.”

So control becomes safety.
Distance becomes protection.
Hardness becomes strength.

But when a wound is mistaken for identity,
it enters the relationship
and begins to hurt the other person.

Not out of cruelty.
Out of automatic survival.

Working on yourself
doesn’t mean stopping being who you are.
It means stopping calling “me”
something that is actually just a wound.

12/01/2026

Chi non cura le proprie ferite, finisce per ferire.
Non per cattiveria, ma perché il dolore non elaborato prende il controllo: diventa insicurezza, gelosia, distanza… a volte anche tradimento.

Lavorare su di sé non è solo crescita personale.
È una responsabilità nelle relazioni.
Per non distruggere ciò che si ama.

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🇬🇧 Those who don’t heal their wounds end up hurting others

Have you ever noticed when you enter a relationship
while carrying an unresolved wound or trauma inside?

At first, everything seems fine.
Then insecurities show up.
The fear of not being enough.
The constant need for reassuranc

And that wound starts speaking instead of you.

It turns into jealousy.
It turns into control.
It turns into emotional distance.
Sometimes it even turns into cheating, just to feel chosen.

Not because you don’t love,
but because you don’t feel enough.

This is the problem:
if you don’t work on that wound,
sooner or later the relationship will pay the price.

Because unaddressed pain
doesn’t stay inside —
it ends up hurting the person next to you.

Working on yourself isn’t only about feeling better.
It’s about not destroying what you love.

03/01/2026

C’è un tempo per lasciare andare e uno per rinascere. 🌱
Salutiamo il 2025 con gratitudine, chiudiamo ciò che non ci appartiene più e apriamoci al 2026 con maggiore consapevolezza, gentilezza e verità.
Ogni nuovo inizio nasce da uno spazio liberato. ✨

🇬🇧

As we leave 2025 behind, it’s important to allow ourselves a moment of presence and deep listening. This year has tested us, teaching us something about who we are, what we want, and—most importantly—what no longer serves us. Every experience, even the most difficult ones, has had meaning along our journey.

This is the time to close cycles: to let go of relationships, habits, thoughts, and expectations that no longer represent us. Creating space—both within and around us—is not a loss, but an act of self-respect. Closing chapters means making peace with the past and freeing space for what’s new.

2026 opens before us as a real opportunity for renewal. We are not starting from zero, but from a more aware, more authentic version of ourselves. We can choose with greater clarity, build healthier boundaries, and move toward what truly feels aligned.

If you feel that it’s time to begin again, do so with gentleness. Every meaningful change starts with a small step.

💫 Happy New Year. May 2026 be a year of truth, care, and new beginnings.

19/12/2025

💔 Il primo Natale dopo una rottura può amplificare il dolore emotivo.
Non è debolezza, ma una risposta umana a una perdita affettiva significativa.

👉 Venerdì sul blog
📌 www.jessicazecchini.it
un nuovo articolo per comprendere cosa accade dentro di noi e come prendercene cura durante le feste.

💔 The first Christmas after a breakup can intensify emotional pain.
This is not weakness, but a human response to a meaningful emotional loss.

E se il Natale fosse solo lo sfondo che rende visibile ciò che stai già attraversando? Cosa può fare la terapia online?