Benjamin Zulu Global

24/02/2026

Why men don't marry the women who built them from scratch? First of all, why was she building a man she wasn't married to?

You should know you're a king maker and who you support will flourish. You're graced like that. You care deeply like that. You give unreservedly like that.

When you require legal marriage before you start pouring yourself into men, living with them or getting babies by them, because this is often the start of these unconscious unions, you will automatically filter away most undeveloped men.

Getting married legally is a test itself because it requires leadership and commitment. It also involves scrutiny by the gatekeepers of your life which raises the bar and helps eliminate unprepared candidates.

So what's the difference between building a man you're not married to and growing with a man you're married to?

In the first case you're just pouring your help and support to lift a man without a covenant. Usually it'll be a man who would never qualify to marry you if you were dating intentionally rather than impulsively.

We all know that impulse buying is costly. Impulse dating is no different.

Growing with a husband means he has already passed the test of doing foundational growth by himself, enough to take up leadership of a family as proved by him marrying you procedurally.

After that, you grow together as a team within the context of a covenant.

So why do men leave and marry someone else after you've built them?

First of all, someone has to be heartless to do such a thing. Ungrateful and entitled.

The first reason is that success inflates their ego and ego doesn't like being reminded of weakness. This woman knew him when he was broken and helpless. Instead of seeing her as a companion in the transformation, he sees her as a reminder of a part of his history he wishes to delete from memory.

So he deletes her together with it.

Secondly, a fake and inauthentic man wishes to act like he has always been strong. Rich. Powerful.

As such, he seeks a new woman to whom he can play this fantasy. He denies the truth of his humble beginnings and he seeks someone who doesn't know of those beginnings.

Thirdly, this woman knows his potential and she invests in it. But she also knows his flaws, his patterns, his weaknesses. To stay with her means to stay accountable and humble.

When someone no longer wants growth and accountability, they run away from everyone who represents it.

In short, you should never let your hunger for a fresh start mislead you into betraying your guardian angel. Some of these people represent divine favor in our lives and we silently know it by watching how our lives transform upon their entry.

Whatever it took you to get to the top is the same things it'll take to remain there. Honesty, cooperation, humility. That's how you can have fruit that remains as opposed to fleeting success that sweeps you away with it because it's not anchored in character and loyalty.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

24/02/2026

If a man texts, “Let's just go with the flow,” resist the urge to explain your feelings and try to convince him. Men usually use this phrase to delay responsibility and decisions.

The connection will naturally have reached a crossroads and tension will be rising. The energy will be that of, “What now? Where do we want to take this?”

Many women will respond by trying to act chill, accept uncertainty and hope clarity comes later. Did you know that the difference between commitment and confusion, a relationship and a situationship, is tolerance for uncertainty?

While requests like let's go with the flow, let's allow things to unfold naturally or let's cross the bridge when we get there may sound casual, it's a subtle tactic to keep his options open while testing emotional access with you.

If you accept the ambiguity you'll be the one to adapt. Before long, you'll have become so emotionally invested that you lose your autonomy. This will hand him all the power.

Did you know that men don't commit to a woman because she's easygoing and accommodating? They only commit when their tests for laxity are met with uncompromising standards.

You should respond with something along the lines of, “I only date with intention and I don't drift. I will take your decision against commitment as a commitment itself not to get into anything serious. I will readily step back since it seems we're seeking different things.”

This is emotional stability, high self worth and refusal to play games all in one bundle.

Because you have removed the comfort of ambiguity without pressuring or arguing, he'll be forced to make a decision quickly whether to act right or lose you.

Lastly, follow your message with a made up mind. Do not accept to be led on. Retreat emotionally until he requests something clear.

Do not accept to be just friends. That's a bargain to keep you ambiguously accessible. Yes, you're not becoming enemies but after some lines have been crossed emotionally there cannot be neutrality so soon. You're moving on with your life unless they choose to commit to you.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

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The problem is that you're expecting loyalty from someone who can't even give you honesty. If they're denying what you can see, what are they doing with what you can't see?

If someone keeps turning your truth into a threat and painting you as the problem just to avoid accountability, the writing is on the wall.

When they twist your honesty into a source of conflict just to avoid facing their behavior, you're dealing with the wrong person.

Many people want the benefits of a loving union but they don't want to pay the price of humbling themselves to build one.

They want intimacy while they're still egotistical. They want connection when they're still conflicted.

They want access while they're still arrogant.

Your work is not to preach to them or change them. Your work is to recognize their patterns and get out of their way.

The way they're fighting is against truth and growth, not you.

Avoid becoming collateral damage in conflicts that have nothing to do with you.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

23/02/2026

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23/02/2026

One lady asked her husband as she rubbed his head, “So, before you married me, who used to massage your head when you got these headaches?” He replied, “I never used to get headaches.”

Another lady asked the husband what had happened to his promise to dedicate the rest of his life to making her happy. He replied that he didn't expect to live that long.

After a divorce, the woman learned that the ex husband was already with another woman and she asked what was special about her. She wasn't prettier than her, richer, or even younger.

The man interjected that she was softer and calmer. She didn't humiliate him and when issues arose, she communicated without cruelty. She didn't blame him for her emotional outbursts and erratic moods.

He felt appreciated and respected no matter the circumstances. Around her he felt at home and peaceful. He was finally growing without having to prove himself.

Marriage is often a cocktail of benefits and burdens. It's not always easy to decide whether to quit. We're more often trapped because we're too invested to quit and still too disturbed to rest.

That's why many resort to sarcasm and bitter irony to communicate the dilemma.

What if we helped each other grow and improve instead of absorbing pain year in and year out?

If your wife screams at you when she's upset or your husband walks away when there's a disagreement, you can challenge them to outgrow it before all connection is eroded.

You can both stand up to and support your partner to stop hurtful habits like insensitive teasing. You don't have to wait until the breaking point to express why you're leaving.

Believe it or not, some people are not conscious of their hurtful habits until you name them.

If we want to maintain our marriages without losing our minds, we must learn to disagree without distance and to correct without condemnation. That is, repair from inside rather than waiting until everything blows up.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

23/02/2026

Another trait of people who win at love and life is that they never negotiate when lonely. They don't negotiate from hunger because that neediness would make them lower their standards.

When they feel under pressure to settle down or get someone, they step back and regain their emotional balance first.

Desperation is impossible to hide because it seeps through conversations and body language. And nothing portrays you as a burden rather than a blessing more than behaving desperate.

Many people think having someone is better than having no one. Wise people know that the wrong person is worse than being alone.

When they feel empty they delay big decisions so they don't bargain from scarcity.

The right mindset to date and decide from is preparedness, not impatience. Their energy says, “I'm ready to move to the next level,” not, “I'm afraid I'm getting late.”

When they sense that time is running out, they don't panic. They just increase their pace. They make things happen. They don't just wait for them to happen.

Since they cab account for their time and what they have achieved with every year they were single, they have no regrets. Even the years that seemed wasted were lessons and mental recalibration.

In short, winners at life know how to be alone without being lonely, and the difference is contentment and confidence. They proceed with a plan instead of waiting passively. And since they take ownership of the process, there's no room for self pity or giving up.

They don't stop because they gave up. They stop because they got it done.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)