15/12/2025
I recently saw a public forum where a man shared a six-step guide on how to move into a woman’s house without ever discussing it with her.
The motive was obvious: Where there is no discussion, there is no agreement. No timelines, no expectations, no definition of the relationship, and therefore, no accountability.
The strategy relied on gradual encroachment.
Spend more nights at her place.
Schedule evening dates that “accidentally” run late.
Arrive at 8 pm instead of 6 pm and blame traffic or overtime, so that staying over feels natural rather than negotiated.
Next, leave behind small personal items such as toiletries, chargers, and a change of clothes. Nothing alarming. Just enough to normalise you as a frequent visitor.
Then, become useful.
Take out the trash.
Buy groceries.
Pick children from school.
Use the service to appear gentlemanly and helpful to have around.
He was advised to watch for green-light cues, such as a drawer allocated to him, a spare key left at the table, or permission to perform daily tasks like reverse-parking her car.
When those appear, the occupation is already underway.
Winning over the children was also part of the plan. He should stop by the store and bring snacks, juice, and small gifts. Once children start missing you, resistance collapses. You are no longer a visitor; you are “family.”
Next came technology.
Bring the gaming console for Saturday afternoon, then let it stay. Connect your gadgets to Wi-Fi. Set up your laptop.
At that point, the house becomes the man's de facto base of operations.
They, however, left out two steps - most likely to avoid exposure. But those are the most critical.
Step one: occupy her imagination. Increase talk about “us.” Us as the future. Us as a unit. Us as a family. Us as one team.
Feed the dream, and resistance dissolves. People will accept almost anything if it appears to move them closer to a longing they already carry.
Step two: move into her body.
This is the master key.
Once a man gains access to a woman’s body, access to everything else becomes easy. Her home. Her money. Her children. Her family. Her information. Her loyalties.
Most women instinctively experience s*xual intimacy as oneness, even when the relationship is undefined or illicit. All the man needs to do is keep marriage language alive in conversation.
Before intimacy, he is a contestant.
After intimacy, he becomes a confidant.
There is no greater vulnerability for a woman than to bare her body to a man. None.
That is why many women feel compelled to give the relationship a title after s*x — not because clarity exists, but because the conscience demands dignity.
So, the mind baptises the situation as 'serious relationship' or 'Come-we-stay.'
There is no such term in law or language, but labels soothe internal conflict.
But why is this woman targeted, you ask?
Because she's both resourceful and naive, a rare and dangerous combination.
Most resourceful women are intentional. They have boundaries and respect structure. For example, it is the man who should clearly invite and transport a woman into his space, not quietly migrate into hers.
A man worth following does not sneak.
He leads with clarity.
But this woman may secretly carry wounds that lower her standards, feel unworthy of formal pursuit, believe she is “modern” or “open-minded”, and ultimately see no big deal in s*xual intimacy
That is the predator’s signal.
He will first ensure she is sincere, not calculating, and disconnected from voices of reason like family, mentors, or friends. If that detachment isn’t present, he will create it by framing everyone else as enemies of “your love.”
Pregnancy or adoption of her children then seals the arrangement.
Jackpot.
All the benefits of being in the house without ever being the man of the house.
Yes, women can also do this to men.
They also begin with s*xual access.
That discussion can come another day.
What's our point?
All this hullabaloo about people “sneaking into your life” is unnecessary. Maintain s*xual boundaries, and the entire scam collapses.
No one can talk about sleeping over, moving in, or forming a family with you when your body is clearly defined as sacred and preserved.
Manipulators must compromise you first.
If you refuse the compromise, everything else protects itself.
Most manipulation doesn’t begin at your door. It begins in your bed.
(© Benjamin Zulu Global)
