20/12/2025
The holidays can be hard when family is the source of the trauma.
For many people, being around family during the holiday season can trigger old wounds rather than joy. Familiar environments, unresolved conflicts, criticism, emotional neglect or past abuse can activate the brain’s threat system, leading to anxiety, shutdown, irritability or emotional overwhelm.
Psychology explains this as retraumatization. When present-day situations resemble past harmful experiences, the nervous system responds as if the danger is happening again. This is why you may feel tense, exhausted, tearful or “not yourself” around certain relatives even years later.
You are not dramatic. You are not ungrateful. Your body is responding to learned survival cues.
Confronting family trauma does not always mean confrontation with others. Sometimes it means setting boundaries, limiting exposure, choosing rest over obligation or redefining what the holidays look like for you.
Healing during the holidays may look quieter, smaller and more intentional. And that is okay.🩵
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