Musarrat Seekdaur • EMDR Therapy

08/02/2026

In Mauritian culture, where family is sacred, conversations about estrangement land differently. Context matters.

When family is sacrosanct, even the language we use around healing and distance carries weight. In Mauritian families, estrangement isn’t just a concept; it is a fear, even in the presence of unresolved conflict or trauma.

Discussing estrangement without cultural sensitivity can deepen that fear;for both parents and adult children who may wish to address trauma without severing family ties, in keeping with their own beliefs.

As a result, some may abandon the idea of therapy altogether.

Estrangement should never be addressed recklessly.

12/01/2026

07/01/2026

What would it feel like to be the first person in your family to notice and work on the wrongful practices that may have been going on for generations?
Think about language, attitude, parenting, conflict management… what if you were the first to learn to do things differently?
What if you learnt to repair, assemble, set healthy boundaries, and overall make healthier choices that positively impact you and your loved ones?
What if, by doing the work, you inspired fellow family members to speak up in safe spaces, get professional help if needed, and finally free themselves from ghosts that may have been haunting them for years?
Be the change you want to see.

05/01/2026

…and she probably means well 🫶🏼
However, your grandma may not know that in Mauritius, unless your therapist is also a medical doctor/psychiatrist, they cannot prescribe medication! This is a very common misconception.
If need be, your therapist will refer you to a psychiatrist who will help with managing medication in a way that promotes your wellbeing.

03/01/2026

…and it’s very important for you not to listen to said uncle.
In the Mauritian society, some family members will always frown upon seeing a therapist. I have noticed over the years that the problem is NOT always “dimoune ki pou dire”.
Often, people don’t know how therapy works, and don’t know about confidentiality protocols that apply. Many people don’t know what is discussed in the therapy room and how the therapist maintains boundaries with their clients. Their fears are often based on not knowing whether therapists can handle their issues with utmost respect and compassion.
At times, educating family members about therapy is the first step. People need to learn more about the safe space that therapy provides (as opposed to a gossip room).

02/01/2026

May 2026 be the year where we strive to treat ourselves with compassion and kindness.

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18/12/2025

The practice marks its fifth anniversary this January 2026.
I’m grateful for each and every referral, and word of support along the way.
The work is rooted in human stories, and trust is an honour that I don’t take lightly.
Here’s to focus, consistency, and a tad too much black coffee ☕️
Onwards 🤲🏼

17/12/2025

15/12/2025

Happy 5th anniversary to this page! To more years of educational content! 😊

12/12/2025

During the end of year period, many families come together. Whether they’re celebrating or not, relatives may interact a lot more during the holiday season. Unfortunately, this is not a peaceful time for everyone, especially those who have suffered from abuse perpetrated by a family member.
For the people who had to resort to estrangement to protect their sanity, the end of year period can be incredibly painful and lonely. They may have constant reminders of their trauma during that period, especially if other family members come together to celebrate and they are excluded. This means that they need support and understanding, not further isolation or judgment from pop psychology buffs, influencers, bitter relatives or wannabe therapists online.
Public figures like Oprah and Mel Robbins have a wealth of knowledge to offer about several topics. But estrangement is complex and layered. Estrangement is not the result of petty fights. Confusing estrangement with adult tantrums shifts the blame on the victim. Suddenly the abuser receives all the attention for being neglected or abandoned.

03/12/2025

Therapists don’t ask clients to go no contact. They don’t use labels like “emotionally immature” parents.

02/12/2025

Probably the last post for this year.
Like every year, I find that more people from all walks of life brave the shame and seek help. People are a lot more articulate about their feelings, pain and challenges. More men who were not raised to speak about their feelings are asking how to do so, and it’s never too late to learn!
I haven’t had the time to write much this year, yet it’s been a great year. I’m grateful to all the people who trusted me and who have recommended my services to others too.