Counselor Naomi Ngugi

Counselor Naomi Ngugi As a registered psychologist & advocate against domestic violence,I help individuals heal from trauma.

I am Passionate about guiding you through life’s toughest moments toward lasting recovery.

Avoidance is one of the most misunderstood relationship patterns — especially in Kenya where expressing emotions is ofte...
12/12/2025

Avoidance is one of the most misunderstood relationship patterns — especially in Kenya where expressing emotions is often dismissed as “weakness.”

If you or your partner:
🔸 Pull away emotionally
🔸 Avoid tough conversations
🔸 Shut down when overwhelmed
🔸 Fear being vulnerable
…this wheel might explain why.

Avoidant behavior is not about lack of love — it’s about fear, past wounds, and feeling unsafe with closeness.

Healing looks like:
💛 Sharing small emotions at a time
💛 Communicating when you need space
💛 Reassurance, not judgment
💛 Practicing connection, even imperfectly

Love grows where safety exists.
And emotional safety can be learned.

Today, we honour the courage, resilience, and sacrifice that gave us our freedom — and the unity that continues to hold ...
12/12/2025

Today, we honour the courage, resilience, and sacrifice that gave us our freedom — and the unity that continues to hold us together as a nation.

Jamhuri Day reminds us that healing, growth, and progress are possible when we choose courage over fear and unity over division.

As you celebrate today, may you also find the freedom to grow, to heal, and to walk boldly into your purpose.

Happy Jamhuri Day, Kenya.
Proudly Kenyan. Boldly free.

Ever wondered why you keep postponing things?It’s not laziness — it’s a coping mechanism. And trust me, many Kenyans rel...
11/12/2025

Ever wondered why you keep postponing things?
It’s not laziness — it’s a coping mechanism. And trust me, many Kenyans relate. Whether it’s delaying that assignment, avoiding a tough conversation, or postponing a career move, procrastination has many faces:

✨ The Overthinker – “What if I fail?”
✨ The People-Pleaser – “Let me help others first.”
✨ The Burned-Out One – “I’m too tired.”
✨ The Avoider – “I’ll deal with it later.”
✨ The Perfectionist – “It must be perfect.”

Healing begins with understanding your pattern.
You don’t have to transform overnight — just start with one small step today.
Your future self will thank you. 🌱

In Kenya, many people endure emotional abuse because “at least hafungi mkono,” or “si alinipiga, but he apologized.”Let’...
10/12/2025

In Kenya, many people endure emotional abuse because “at least hafungi mkono,” or “si alinipiga, but he apologized.”
Let’s be clear:
You don’t need bruises for it to be violence.

If they:
❌ Humiliate you
❌ Lie, cheat, or manipulate
❌ Control your money
❌ Intimidate or yell
❌ Make you feel small or scared

…that is domestic violence.

Your pain is valid. Your story matters. You deserve safety — not suffering.
If this is you, please reach out. There is support, and there is a way out. 💛

Many families face ‘Njaanuary’ because of festive over-spending. Sometimes the best gift is financial stability.The holi...
09/12/2025

Many families face ‘Njaanuary’ because of festive over-spending. Sometimes the best gift is financial stability.

The holidays shouldn't break you financially. Peace of mind is more valuable than an expensive December.”

𝐓𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐄𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐲𝐞𝐞𝐬:

Set a budget and stick to it.

Avoid last-minute impulse spending.

Don’t try to match others’ holiday lifestyles.

Remember: January is coming.

𝐓𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐄𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐲𝐞𝐫𝐬:

Provide financial wellness sessions.

Offer early salary options thoughtfully.

Reduce unnecessary workplace holiday costs (e.g., avoid forcing contributions).

Domestic violence doesn’t always start with a slap — sometimes it begins with jealousy, “checking your phone,” or making...
09/12/2025

Domestic violence doesn’t always start with a slap — sometimes it begins with jealousy, “checking your phone,” or making you feel guilty for wanting independence.
In Kenya, many people disguise abuse as “care,” “protection,” or “respecting African tradition.”

But here are the real red flags:
🚩 Quick anger, controlling behavior
🚩 Forced intimacy
🚩 Excuses for physical injuries
🚩 Feeling afraid in your own home
🚩 Constantly asking for permission
🚩 Losing your sense of self

If any of these resonate, please know this:
Your safety is more important than maintaining an image.
You are not overreacting. You are not to blame.
Support exists, and healing is possible. 💛

Many survivors in Kenya stay silent because they’ve been taught to “vumilia kwa ndoa” or “wanaume huwa hivyo.” But abuse...
08/12/2025

Many survivors in Kenya stay silent because they’ve been taught to “vumilia kwa ndoa” or “wanaume huwa hivyo.” But abuse is not culture. Abuse is not love. Abuse is control — emotional, verbal, financial, or physical.
If someone constantly belittles you, makes you fearful, controls your movement, or dictates your choices… that is not love.

