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16/03/2026
It’s another Magic Monday and I am starting off the week with this great post talking about kindness.
Being nice can be characterized by politeness, agreeableness, and a desire to be liked, often focusing on superficial harmony and self-preservation.
In contrast, being kind is rooted in genuine care, empathy, and doing what is best for others, which may require difficult honesty or uncomfortable actions, rather than just being pleasing.
Have a beautiful start to the week.
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12/03/2026
Just for some laughs today as I end the week. This is so relatable! 😮💨😂 It’s been a long one for me but my heart space is joyful and fulfilled.
Personally I think you are as young as you feel. And yes eye twitching is as a result of emotional and physical stress triggers where the release of cortisol overstimulates muscles and nerves, leading to involuntary eyelid spasms known as myokymia. These harmless, temporary spasms are also commonly triggered by fatigue, caffeine, alcohol, and dry eyes.
Speaking of which when was your last medical, dental and eye check up? Please don’t put these off as they are important to do.
Have a beautiful day.
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11/03/2026
Depending on others for validation can be challenging as what if one day you need it, and they are not there to provide it?
Learn to acknowledge and validate yourself. Little acts to remind yourself that you matter, are important and doing your best are so helpful and can motivate you to keep going.
What have you done on this list to self-validate?
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10/03/2026
I love this definition of words not matching actions. We often get swept into a whirlwind of beautiful words and promises that may not match what someone does or how they behave.
This analogy is a great way of simplifying when someone is not able to walk, the talk.
Be weary of this and understand that everyone has patterns of behavior that come to the surface in time. So if someone tells you they care, watch what they do, because caring for someone is an action, not just a word. And this also happens for love.
Is this relatable?
Have a lovely day ahead.
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09/03/2026
Starting out the week with this beautiful reminder on how mocking someone’s pain or struggle that you haven’t endured, may find you becoming the subject of your own criticism at some point. And even if you have endured something similar does not mean you will have the exact same experience, so it is worth noting that as you share your personal perspective. Remember your story, is not everyone else’s, therefore make room for that. And, let’s normalize changing a perspective, when you get new information. Unlearning is something that we can do and helps us develop and grow.
Have a beautiful and blessed Magic Monday, stay safe and be kind.
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05/03/2026
Do you sometimes get anxious moments and not sure how to calm your body down?
Here is an awesome post on ways you can do this. Practice these when you are calm so that you can know what works for you so that you can do it when you need it.
Most importantly, if your body relaxes after someone leaves, pay close attention to this. Your body is trying to tell you something about you and that person.
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04/03/2026
Have you reviewed the way you give to others or consider them in your day to day? Do you give the same love and consideration to yourself?
Here are a few ways you can be good to yourself, just as you are to others. You deserve to treat yourself with love, care and consideration too. It’s self-love not selfish.
Have a loving day.
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03/03/2026
If you are thinking about dating, or dating already have you considered having some dating guidelines to help you make more informed decisions on prospective partners?
Here are 5 you can start with and feel free to create your own too. Not everyone who is interested in you, is for you so you don’t have to accept them because you are fearful that no one else will be.
Like a job interview, both parties (employer and employee) get to decide if this is a good fit. And if the fit is not right, then a regret letter comes through. As with dating, don’t be afraid to say “you are great but not the right fit for me” or “I don’t feel we are aligned in our values”.
And if you are married and/or in a monogamous relationship please don’t look to date single people, as this is not a fair (nor kind) action to your current partner. Also vice versa on this too. 😉
Have a wonderful day!
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02/03/2026
Happy New Month on this gorgeous Magic Monday! It’s so good to be back! 🥰✨
I know the weather is a little gloomy this morning in Nairobi 🇰🇪 and there is so much going on in the country and around the world, that can make anyone feel sad, angry, anxious and even worried.
So, if you are feeling like this, please know that it is normal to feel this way and spread a little care and love to anyone you meet or interact with online.
Sending much love, hugs and care to anyone who needs it today.
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14/02/2026
Finally taking a break and looking forward to getting some rest, this last week was probably the hardest as it was my last week before leave, but I am here and I made it. 😮💨🤗💕
Thank you so much for the love and support on this platform. I appreciate you very much. I will be back on the 24 February with more daily posts, music and dance.
Happy Valentine’s Day and I wish you so much peace and love. See you soon.
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12/02/2026
Ending the week with this awesome post depicting that your heart is not a hotel for people to check in and out when they feel like it. Healthy relationships require nurturing like a garden. Ignoring your partner’s needs or rejecting your partner’s emotional bids for connection and still expecting a healthy relationship, is like ignoring when your plants need water and still expecting a beautiful garden.
As we approach Valentine’s Day and look towards celebrating this, understand that you don’t need the 14th to show your partner what they mean to you. Have a Forever Valentine because one day in the year is not enough to keep things going, do it every day and watch your relationship grow.
Have a beautiful day ahead.
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11/02/2026
Lots of companies are advertising vacation getaways, romantic dinners and offers around couples events as we are in the month of love.💗 This post is a great reminder of what healthy romantic partnerships look like, as they focus on interdependence, which is where individuals maintain their own sense of self while also providing mutual support and promoting emotional closeness without losing their individuality.
So if you are getting to know someone new, you can use the 3-3-3 guideline for evaluating a connection at key milestones: after 3 dates, 3 weeks, and 3 months, to assess fun/attraction (dates), communication/behavior (weeks), and long-term potential/goals (months), helping you to avoid rushing or getting stuck in a situationship.
And if you are in a long-term relationship you can use the 7-7-7 guideline as a maintenance strategy where as a couple you commit to: a date night every 7 days, a weekend getaway every 7 weeks, and a vacation (kid free or if you don’t have kids just time spent together as a couple away from home) every 7 months.
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About Cathy Holden and the Almond Tree Wellness Center, Kenya
Before I went to University; I started out not knowing what my life’s purpose would be, but knew it had to do with helping people be their very best version of themselves. I was fortunate enough to study in the United Kingdom and pursued two degrees; back to back; a BSc in Psychology and an MSc in Occupational and Organizational Psychology. I then ended up working in Human Resources in the UK and then moved back to Kenya after 15 years. I carried on working in Human Resources and by 2018 (after 13 years in HR practice) I felt that I needed a change so that I can impact more people by helping them directly. I then took on a new post graduate degree to be a certified S*x Therapist (Therapy Certification Association, based in Miami, Florida).
S*x is in integral part of any relationship and human s*xuality is vast; Do we always know what to do with our s*xuality? Do we know enough about it? These are all questions I kept asking myself for many years, which led to me opening a new business in 2019 - The Almond Tree Wellness Center based in Nairobi, with my office in Doctor’s Park, on 3rd Parklands Avenue, about 100 meters from Aga Khan Hospital.
S*x Therapy is not a new field but while I was growing up, s*x was not something that people talked about freely and I have made it my purpose to help people understand what s*x therapy is about, what a s*x therapist does (and does not do) and how it can help you and/or your partner. There is much more to say on this type of therapy and I am looking forward to sharing my knowledge and expertise with all of you.
I am a member of the Kenya Counselling and Psychological Association and the British Psychological Society. I provide a range of counselling and s*x therapy services and looking forward to meeting and helping as many people as possible.
