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Tina Chatterley Therapist & Coach

Tina Chatterley is a psychotherapist, life coach and Clinical Supervisor. Psychotherapy , Life coaching, Clinical Supervision and Training

20/11/2025

Good morning wonderful people!

This week seems to have bought up a common theme from many areas and with several clients that has left me asking the question – what happened to live and let live?

Generations have worked for democracy and freedom of speech and yet ……

We don’t have to agree with the thoughts, views and opinions of others in the same way that we don’t have to opt for their lifestyles or how they choose to spend their lives.

However unless they are harming, hurting or acting in a dangerous manner why can’t we just let them be?

Some people seem to live to be offended and look to be offended by others rather than just jog on and ignore stuff that basically none of their business!

So we have good people who are petrified to say anything for fear of getting a pronoun wrong, be branded racist, sexist, any ist you can think of!

People who live in fear of having their whole life impacted if they say the wrong thing BUT others who seem to be able to say whatever they want however outrageous!

The one ist that doesn’t seem to get much consideration is ageist and those experiencing it don’t seem to shout out or protest – maybe because they were bought up to be more resilient?

The vast majority of people have no ill intent towards others and are very respectful of equality and discrimination issues but may occasionally slip up out of innocence or genuine ignorance – do we really need to demonise them or would our energies be better employed focusing on the minority who really intend malice and pose a real threat?

If I took offence at every slightly off comment I hear each week I would spend my entire life in a state of outrage rather than taking it for what it is and seeing the bigger picture.

Good people make mistakes – none of us are perfect – and we are all entitled to our opinions – others do not have to agree with us!!

What happened to kindness, compassion, thoughtfulness and grace?

Hoping that you are surrounded by folk who get you not reactive ones!! xx

19/11/2025

Morning Lovelies!

For any of you lovely ladies who are feeling a little mature this morning - a tiny glow up!!!

Happy and proud to be a Queen-ager from Generation Been there - done that!!!

In life whatever else we lose - never lose your sense of humour of ability to see the lighter side - its the best medicine of all!!

Big love and many hugs!! ###x

18/11/2025

Good morning wonderful people!

Seriously think I am going to get a whole load of tee shirts printed with this as it perfectly sums up the challenge that many of you are managing right now!!

Either that or Don;t mistake my kindness for weakness!!

Don't let the harshness of the world take away the softness in you BUT do protect yourselves from being taken advantage of!!

Big love ###x

17/11/2025

Good morning lovely ones and welcome to a brand new week!

Just a little reminder today for all of you wonderful men and women!

Many of us were bought up and conditioned to be good little boys and girls - to be seen not heard!

Many of us learnt our lessons so well that as adults we find it hard to assert ourselves for fear of being seen as difficult or hard to get on with!

So many of us find it hard to be honest about what is and is not ok with us and set boundaries accordingly!

Which explains why for many of us a simple NO can be hard.

So start small and get used to finding your voice, your balance and how far you are prepared to let others push you!

Big love xx

16/11/2025

Happy Sunday lovely ones!

Such a big part of my work with people is to reassure them that they matter, that their lives matter, that they count and they have the right to happiness and to enjoy life!

We totally take ourselves for granted and tend to be focused on our failures and what we can't do instead of our successes and what we can do!

So next time you are doubting yourself take a moment to reflect on all the people you have met in your life and all the times you have made a difference!

Holding that door open for someone with shopping, smiling at a stranger, saying hello to someone you pass - all of these tiny interactions all count in the joy and difference YOU make to peoples lives!!

There are people out there that you don't even know who have been impacted by your kindness, your big heart and your humanity!!

Wrapping loving arms around you today to remind you that, you are enough!! ###

15/11/2025

Happy weekend darling people!!

Sometimes when we are going through it is hard to imagine coming out of the other side - so a little tale of hope today!

You all know Mr C has been on a massive health journey the past few years.

Ultimately he made the decision to sell off his military collections last year and put that money aside to cover funeral expenses - just to feel more in control!

Fast forward to yesterday - he has now used that money to replace his car which he also thought would see him out!!

So welcoming and embracing a new chapter in this crazy journey of life!!

Never give up hope, never give up on yourself and never give up on the power of love and sheer bloodymindedness!!! ###

14/11/2025

Happy Friday lovely ones!

Communication is so important in all our relationships BUT it is only half the story!

We can carefully plan and prepare what we want to communicate and even practise it until we feel it is absolutely perfect and deliver it wonderfully BUT if it is not understood at the other end we still have work to do!!

I sent a long email this week to someone setting out very clearly the answers to certain questions and making several points that were very clear – to me!!

However the reply came back which clearly indicated that the other person had not understood – why?

Because we are all wired differently – some peoples brain immediately gravitates to the bits that interest them and they ignore the rest!

Some people choose to ignore or misunderstand because you are not giving them the answer they want!