You deserve safety.
You deserve respect.
You deserve peace.

If you’re unsure what you’re experiencing, reach out — you’re not alone. 💛

Burnout isn’t laziness — it’s your body whispering “I’m tired,” before it starts screaming.In Kenya we love to say “tuna...
05/12/2025

Burnout isn’t laziness — it’s your body whispering “I’m tired,” before it starts screaming.

In Kenya we love to say “tunapambana na hali”, and many of us think pushing harder is the only way to survive. But when you keep powering through stress, your brain enters the Burnout Loop:

⚡ Dopamine Rush: “I can do it!”
🔥 Cortisol Hits: “Let me push kidogo.”
🌫 Mental Fog: “Why can’t I think? Why am I so tired?”
🔁 Repeat: Until you crash.

Your body is not a machine.
Your worth is not tied to productivity.
And rest is not a reward — it’s a requirement.

✨ Listen to the early signals. Pause. Reset. Heal.
You deserve a life where you’re not just surviving, but living fully.

—Counselor Naomi Ngugi
For Emotional Healing, Mental Strength & Wholeness 🌿💛

Sometimes it’s not life that’s heavy—it's our thoughts.”In Kenya, we often say "mambo ni mengi, masaa ni machache", and ...
04/12/2025

Sometimes it’s not life that’s heavy—it's our thoughts.”
In Kenya, we often say "mambo ni mengi, masaa ni machache", and in the rush of it all, it’s easy to slip into unhealthy thinking patterns without even noticing.

Here are some irrational thoughts many of us struggle with:
🔹 “Nita-fail tu” — catastrophizing
🔹 “Watanijudge” — mind reading
🔹 “Ni mimi nimeharibu” — personalization
🔹 “Things never work for me” — overgeneralisation

These thoughts don’t make you weak; they make you human.
But awareness is the first step to freedom. 🌱

🧠 Pause. Notice. Challenge the thoughts.
Your mind should be a place of safety—not self-sabotage.

—Counselor Naomi Ngugi
Healing Hearts, Restoring Wholeness 💛✨

Hello December 🌿✨As we step into the final month of the year, may you:🌱 Protect your peace🌱 Honour your boundaries🌱 Prio...
01/12/2025

Hello December 🌿✨

As we step into the final month of the year, may you:
🌱 Protect your peace
🌱 Honour your boundaries
🌱 Prioritize your healing
🌱 Choose joy intentionally

This month, give yourself permission to pause, breathe, and enter the new year lighter and stronger.

Wishing you a grounded, joyful, flourishing December.

Let’s be honest — many of us are silently stuck in this cycle.The Circle of Self-Sabotage often hides in the small choic...
28/11/2025

Let’s be honest — many of us are silently stuck in this cycle.
The Circle of Self-Sabotage often hides in the small choices we overlook:

👉 “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
👉 “What if I fail?”
👉 “I’m not good enough.”
👉 “Everyone else is doing better.”

Before you know it — procrastination becomes anxiety, anxiety becomes self-doubt, and self-doubt becomes fear… and the cycle continues.

But here’s the good news:
💛 The moment you recognize the cycle…
💛 You gain the power to break it.

You can choose progress over perfection.
You can choose courage over fear.
You can choose to take the first small step today — even if it’s imperfect.

Your healing, your confidence, your future…
They all begin with one brave decision.

And I’m here to walk that journey with you. ❤️
— Naomi Ngugi, Counseling Psychologist

Self-love is not a one-day event — it’s a cycle.A gentle rhythm you return to every time life gets loud.Here’s your frie...
27/11/2025

Self-love is not a one-day event — it’s a cycle.
A gentle rhythm you return to every time life gets loud.

Here’s your friendly reminder, from my heart to yours:

1️⃣ Focus on yourself – You matter, too.
2️⃣ Take care of your body – Drink water, sleep, stretch… your body keeps score.
3️⃣ Remove negative comparisons – Social media is a highlight reel, not reality.
4️⃣ Build affirmations – Speak life into yourself.
5️⃣ Thank yourself – You’ve survived 100% of your worst days. Celebrate that.

In Kenya we love to push through everything — kazi, family, responsibilities…
But healing begins when you become a priority in your own life.

Today, choose you. ❤️

— Naomi Ngugi, Empowering and Inspiring People to Blossom

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