05/09/2025
Don’t raise your kids the way you were raised. Not unless you want to raise another generation of broken adults, walking around with smiles that hide scars.
A lot of people are carrying silent traumas from their childhood.
Adults who jump every time someone raises their voice.
Adults who apologize for existing because growing up, their parents made them feel like every mistake was a sin.
Adults who can’t make a decision without seeking validation because as kids, every time they tried, they were mocked, laughed at, or beaten for daring to try.
There are men in their 30s who still flinch when someone raises a hand near them not because they’re weak, but because once upon a time, every raised hand meant pain.
There are women who don’t know how to say no because their no was never respected as children.
Kids are not robots. They are not your emotional punching bags. They are not soldiers in some imaginary war where obedience is mistaken for discipline.
They are human beings, and how you approach their mistakes either builds them into confident, secure adults or damages them into timid shells who spend years in therapy learning that love is not supposed to hurt.
We are not in the 1900s when the world was at war and you thought beating discipline into a child was a form of love. This is 2025. The battlefield has changed.
We don’t need soldiers who can take orders without thinking; we need thinkers, innovators, builders, leaders children who know how to question, how to imagine, how to create.
If your child is scared of you, you are not parenting. You are ruling through fear, and one day, you will wonder why they can’t talk to you when they’re hurting. Why they hide things. Why they become adults who trust strangers more than they trust you.
The goal is not to raise children who survive you. The goal is to raise children who thrive because of you.
Break the cycle. Because if you don’t, the pain you call discipline will echo through generations.
❤️❤️❤️
