29/12/2022
Have you heard of Father Wound.
Probably most of us are going through it but we dont know it.
Let us look at it.
Have you ever thought what having an absent dad means and the effects it has on a child. Today we focus on Father Wound commonly known as absent Father. A father wound is a longing within the human heart that every person longs to know that they were wanted and cared for by their biological fathers . It is a desire in the heart to know that our existence maters to our father and he is pleased that we belong to him.
The Father Wound” is a trauma wound affecting more people than drugs or alcohol combined. It cuts deeper than flesh and bone and works its way to the soul. It affects both sons and daughters, the rich and poor alike without prejudice. The father wound leaves a wake of destruction in its path more devastating than any natural disaster.
The wound may be the result of absence which may be caused by divorce, separation, abandonment, or even death. The effects of Father Wound Include: we have broken men, passing on a deficiency of brokenness to their children, and its toll is staggering Low self-esteem and lack of confidence. It can affect daughters by giving them a negative view of how she sees men and women. Women who grew up wounded by their father often find themselves attracted to the men who can be neglectful, angry, abusive, and difficult to be around. Because they never got the role model and direction needed from a father figure, they learn to make up their own ways of understanding and attracting males . This can lead to negative coping skills such as s*xual promiscuity, total avoidance of intimacy, isolation, substance abuse, anxiety, and depression.
It can affect sons causing negative and damaging outcomes to them. The father wound can rip at the very core of the developing masculine identity of boys causing them to struggle throughout life making them feel they never measured up to their fathers and cause them to be unsure about what it means to be a man. When the boy matures into adulthood, he is often left feeling alone with anger and resentment toward his father.
Boys growing up in homes with a physically or emotionally absent father are more likely to commit su***de. They are prone to behavioral and emotional disorders, they are likely to struggle academically and drop out of school, they are more likely to commit r**e and produce children out of wedlock. Boys in homes with absent fathers are more prone to have legal problems and end up in prison. A father’s negative behaviors such as anger, abuse and controlling behavior can often become their sons’ legacy as the son look to the father to understand what it means to be a man.
Forgiving our fathers is essential to healing wounds they caused. Sometimes getting facts from people who knew your father’s own childhood and what he may have endured can help you begin the healing process and forgiving.
Inorder to break the cycle of bringing up broken generation, let us be intentional on healing from FATHER WOUND.
