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01/01/2023

ACCEPTANCE

Hey,I remember last year I posted something about wondering why some things happen,that was the first post of the year and this year on the same note I want us to start with acceptance.
Last year taught me that sometimes you just have just have to take a deep breath and let things flow,this is one of my favourite quotes "acceptance is the key to be truly free".
Dear Reader Happy New Year🤍

06/09/2022

ENJOY THE NOW

Something that God has been teaching me lately is how to be content with where i am.
Life is always moving,changing and shifting into its next shape and most of us get lost in that,we're always hoping for the next thing,hoping for the next day,next year etc
We focus so much on tomorrow so much so that we forget to enjoy today,we forget to enjoy the now.
If we could only take some time to appreciate the present and what we have right now or where we are right we would see how beautiful our lives really are.

So we are convinced that every detail of our lives is continually woven together to fit into God’s perfect plan of bringing good into our lives, for we are his lovers who have been called to fulfill his designed purpose.
Romans 8:28 TPT

That verse says every detail of our lives and not just specific days or moments but every detail.
So dear reader deep breath,slow down and just enjoy the moment you're in right now,happy new month.😊

24/06/2022

I met someone who's scars matched with my own. Our pain was identical mark for mark. Tear for tear, I didn't need to explain for her to understand, her story was my story. We passed the cup of bitterness, sip for sip. Toxic to to each other we both knew it. But we clung to each other, like for dear life. Thinking the world will never make sense losing you. We talked of our scars until they opened again. We hurt each other with no one to blame by ourselves, we plotted su***de together. Tempted to sleep together, thinking s*x was the antidote we desperately longed for. Or just another pill to sedate the pain. Buying time, it was all just buying time. Minutes into days as much we could purchase with the little hope we had. She belonged to someone else, oops did I forgot to mention that, Jealous arouse her boyfriend. He threatened war and I was ready. Then she disappeared.

To be continued.

Dear readers never fall in the trap of loving someone because you have the same scars. Healing is when you choose not to associate with your past pain or any remembrance of it. Seeking better and healthy environments to recover and unlearn anything that has to go. It goes without saying it's only God who heals you.

14/02/2022

Hello guys. How are you.

Today I wanted to share on soul healing. You see the brain is an amazing organ it processes the pain of rejection the same way it processes a physical injury like a knife stub. Were physical injuries heal but emotional pain doesn't heal on it's own (so imagine an emotional equivalency of a knife stub not healing it hurts guys). So people call these soul wounds. So today I wanna us to share things that we can do to protect ourselves from rejection or the pain of it.

Here is my list

First avoid over sharing: learn to keep secrets, but bottled up secrets eat you up. Find someone to share with but keep a healthy balance, be kind to yourself don't share too sensitive issues to anyone. Just pray and tell God your issues don't depend on people too much.

Don't flirt and avoid situation-ships: when it comes to love be sober and direct, flirting arouses feelings that belong in a relationship, and it's never enough and you end up feeling rejected.

Don't fall in love solely because you "Click": there is more to it, that makes a relationship work than clicking.

Learn to love yourself that you don't need to be loved by someone else to be happy: this is a big one guys.
I myself deal with loneliness a lot in my daily life. But building a healthy environment where you don't need another person to feel happy, is a key to master.
Anyway guys thank you. And please share your experiences too.

11/02/2022

Part 2
I am 23 scared of turning 24. Scared of looking in mirrors (mirrors only reflect things that exist Right?), scared of the voices in my head that ask if I really exist or not. And the fact that life is lived through people came knocking at my door I was slow to let it in, but it came in anyway. A thorn to what I thought life was to be like, just me and God, in our glorious sand castle. Never sent invites but people showed up anyway. It was all merry until they called me Weird. Like an onion I tried to peel one layer thinking my identity was the next, isn't what we all do when we don't fit in.

