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10/10/2025

World Mental Health Day reminds us that caring for the mind is just as vital as caring for the body. This year, juat like any other, let us break the silence, challenge stigma, and make compassion our daily habit, for ourselves and others. Healing begins when we listen without judgment, speak with kindness, and create spaces where every emotion is valid.

Let us keep reminding one another: mental health matters every day for everyone.
Professor Chiwoza Bandawe

01/10/2025

Unprocessed pain doesn’t disappear, it disguises itself in our words, moods, and relationships.

Professor Chiwoza Bandawe

30/09/2025

Resentment is the prison where we lock ourselves with the one who hurt us.

Professor Chiwoza Bandawe

29/09/2025

Bitterness is unhealed justice living in the soul.

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17/09/2025

FACING ELECTION DEFEAT WITH DIGNITY

First published with Nation Publications Limited on September 13, 2025.

As Malawi prepares for elections on 16 September 2025, excitement is building across the nation as campaigning period closes. But while every candidate dreams of victory, whether for Ward Councilor, Member of Parliament, or State President, the truth of elections is that not everyone can win. Democracy produces both winners and losers. What will matter most for Malawi’s peace and democratic maturity is how candidates handle defeat.

In preparing ahead of the election day itself, the first step for every candidate is psychological preparation. Leadership requires courage to pursue victory, but also resilience to accept loss. Candidates must learn to separate their self-worth from the election results. Losing an election does not mean one has failed as a person or leader. It simply means the people have made a choice for this moment.

Preparing both a victory and a concession speech ahead of time can help guard against emotional reactions when results are announced. Literally write down both speeches before Tuesday. Also draft your social media responses both for victory and defeat. Having a support system of family, advisors, or faith leaders is also critical for processing the emotions that come with either outcome.

When results are announced, the first reaction sets the tone. A candidate who acknowledges the outcome respectfully, even when disappointed, shows maturity and safeguards national peace. Publicly congratulating the winner may feel painful, but it sends a powerful signal to supporters that violence or unrest is not acceptable.

At the same time, candidates should avoid inflammatory language. Unfounded claims of fraud or threats of resistance can ignite division and chaos. Where there are genuine grievances, the proper path is through lawful processes such as the courts or the Malawi Electoral Commission.

The story does not end with defeat. Candidates can use the experience as an opportunity for reflection. Questions like “What did I learn about leadership, my community, or my strategy?” can turn disappointment into growth.

It is also important to remain engaged. Leadership is not limited to Parliament or State House. Those who fall short at the polls can still serve by supporting community projects, building party structures, engaging in civil society, or mentoring the next generation.

Emotional healing is equally vital. Candidates should not dismiss the sense of grief that follows loss. Faith practices, counselling, and family support can provide space for processing emotions in healthy ways. Many great leaders, from Nelson Mandela to Ghana’s John Mahama, endured defeats before later achieving historic successes.

For presidential candidates, how defeat is handled can influence the peace of the entire nation. For parliamentary candidates, the message is that service to one’s community does not depend solely on winning a seat. For ward councilors, local influence remains powerful; defeat does not erase one’s voice in shaping community wellbeing.

Elections are not the end of leadership but one of many opportunities to serve. Preparing for defeat with dignity shows maturity, strengthens peace, and leaves the door open for future leadership.

As Malawians head to the polls this Tuesday, let us remember: how our leaders manage defeat will not only shape their personal futures, but also define the strength of our democracy.

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15/09/2025

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13/09/2025

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13/09/2025

Psychology of the Voter
Conclusion

Fourth, think beyond self-interest. From a psychological perspective, one of the biggest voter traps is narrow self-interest. We vote for the person who will “help my family,” “help my village,” or “give me a job,” without considering the nation as a whole. A responsible voter
asks: Will this candidate make decisions that benefit all Malawians, not just a few? Will they unite rather than divide?

Fifth, overcome group pressure. In Malawi, voting is often influenced by family, tribe, or religious affiliation. While loyalty is a powerful social force, it can override independent thinking. Psychologists call this conformity bias: the tendency to follow the group to avoid conflict. A responsible voter weighs the group’s views but makes their final decision privately, based on personal conviction. The secrecy of the ballot is a gift, so use it.

Sixth, prepare well for election day. The days before the election are the voter’s mental preparation time. Review the candidates. Discuss issues with people who think differently. Picture the Malawi you want for the next five years and choose accordingly.

