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19/07/2023

Why your life can't be going wrong…

In fact, your world is designed so that nothing is happening to you, but everything is happening to you — for your awakening, for your growth, for your inspiration, for your exploring, even if you forget or don’t see it when you fall into despair or despair.

When there is no fixed goal, you will never lose your goal, meaning you can never lose your path.

Therefore, nothing that is happening in your life is going to be able to throw you off track. Your way is what happens and what happens is your way. There is no other.

Everything that happens is a gift on this intact journey you call your life.

Laughter, tears, times of great grief, experiences of deep loss, pain, confusion, when you think you can never do anything, heartbreaking love, loss of faith, it's all a show.
But even losing faith in the show is part of the show.

Even the scene where “something goes wrong” doesn’t mean the show goes wrong, and therefore, you’re always where you need to be, believe it or not.

Life can be trusted absolutely, because this trust is a million light years.
And life can't go wrong life is for everyone and life is everything.

Grasping this, knowing it deep in your heart, you understand that spirituality is very simple.
Simple as breathing, as natural as gazing at the stars in the night sky and plunging yourself into silent amazement.
The universe is more beautiful than you can imagine

18/07/2023

Watch out! Guard your energy!

ENERGY VAMPIRES OR BRAVE SOLDIERS OF THE INFERNAL WORLD.

We are all floating in an ocean of energy. This energy is called free, but receiving that energy is not easy. To consciously receive it, a man must expand his energy channels and consciously allow this flow into it. But not everyone consciously can do it, so it's much easier to get someone else's, already adopted energy. It is easily absorbed because it has a certain purity or wave like a radio receiver. To receive other people's energy, it is enough to attent to this purity. The vampire adjusts to the purity of its victim on a subconscious level.

THE FIRST TYPE. THE STEALING VAMPIRE.
Intrusive, interested in you and your personal affairs, stealthily looks into your eyes, tries to shorten the distance when communicating, tries to touch you in any way, hold your hand, touch your mental state, gets into your soul, as a rule, a good psychologist. Can adapt to character and temperament. Sociable, but not charming, but very imposing and it is immediately felt. However, he is aware of his arrogance and tries to not seem so, if possible.

THE SECOND TYPE OF VAMPIRE. THE MANIPULATOR.
Playing on human guilt. Such a vampire is subconsciously looking for people who are ready to surrender themselves to someone else's court or who seek advice in a difficult situation. A person with the least guilt complex also subconsciously seeks someone to condemn him and immediately pardon him. Support and advice are necessary for those who question their own opinion and put themselves on someone else's court. This is how the vampire and the donor find each other and each get what they need. The manipulator easily adjusts to the purity of his victim, to do that you only need to touch the subject that he is concerned about.

THE THIRD TYPE OF VAMPIRE. A PROVOCATOR.
Rude, aggressive. Without thinking, he goes into a head-on attack and tries to derail his victim. All means are used, starting from vague ridicule to rough pressure. The main thing is that the donor comes out of himself, and what will benefit from it in return, rudeness, dislike, etc., - it doesn't matter, everything will work out.

An energy vampire becomes unconscious. During his life, he points out situations in which he receives satisfaction and a surge of strength, and then consciously strives to repeat the experience he gained. Vampire donor is feeling shattered after the session. If you feel broken, weak or trembling after communicating with someone, it means you have been used. However, the lion's share of free energy, thanks to vampires egregors are taken away.

The main thing is to wake up in time. All these guys, in the majority, are unconscious vampires, but a conscious vampire is terrible. Both these and other conductors, egregor puppets, through which they connect to your energy. If the vampire drank and disappeared, the egregor channel stays for a long time and can haunt you for years. DON'T FORGET THAT ENERGY IS YOUR HEALTH AND LIFE.

Until you realize that you are being pi**ed on, you are an OBJECT, a vampire owns you - a SUBJECT. In order to change roles, you need to ignore him or at least wake up realizing that they are trying to understand you... , then you will turn into a SUBJECT and have a parasite, so you don't let him... , no matter how he manipulates. But for this, you need to wake up in time.

Once you realize the vampire, ignore it or simply observe it without reacting to its provocative outbursts. Knowing that you have a vampire will give you a wonderful charge of good mood! :) This is one of the most effective methods.

The purpose of a troll (vampire) is to drink up your energy using the above methods. He doesn't care who and what to argue with and what you prove to him. Started an argument, fell asleep, fell into the vampire arc. I woke up, I met, I saw. THE VAMPIRE - IGNORE.