Some people need a really light and subtle approach so they don’t get offended or take it personally.

Some people need it very clear and direct so they get it otherwise they feel confused!

So next time you find yourself scratching your head – thinking I thought it was clear – think again.

In couples therapy we look at making sure our message is being heard and understood!

Or – they could be hard of hearing or have selective hearing - Mr C??!! ###

13/11/2025

Morning gorgeous people!

We have come so far from “big boys don’t cry”!!

It is my absolute joy and privilege to support men in finding their voice and learning how to express their emotions!

Big boys do cry and they learn how to tell people what they want and need and to talk and communicate in a positive and constructive manner which supports others in treating them with the value and respect they deserve – and most importantly being able to love them in a way that is worthy of them!!

So intead of bottling it all up, internallsing, lashing out or self medicating because they think they have to put on a stiff upper lip - men who understand and work with their feelings and communicate improve their mental health and also a joy for the women in their lives as well!

Its happening slowly but lets normalise men being able to just be themselves and express what they want and need as well! ###

12/11/2025

Good morning lovelies!

Historically November was always the month that Mr C and I used to spend in the Canaries.

We used to come back on the last day of November and within 36 hours of getting home I had unpacked and put away the holiday, bought down the Christmas decorations, decorated and put the trees up, done a shop, prepared dinner for the girls and had the first Christmassy evening with them, answered all the work emails, prepared new course resources and delivered the first session..

I am exhausted just thinking about it now!

I started my first holiday job at 13 (I know they did that in the old days!).

I have worked full time my entire life never taking a break or time out to have children.

So as I have just finished working on the longest and hardest abuse case ever that has taken all year I decided to take a bit of time out and slow it down just to see how that feels!

Time to reboot and consider what I want to get involved with next and prepare for the holiday season in a more relaxed manner!

I am loving pottering around being creative and starting new projects without being against the clock and just seeing my regular clients without taking on anything new right now.

We only live once - we got to get it right! xx

11/11/2025

Good morning lovely ones!!

How often do we focus on what we do not have and who we are not as opposed to what we do have and who we are and what makes us us??

That is our point of power – where we are now and what we are working with now – its all that is relevant!

So yesterday I had three friends all in the same place at the same time and we were all celebrating the same thing – life and hope – but all for different reasons.

For one we were celebrating them getting engaged and starting a new chapter, for another we were celebrating them completing their radiation and treatment and looking forward for the first time in a year and for the other we were celebrating them going back to a much loved holiday destination to revisit and reminisce – not bad for 90 years old!

Not bad before 7.30 in the morning!!

We are all different and not to be compared but enjoyed and celebrated!

Loving life means taking what we have and just making the very most of it - not waiting for it or us to be perfect!

Size, wrinkles, income don't define you - what defines you is what you do with what you have!

Hope, joy and celebration of life – grab them, hold them and focus on who you are and what you have NOW!! ###

Big love - don't wait anymore - you need to be celebrated for who you are and all that makes you you!! ###

10/11/2025

Good morning and welcome to a brand new week again lovelies!

So many of you agonise about how you are viewed, perceived by others or how they view your life.

Its interesting isn’t it how some people judge and make assumptions about the lives of others without really knowing them or the whole story!

Its true, we all have choices in life – however sometimes those choices can be very limited or none of them are particularly great in that particular situation.

So breathe deep, hold your head high and shoulders back and do the best you can with the options you have.

If others are judging you or are feeling that you “should” be doing better – it is to be hoped that their lives are totally perfect and working fabulously – otherwise what makes them such an expert on what YOU are dealing with!

Trust yourself – you are the expert of your life and everyone else is merely a spectator.

Those with good intentions will support you and only wish you well and the others …

Don’t let them live rent free in your heads?? ###

09/11/2025

Happy Sunday wonderful ones!

The clues are there today – happy and sun and wonderful!!

I love colour and beauty and all things bright and beautiful – literally!

So what better than to draw all of our favourite things together in life and to celebrate them all to the full.

Making a conscious effort each day to pull in as much of the good stuff as we can to nurture our soul, sooth our spirit and feed our minds.

We have to balance out duty, responsibility and reality to keep our motivation, focus and enthusiasm alive!

So on this Sunday and every day I wish you all beauty, love, laughter and as much joy as you can lay your hands on!! ###

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Tuesday	07:00 - 19:00
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As an experienced Psychotherapist of some 20 years there are three main areas of my business:

Psychotherapy and counselling for all aspects of emotional support including depression, anxiety, confidence, self esteem and PSTD/sexual abuse.

Life coaching support for all personal and professional development and goals driven change including relationships and career.

Clinical Supervision and Training to support all professionals who work with people. To meet their continued professional development, good practice and ongoing learning for professional confidence, longevity and sanity in an ever changing workplace.