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14/02/2026
Finally taking a break and looking forward to getting some rest, this last week was probably the hardest as it was my last week before leave, but I am here and I made it. 😮💨🤗💕
Thank you so much for the love and support on this platform. I appreciate you very much. I will be back on the 24 February with more daily posts, music and dance.
Happy Valentine’s Day and I wish you so much peace and love. See you soon.
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12/02/2026
Ending the week with this awesome post depicting that your heart is not a hotel for people to check in and out when they feel like it. Healthy relationships require nurturing like a garden. Ignoring your partner’s needs or rejecting your partner’s emotional bids for connection and still expecting a healthy relationship, is like ignoring when your plants need water and still expecting a beautiful garden.
As we approach Valentine’s Day and look towards celebrating this, understand that you don’t need the 14th to show your partner what they mean to you. Have a Forever Valentine because one day in the year is not enough to keep things going, do it every day and watch your relationship grow.
Have a beautiful day ahead.
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11/02/2026
Lots of companies are advertising vacation getaways, romantic dinners and offers around couples events as we are in the month of love.💗 This post is a great reminder of what healthy romantic partnerships look like, as they focus on interdependence, which is where individuals maintain their own sense of self while also providing mutual support and promoting emotional closeness without losing their individuality.
So if you are getting to know someone new, you can use the 3-3-3 guideline for evaluating a connection at key milestones: after 3 dates, 3 weeks, and 3 months, to assess fun/attraction (dates), communication/behavior (weeks), and long-term potential/goals (months), helping you to avoid rushing or getting stuck in a situationship.
And if you are in a long-term relationship you can use the 7-7-7 guideline as a maintenance strategy where as a couple you commit to: a date night every 7 days, a weekend getaway every 7 weeks, and a vacation (kid free or if you don’t have kids just time spent together as a couple away from home) every 7 months.
Have a beautiful day ahead.
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09/02/2026
It’s another Magic Monday in sunny Nairobi and I’m sharing this post on how you can choose to reset when you notice you are in a reactive mindset and transform it into a responsive mindset.
We are all different and it may take a little more than 6 seconds, however the principle remains the same. Even though your day or week has not started as well as you had hoped, to avoid going down that downward spiral or rabbit hole, take a pause…breathe…close your eyes….breathe again…whatever happened doesn’t have to dictate how the rest of your day goes.
Have a beautiful responsive mindset day and an awesome start to the week.
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05/02/2026
Ending the week with this beautiful post of a reminder on how life doesn’t have to be about winning or loosing by comparing yourself to other people. It’s exhausting and can also transform you into someone who you are not.
Be open to the experience and learn to compete with yourself, only. What your friend or neighbor have, is what they have; concentrate on you and what you truly need, as comparison can be a thief of joy and contentment.
Go out there and keep winning for you.
You got this!
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04/02/2026
Being in an unhealthy or abusive relationship can be extremely challenging, and if you managed to walk away from one, you may still experience a range of complex emotions, from time to time.
It’s never as easy as “just leave” and for many their lives can still be in danger post breaking up; even years later. Going no contact is a sure way of disconnecting from an abusive partner. And if they still find a way of reaching out to you, this can sometimes be confusing as they can oscillate from being regretful, caring and abusive, all at the same time. This is not love and no, they haven’t changed.
Here are 5 reminders to tell yourself when they do or when you feel uncertain.
If you are in an abusive or unhealthy relationship please reach out for help, you are not alone and you deserve peace. And if you managed to walk away from one, know that you have done a beautiful thing for yourself.
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03/02/2026
The effort you put in will “hold more water” with the right person.
Go and be where you are celebrated, not only tolerated.
Have a beautiful and blessed Tuesday!
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02/02/2026
Starting the week with this awesome post by Dr. Natalya on the difference between chemistry and compatibility.
You can have chemistry and no compatibility.
You can have compatibility with no commitment.
