18/02/2026
A Psychological Reflection on Validation, Vulnerability & Emotional Needs
For the case circulating about a foreign man who allegedly enticed women in Kenya note that he used one tactic — compliments eg you look good, your hair looks good , I like you , I love you etc they found hard to resist.
As a root-centered therapist, I want to offer a psychological perspective.
When a girl grows up without affirmation from her father or a consistent male figure, she may develop a deep craving for validation. This unmet emotional need doesn’t disappear with age — it often follows her into adulthood, where she may unconsciously seek affirmation in the wrong places or from the wrong people.
Action Point for Fathers:
Be present. Affirm your daughters. Compliment them. Talk with them. Listen to them. When a father intentionally meets his daughter’s emotional needs, he strengthens her self-worth and builds her emotional stability for the future.
For Husbands:
Be intentional about your wife. There is a young girl in every woman who still needs reassurance, affection, and affirmation. If you don’t express love, appreciation, and emotional presence, someone else might step into that emotional gap.
Note:
This is not justification of any wrongdoing — it is simply a psychological lens meant to encourage reflection, responsibility, and healing.