Most of them are grazed on the Internet. The Internet is a real farm for them. Be vigilant and don't feed parasites.

12/07/2023

Trauma affects the entire subsequent life of a person. We are very resilient and enduring, so we often suffer the consequences much deeper and longer than we think.

Why do we often overlook the impact of trauma?
It affects the functioning of the brain and psyche and changes the map of our lives.

How is this?
Imagine being born given a map of all your life, as a locality, and you saw places to go, different directions, detours. Have you figured out which areas are difficult, which are dangerous, which are impossible to cross alone, and which are pleasant and even places.

Imagine trauma erasing the whole card and replacing it with another label.
Where there are pleasant places, he draws gorges, and impassable forests, and where dangers - roads.
Life starts to look confusing, and it seems that there are no chances of reaching the destination.

After the trauma, a person begins to use a broken map, often sees only obstacles and does not make an attempt to overcome certain sections on the path of life. He avoids pleasures and pleasant life oases. , although most of these obstacles are unrealistic.

How to get back the real map of life?
What is an injury, how to deal with it, is there a chance to recover from it, and how to heal from its effects can be figured out in the therapy process.

Yeah and you can run.
And it won't get any worse :)
Give it a call!

Lydia Babenko, MD, ND, naturopath and psychotherapist.
32 years of professional experience.
Appointment - WhatsApp +356 99469922

12/07/2023

HOW TO FIND LOVE? I WILL FIND MYSELF !

You probably also faced that situation where hope appears, here's the look you seek, the words you dreamed of, here it is... happiness. And suddenly, in a week or even a year, it disappears without a trace, and inside it is covered with regret and sadness - a miss again! How many tries did you take to find your love?

Those who poorly imagine what they want end up in such a situation. To be clearer, let's move to the nearest mall. Have you ever looked at it for no particular purpose and just wandered around, well, maybe even bought something. Remember how much time you waste if you don't know what you want. Even if they bought something, it turned out not what they wanted, but what they wanted they did not understand. No money, no power, no moods.
People do about the same with their lives. They spend years looking for something they cannot imagine. If we talk about the pursuit of love, ask yourself right now how you imagine it. Most likely, you’ll have a glance: “No way! » The consciousness then leaves generally accepted demands: a strong shoulder, honesty, faithfulness, reliability and a dozen other similar characteristics. But where are you in all this? The "generous" may turn out to be "clueless", and you will be more annoyed by his way of throwing everything around the house. "Decent" can be "lazy" to drive you furious as a workaholic, and a "strong shoulder" will pull your muscles and tear your wounded soul with betrayal.

In order to find your love, you need to imagine very well what is important to you personally. Usually, from a large list of desirable characteristics, people select 1-2 of the most important to them. For example, let him not be rich and generous, but faithful and economic; let him be sloppy, capricious, but at least bright and respected by all. This is what a lucky or unlucky choice is based on. You know yourself poorly - you are missing out. Focus well - you get what you want. If you are honest with yourself, you can easily figure out a couple of needs that are crucial for you.
For example, a successful and advanced man in front of you, his natural habit is to give his loved ones all kinds of technical innovations and new experiences. You love technical innovations and new experiences, it happily fits into your life. After a day's work, he desperately needs tenderness, dreams of seeing a beautiful s*xy wife in front of him. It's easy for you to provide him with that kind of atmosphere. Thorough self-care is natural for you. Do you also like hugging, kissing and getting a relaxing massage. Deep affection, love only happens when both find something very important in each other and give that "important" naturally without tension.

So that your search for love does not drag on, start with yourself. Determine what you look for in a relationship:

Unconditional Acceptance. You cannot change, you are willing to receive enthusiastic glances and adoration. An important condition: you must be loved always, in any form, with any habits. No strings attached ! U r a star! Well that says it all.

Worries. You want comfort - both mental and physical. It is important for you to be taken care of, create certain living conditions, and when you are sad, hold your hand or hug.

Protection. You dream to be sheltered from the imperfections of this world. Where needed - they sorted it out, put it on guard. Someone will be reassured by materially reinforced protection - a decent bank account, or a physical - "strong shoulder".

The passions. You’re emotional, temperamental and can’t imagine a relationship without “Mexican passion”. S*x comes first, everything else will wait or it will fall into place somehow.