Remember, a campaign rally is not just entertainment: it’s an interview for the highest job in service to the nation. On 16 September, the ballot paper will not ask about your tribe, your village, or who gave you sugar last week. It will simply ask: Who will lead? The answer you give will be your voice in shaping Malawi’s future.

13/09/2025

The Psychology of the Voter

Part 1.

Last week we explored the psychology requirements of a good leader. As voters, we too have a role to play in the elections on 16 September. On that day, millions of Malawians will quietly walk into polling stations, mark their ballots, and slip them into sealed boxes. No marching bands, no drum rolls, just the simple act of a pen on paper. Yet that moment is one of the most powerful in a democracy. It is the day when the psychology of the voter shapes the psychology of the nation.

A voter’s role is not just to show up. It is to make an informed, deliberate choice that serves
the long-term wellbeing of the country. This is a responsibility that requires self-awareness,
critical thinking, and a sense of national stewardship.

Psychologically, many voters underestimate their personal impact. We tell ourselves, “I am
just one person, my vote doesn’t matter.” This is a mental trap. In reality, every big election
is a sum of small decisions. Believing your vote is powerless encourages apathy;
Understanding its potential encourages responsibility. A responsible voter sees their ballot as part of a collective decision with long-term consequences. This means treating the vote with the seriousness of any major life choice, like choosing a career, buying a home, or starting a family.

Second, voters have a responsibility to seek truth. Human beings naturally take mental
shortcuts. We are drawn to familiar names, charming speeches, or generous handouts.
Psychologists call this heuristic thinking. While it saves time, it can also lead to shallow
choices that ignore deeper realities.

A responsible voter resists this shortcut. They ask: What is this candidate’s track record? Do
Do their promises have a plan behind them? How have they handled challenges before? This requires reading manifestos, attending debates, and asking direct questions when candidates visit communities.

Third, guard against emotional manipulation. Elections are emotionally charged. Candidates
know how to stir pride, fear, anger, or hope. But strong emotions can cloud judgment. In
Malawi, we have seen rallies where the excitement of dancing, chanting, and handouts
overshadows critical analysis. A responsible voter knows emotions are important, but they do not vote on excitement alone. They pause, cool down, and ask themselves: If this candidate wasn’t giving me a T-shirt or free meal, would I still believe in their vision?

03/09/2025

The Psychology of Good Leadership
Part 1
By Chiwoza Bandawe

On 16 September 2025, Malawians will head to the polls to elect ward councillors, members of parliament, and a state president. Campaign posters will fill our streets, promises will flood our radios, and handshakes will multiply in our markets. But as voters, we have a responsibility to look beyond colourful slogans and free T-shirts. We need to ask: What kind of mind and heart does this person have to lead us?

Psychology gives us valuable insight into the characteristics that separate good leaders from those who may fail us. Leadership is not just about education, charisma, or having the loudest voice. It is about the mental and emotional qualities that guide decisions and shape behaviour.

First, emotional intelligence. The best leaders understand and manage their own emotions while also recognising and respecting the emotions of others. Emotional intelligence (EI) involves empathy, self-control, and social skills.

Why does this matter for voters? A leader with high EI will not erupt into anger in parliament or humiliate citizens on the campaign trail. Instead, they listen deeply, keep their composure under pressure, and build unity rather than division.

Second, integrity and consistency. Psychologically, integrity is the alignment between values, words, and actions. Leaders with integrity are consistent; what they promise in the village is the same thing they stand for in the capital city.

Why it matters for voters: A leader without integrity might make sweet promises during elections but change their tune once in power. Look for candidates whose track record shows honesty, transparency, and consistency in decision-making, even when it is inconvenient.

Third, cognitive flexibility. Effective leaders can think from multiple perspectives. They are not rigid in their thinking but can adapt when circumstances change. This is called cognitive flexibility.

Why it matters for voters: Malawi faces complex challenges, from climate change impacts to youth unemployment. Leaders who can not adjust their plans will leave us stuck. Look for candidates who can explain how they adapt to new information, not just repeat old slogans.

27/08/2025

Blaming is the abuse of your personal power. By blaming something, you transfer your power to it, and it becomes your superior.

Dr Ishmael Tetteh
Conscious Humanity Ghana

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07/04/2025

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