Jokai Herbs and Garden

05/08/2025

Grieving the Ideal, Accepting the Real
In therapy, we often talk about grieving the ideal, letting go of the version of life we hoped for, so we can begin to live the one we actually have.
Since there are many determinants to the attainment of our dreams, sometimes we have to gracefully let go and grief the loss of the future we envisioned.
The man who dreamed of being a pilot, but after illness or age, now builds a life from another kind of purpose.
The parent who expected a close bond with their child, but faces distance, difference, or estrangement, and vice versa.
It’s the graduate who had big plans for a perfect job, only to be met with a market that doesn’t match their degree.
It's me, who thought I'd be a millionare by now, but......
These aren’t failures. They are part of the painful, human process of recalibrating hope.
Mental health means making peace with reality, not by giving up, but by releasing the fantasy, so you can build something real, grounded, and possible.

17/06/2024

I know Sam Katila and others will shy away from this subject. Africans do not talk about s*x organs. Its awkward. But it is what is. There are some organs I can't mention in my mother-tongue.

I read somewhere that vi*****rs are so powerful that they can inhibit our sensitive nerve endings, lengthening the period required for an…

12/06/2024

There are to types of people in this world, people with a good heart and people with a heart of stone - heartless. I have learned this firsthand.

There is no neutral. You're either on that side, or this side.

Again, you always choose your person. You get the chance to choose someone with a good heart, or someone with a cold heart. It's open like a book. You flap the pages and choose your person.

It's never about gender. It's about the heart. Anyone can have a cold heart. Anyone. There are few people with good, genuine hearts.

Sometimes when you make your bed, lie on it, do not blame it on gender stereotypes.

18/01/2024

In my Daily Stoic,

“You’re always where you leave yourself, wherever you go there you are. At the end of the day, you go home alone, you go home to yourself.”

The thing is, we can try many new things. We like to think we can get away from our problems, that it will be different there, that a change of scenery will change us.

You can get a new job. Get a new baby. Get some new money...

But it’s not going to fix us. It’s not going to solve our problems for us.

Because - it’s impossible to actually flee yourself. You are always going to be there, your issues right where you left them.

11/12/2023

I Think Cancer is Nature’s Way of Punishing Us
Maybe we could cure Cancer by Curing Nature

Maybe we could cure Cancer by Curing Nature

11/12/2023

Chimamanda's "The Danger of a Single Story"

The danger of a single story — How single stories originate from our simple misunderstandings or lack of knowledge of others.

11/12/2023

The Untold Story of Love in an African Village

This is a story

10/08/2023

How a Young Girl Told Off a County Governor:

Cupidity in the Uasin Gishu Airlift Program

Cupidity in the Uasin Gishu Airlift Program

11/07/2023

Why Gardening Therapy is Better than Medication for Mental Health

Plants do not judge. Plants do not give their opinions

Plant therapy is a good solution for mental health and fitness. Plants love you back without measure. Plants do not judge.

03/07/2023

Imagine Not Being Able to Attend Your Mother’s Funeral:
Everyone is quietly going through a difficult moment.

Everyone is quietly going through a difficult moment, quietly.