Generosity. Do you like it when you are pampered, surprises are arranged - the more expensive, the better. Are you sure that the price of a gift determines your attitude.

A boost in self esteem. You want to be proud of your chosen one. It is important who he is, how he looks, how he is treated in society. To feel that you are a part of his life is a great happiness for you and ... nice to tickle the ego.

Allow yourself to be yourself! For some, your habit of "singing in the morning" and "watching cartoons at night" will be a long-awaited success. The more fakes and unnatural things in your behavior, the longer and harder you will have to organize your private life.
When you know what you want and understand what you can give, life becomes much easier. The probability of missing decreases by multiples. You no longer waste your time on empty relationships, you relax, you acquire your own special charm. Besides formulating your desire to meet someone with specific characteristics, your unconsciousness is actively involved in the implementation of your plans. And this means that very soon your heart will stumble and you will finally recognize your beloved and dearest person in the crowd. Pavel Kolesov

08/07/2023

I can help you heal… https://rb.gy/5qilg

It was never you that was not enough.

No.

This "not enoughness" was an intelligent mechanism in a young, undeveloped psyche that came online to protect you as a response to NOT ENOUGH CARE in the environment.

To admit that the love of a parent, the provision of a caretaker or the nourishment and holding of an environment was not enough would have been devastating for a tiny, developing nervous system to process.

This adaptation allowed you to figure out how to get your needs met by matching those around you...unfortunately at the expense of disconnecting from vital aspects of your essence.

The running mythic narrative of "not enough" in the background of the psyche is a reaction to a lack of love and care in our lives that became an identity.

The lack of care was internalized and identified with as one's own lack.

But...

It was not true,
it is not true
and it will never be true.

"Not enough" is what kept you safe and adaptable.

"Not enough" might even be what kept you alive.

We have forgotten that at some point most of our ancestors had to cut themselves off from the roots of their essential nature in order to survive war, illness, massive upheavals and sociocultural changes evolving us into a world of manufactured lack in order to produce MORE and flourish LESS.

We have been loyal to this suffering as a form of love for way too long.

There will never be enough we can produce to win the mythic enoughness game.
There will never be enough we can do to escape ourselves.
There will never be enough positive affirmations, workshops or spiritual hacks.
There will never be enough ways to dumb down or numb out.
There will never be enough searching or swiping.
There will never be enough validation.
There will never be enough we can buy.
There will never be enough excuses.
There will never be enough healing.

There will never be enough of anything in a world of manufactured scarcity that will make up for, fill the void or finally give us that deep satisfaction of resting deeply in the sense of real love that is our essence.

A world based in lack will never be enough for us.

It will never provide us with the resources we need, the holding required, the nourishment that is our birthright, the nurturing that is natural or the love that is our design.

It will never want to release us from the ancestral vows and contracts we unconsciously made along the way that we must remain loyal to this suffering as a form of love, that we must suffer to grow and that enoughness is something we must manufacture.

It will never be enough because what can never be named or acknowledged is that this lack of love is hurting our collective hearts and harming the ecosystem of life on this planet.

It will never be enough because it has wiped grief out of the lexicon and left us feeling our humanity is flawed for feeling our feelings in the first place.

Grief.

The very thing that can heal us.

It is our grief that is love.
It is our grief that is aliveness.
It is our grief that yearns and knows and longs and cares.
It is our grief that will liberate us.
It is our grief that will pull us back into the truth of our own essence.
It is our grief that liberates our shame back into wholeness.
It is our grief that heals us.

It is grief that will set us free.

You were always, always, ALWAYS enough.

More love.
Not less.

~ Dr. Mia Hetényi: https://www.sacredalchemyhealing.com/

[Art: Mary Alayne Thomas]

04/07/2023

Going through perimenopause or menopause? Feeling depressed and thinking best days of your life are behind you? Not the case! Read on… even if you are a very special and rare man who cares and wants to understand his partner!

Women are increasingly discussing the forgetfulness, anxiety and suicidal thoughts they have experienced as their hormones change in midlife. Why is more help not available?

Changes in your hormones during menopause can impact your mental health as well as your physical health. You may experience feelings of anxiety, stress or even depression. Menopausal symptoms may include:
* anger and irritability
* anxiety
* forgetfulness
* loss of self-esteem
* loss of confidence
* low mood and feelings of sadness or depression
* poor concentration – often described as 'brain fog' and/or lost words

Many women experiencing menopause or perimenopause will experience problems with sleeping. Lack of sleep and tiredness can also make symptoms including irritability, ability to concentrate or anxiety worse.

