16/12/2025
Narcissists never want to talk about what they did. However, they’ll happily exaggerate how you reacted.
They will avoid accountability at all costs, glossing over their actions as if they never happened, or rewriting the story so their behavior seems harmless or justified. Any attempt to discuss the truth is met with deflection, denial, or silence. But the moment you finally react—out of hurt, frustration, or self-defense—that becomes the headline of the story.
Suddenly, your response is all that matters. Your tears are called “dramatic.” Your anger is labeled “crazy.” Your boundaries are framed as cruelty. They zoom in on your reaction so they never have to look at the damage they caused. By shifting the focus onto you, they protect their image and avoid facing the discomfort of responsibility.
This is how they control the narrative: minimize their harm, magnify your pain, and present themselves as the victim. And if you don’t know what’s happening, you can start questioning yourself—when in reality, reacting to mistreatment is human. The problem was never your reaction. The problem was what pushed you to react in the first place.