You can have commitment without chemistry or compatibility.
It’s so important to know the difference and check in with your relationship green flags, as well as, give things time to unfold if you are dating. And if you are in a relationship already, and noticing things that you are not sure of reach out for professional support as it can help you in the long term.
Have an awesome Magic Monday!
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29/01/2026
Ending the week with some laughs 😂😅 the month of January can sometimes feel like 49 days 😮💨 and we are almost at the end of it. 🫶
What has January been like for you?
Here are some reflection points:
✨Name one thing you are grateful for.
✨Name one thing you found challenging.
✨Name one thing that you learnt about yourself.
✨Name one thing that you are proud of.
👥Share your answers with a friend, and ask them the same questions.
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28/01/2026
Let’s normalize the need for therapists to have spaces where they don’t have to be “on the clock”. I sometimes have a challenge doing this, as there is a certain expectation that I will be open to talking “shop” wherever I go and this can be exhausting, especially after spending an entire day or week helping others. The few people who I spend my personal time with, will ask if I am ok to talk “shop”, and that’s something I value and grateful for. So, if you have people in your life who are therapists, be mindful over having this expectation. And, if you are a lawyer, teacher, doctor, researcher, trainer, and any other professional, know that it’s ok for you to have spaces where you don’t have to be “on the clock” too.
Have a beautiful day.
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27/01/2026
I love this post by kataivisuals as it helps reframe any negative thoughts around January being so long or that the rest of the year may not go as planned maybe because last year was challenging and/or January has been really tough. So go on and grab those opportunities…whether it is to network, connect, be creative, rest, reflect, work, take action, take a pause, spend time with friends, have some me-time, or anything else that comes up for you. An opportunity can present itself, will be open to interpretation and deeply personal too. So do what feels right for you, to get you where you would like to be. You got this!
Have a lovely day.
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26/01/2026
It’s a gorgeous Magic Monday in a sunny Nairobi and to start the week I am sharing a post on some forms of self-neglect that can go unnoticed for a while. These quiet forms of self-neglect can affect your mental health and overall wellbeing; so if you notice any of these in yourself or even a close friend, please remind yourself or them to take care of yourself or themselves.
Have a great day and please take care if you are out and about in Nairobi; the temperatures during the day have been pretty high. And if you have fur babies or animals that you tend to, please make sure they have plenty of fresh water to drink and shade to shield them from the sun. 🌞
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About Cathy Holden and the Almond Tree Wellness Center, Kenya
Before I went to University; I started out not knowing what my life’s purpose would be, but knew it had to do with helping people be their very best version of themselves. I was fortunate enough to study in the United Kingdom and pursued two degrees; back to back; a BSc in Psychology and an MSc in Occupational and Organizational Psychology. I then ended up working in Human Resources in the UK and then moved back to Kenya after 15 years. I carried on working in Human Resources and by 2018 (after 13 years in HR practice) I felt that I needed a change so that I can impact more people by helping them directly. I then took on a new post graduate degree to be a certified S*x Therapist (Therapy Certification Association, based in Miami, Florida).
S*x is in integral part of any relationship and human s*xuality is vast; Do we always know what to do with our s*xuality? Do we know enough about it? These are all questions I kept asking myself for many years, which led to me opening a new business in 2019 - The Almond Tree Wellness Center based in Nairobi, with my office in Doctor’s Park, on 3rd Parklands Avenue, about 100 meters from Aga Khan Hospital.
S*x Therapy is not a new field but while I was growing up, s*x was not something that people talked about freely and I have made it my purpose to help people understand what s*x therapy is about, what a s*x therapist does (and does not do) and how it can help you and/or your partner. There is much more to say on this type of therapy and I am looking forward to sharing my knowledge and expertise with all of you.
I am a member of the Kenya Counselling and Psychological Association and the British Psychological Society. I provide a range of counselling and s*x therapy services and looking forward to meeting and helping as many people as possible.