Menopause has a variety of physical symptoms such as tiredness, night sweats, insomnia, hot flashes, memory loss and tension. During menopause, it’s common for menopause to impact mental health too. Symptoms include mood changes such as irritability, sadness, lack of motivation, aggressiveness, problems focusing, stress, difficulty concentrating, and depression. Much like constant premenstrual syndrome (PMS), these effects can cause emotional strain. If you have a pre-existing mental health problem, it’s possible that the effects of menopause could cause a relapse or change to your mental health.

Today, many younger women are experiencing Perimenopause … which means "around menopause" and refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years. Perimenopause is also called the menopausal transition.

Women start perimenopause at different ages. You may notice signs of progression toward menopause, such as menstrual irregularity, sometime in your 40s. But some women notice changes as early as their mid-30s.

Some possible contributing factors for severe perimenopause symptoms include a higher body mass index (BMI), smoking, and alcohol consumption.
Scientists are still learning why some people experience worse symptoms than others. This information comes from a 2018 review.

In some women experience severe symptoms which may also be a sign that a person has a different health condition. For example, uterine fibroids may cause symptoms that overlap with perimenopause.

Perimenopause symptoms are severe when they affect a person’s ability to carry out daily tasks or when they significantly affect their mental health. A person may experience:
* night sweats
* hot flashes
* mood swings or irritability
* a low mood
* concentration problems
* less frequent periods that get increasinglyTrusted Source�far apart
* headaches
* vaginal dryness
* pain during s*x
* less interest in s*x
* heart palpitations
* insomnia
* fatigue
* joint or muscle pain
* urinary tract infections (UTIs)

For decades condescension, even from the medical sector, have kept women from asking certain questions twice.

If you are interested in learning more and living your best possible life, get in touch as we are planning a very interesting workshop to understand, what you can do (yes there are remedies no one tells you about!) to live an exciting and happy life to the full.

28/06/2023

This is NOT love!

Dislike is when they are not scolded in particular, but not praised. Not being noticed. When it is uncomfortable to eat near a loved one - he can tell you that you eat a lot. A person will eat the food you cook and will not say anything. And it won't notice the effort when you clean up and put the flowers in the vase.

Dislike is when nothing is allowed. When you annoy, disturb, climb, carry rubbish, blow your brain, sit quietly in a corner and wait for them to take you for a walk. And don't skuli, don't ostrich, don't roar - sit quietly and wait. When they do not intervene and say: "it's their own fault!" » is not love.

When they don't give anything - it's not love. When you feel sorry for money, it's not love. This is not hate. Sometimes it's even worse because they hate for something like envy. And you can leave or hand over. And they don't love - just like that. Although they say: "yes, I love you, just go away, you're on your own again!" ". That's what it is - not love. And they die of her. Especially the elderly, children and dogs. And adults who are vulnerable and sensitive.
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Dislike makes a person timid, clumsy, stiff and ugly; he is afraid to ruin everything, hinder, irritate... You can't do anything here; if you have the strength - you have to leave at least with a knot on a stick. Or at least to make it clear - it's not love. Not love.

26/06/2023

The three stages of growing up

The first is a support to external rules. I am small and weak, and the world is big and complicated. More mature and experienced people tell me what rules should be lived by. I listen with an open mouth, I absorb, I try to comply, and I'm ashamed when I don't work. And so I learn to live in accordance with external morals.

The second one is the pillar of internal rules. I'm finding that some of the rules I swallowed don't work and is fundamentally ruining my life. Some of these are terribly unfair and toxic and some are just plain stupid. And then I begin to slowly digest them, to make amendments and changes. I'm gradually developing my own set of rules - inner morals - and learning to trust myself.

The third one is the pillar of reality. Based on myself and my own morals, I find that any rule is a huge simplification and limitation of the real picture. In most situations, there is no perfect "right answer" - there are only numerous "for" and "against", and I can choose. More precisely, I can find that I choose so in some situations, in others - edak, and there are no rules for that. I am learning to trust not only myself, but also the world I live in, where there were no universal rules, and there cannot be.
But damn sometimes I wish they were.

Andrei Yudin

26/06/2023

An evil person cannot be happy, because remaining alone with himself, he remains alone with the villain.
Immanuel Kan

26/06/2023

Narcissism -
A very "fashionable diagnosis" these days, similar to a sentence often given out by professionals and everyone in a row who does not meet the "boundaries" in a relationship.
But what's behind it?

5 problems of narcissists you didn't know about.
How is the world of narcissistic people?

- Unstable self esteem
Externally confident, in reality narcissists rarely suffer from emotional swings. Hypertrophic perfectionism in one's own personality causes these people to admire themselves and their achievements, or, on the contrary, to hate the reflection in the mirror. The narcissist’s self-esteem is completely unstable, which makes him dependent on the approval of others. That is, such a person cannot even perceive his successes soundly, because the main criteria for him is someone else's assessment. It's hard to guess this is a failed scheme.

"Deep down we want to be accepted by people. To be with them in a good relationship. We want to love and be loved. But on the way to this, we are sharpened by the power of slow-motion — our feeling unworthy of it all. Because we are not at the top of the pyramid of social success that all social networks are full of, we feel worthless and incomplete. Almost every narcissist is afraid - what if everyone found out that we are nothing of ourselves? Because our own achievements seem insufficient for us to legally consider ourselves normal."

- Forced isolation
Attempts to become the best, unique, to stay on top of Olympus traditionally lead narcissists to loneliness. It is widely spread opinion that such people are arrogant snobs. But this is not their only problem that leads to isolation.

Narcissists cannot hear anyone but themselves. They're so absorbed in maintaining the status quo that they just can't see anything around them. All they care about is recognition. And ironically, the more narcissist focuses on himself, the faster he distances himself from society and plunges himself into non-voluntary isolation.

"The narcissist moves alone." He seems to be okay with it and he's quite pleased with his independent position. Isolation from people, the distance is everything about him... But if y’all only knew how much pain his inability to be in a relationship and feel uncomfortable in them is causing him. His childhood experience of unwantedness and abandonment is the organizing fantasy he lives with all his life. No one needs a narcissist inside her. No one cares about his feelings, opinions and judgments, no matter how important and intelligent he tries to be."

- Impersonator syndrome
Many suffer from the notorious syndrome. Uncertainty in one's competence, doubts in one's own successes - all of these greatly poison one's life. But in the case of narcissists, things are much more difficult. After all, to combine at the same time a firm confidence in your own uniqueness and an awareness of your complete insignificance is not easy, even painful. That's why the impostor syndrome is more painful in such people than in any of us.

“On the one hand, the narcissist does not feel worthy, knowledgeable and professional despite any merit, experience and recognition. He was nothing inside himself, but he remains the same despite having four diplomas, a scientific degree, several monographs, a state award and respect from his colleagues. On the other hand, the narcissist evaluates himself and his results on the basis of some incredible and incomprehensible criteria that either truly cannot be met at all or requires a special degree of gift, which most of us do not have."

- Inability to enjoy life
Narcissists chase after a ghostly ideal, try to maintain the illusion of their uniqueness, they face loneliness. All of this takes a lot of effort. Such people have no time or energy left to live a full life. The ability to enjoy little things, enjoy the moment, in short, do everything that others do is also missing. "I don't like beautiful sunsets, honestly, when the most important peaks have not yet been conquered," - such logic haunts narcissists. And the trap of this position is that the end of the race is not foreseeable, one victory will require another, and a third. In other words, this song will be eternal.

"Pleasure will distract the narcissist from improving and moving upward. And any stop is a waste of time that could've been spent more efficiently. Any relaxation is freedom and slipping into the masses of ordinary people. And these are narcissists' worst nightmares! »

- Denial of reality
Each of us has made mistakes at least once in our lives and taken the wrong path. But if many people are motivated by their mistakes, then it is much more difficult to deal with narcissists. The thing is that they cannot admit their wrongs even to themselves, which means they can avoid failures later on. I wonder, can an exceptional, unique and the best person do anything wrong? This is why narcissists deny reality, preferring to live in their own perfect world, from which they sometimes simply cannot escape.

“This doesn’t mean that non-narcissistic people don’t suffer from the fact that they’ve failed and they haven’t done anything.” They are suffering and how! Crying, sad, angry and then again in the circle. Everyone has a hard time going through loss, divorce, failure. The narcissist can’t have that. Because the risk is too great for his psyche. It is better to save strength in the fight against circumstances, but not to admit your own powerlessness."

From the book of a psychologist
Yulia Pirumova
Fragile people