With a loving gentleness He told me, my mind was a scam built on insecurities. I am afraid I have never really lived nor do I know how. All I know is God, Angels and heavenly beings. This world scares me. People scare me. But it's not a spirit of fear I have been given, that is my only hope. "By his Spirit, I am."

To be continued........ Thank you for reading my story.

11/02/2022

Drama after drama, sizzled with awful abuse here and there. I built walls around me to keep me from the violence. Things I was good at became my sole identity, like my ability to massage words to please and flatter people, was my safety net. Puberty hit and all I could envision were happily ever afters with every girl I liked, the thirsty to jump to pretty much anything with a pulse. Hormones and desperation were tools I deployed to deceive myself. So I could hide the void in me that my fickle walls couldn't satisfy. Rejection was quick to follow, my façade couldn't hold a candle to the real thing. Rejection not by some but all. It cut deeper than blades in my heart and lungs. My self-esteem was butchered and I became quite, too quite.
When I was myself they called me weird, it later became my identity "the weird nerd."

I was saved, fell in love with Jesus and what a party it was and still is. He didn't mind my weirdness. He loved me through it all. And though not all the pieces were there, like some jigsaw puzzle. It's has never been picture perfect yet. But knowing you're the son of God, loved and valued in his eyes. By Him whose opinion is the only that really matters and he has the plan for your life is the perfect description of identity.

08/01/2022

WHY?

There comes a time in our lives atleast once or twice or more that we find ourselves asking why,why is this happening to me?,why is God doing this to me?.
I know we've all been there and it's not pretty, it's never pretty. I'd been through so many situations like that I thought if this ever happens again I'll be alright, I'm strong now,but I wasn't,mostly because I didn’t see it coming,it came and it destroyed me.
For the first time in my life I thought God hated me,otherwise why would he let something like that happen to me right?
I thought the love of God didn't exist.i gave up.
I cried till I couldn't breathe, I kept asking why,why me,why this,why now.
I'm sure God was speaking but I refused to listen till one day there was a certain song on my heart,I looked for it,found it,listened to it and I just broke down,it was like it was written just for me,I could hear God speaking to me through the lyrics and that was my turning point,I'm not saying it was instant,like I suddenly let go of everything and got better,no but I got enough strength to get back up and to live again, I still had tears rolling down my face but I could see again.
I never got answers to my whys but what I got instead was better,I got comfort and I was reminded that I'm not alone.
So you probably won't get any answers no matter how hard to ask why but know that in your confusion and pain you're not alone,God is with you and you'll be alright, might not be in the few days or months but you'll be alright and then you'll finally understand why.
Dear reader,happy new year.🤍

20/12/2021

Memories

The area/place 0f your life where you've experienced your greatest pain is the same place where you'll experience your greatest joy and God in a different more amazing way.
So I was away for a bit and I just got back a few days ago,I was happy to be home and all but not so happy to be in my room because I have some horrible memories attached to my room.
So as soon as I got here I was like oh no here we go again,I'm going to be depressed all over again,I'll be sad again,I'll be suicidal again all sorts of things just because I walked into a room,I felt like my room just had bad vibes and I was already feeling so low,remembering all the tears I've cried in this room,all the times I felt alone or rather had to deal with my pain alone in this room. After that I started thinking of ways I can keep myself busy so that my environment (my room doesn't affect me) I was praying asking God to get me out of here because my peace is somewhere outthere not here then after that I remembered that those aren't the only feelings I felt when I walked into my room,there was something else that I was choosing to ignore,I was being welcomed back home because this same place that I hate so much is where God met me,in all my pain and suffering and crying.
God found me right here,not anywhere else but this same room,I learnt to pray,listen,cast down all my burdens in this same room,my room turned into my prayer closet that's why I was welcomed back.
The place I hate so much is the place that changed,I'm who I am today because of everything I experienced in this room,the good and the bad.
"There's a place where fear has to meet the God you know"- casting crowns ,I never used to understand that line But I do now,God comes to that place where your fears and other issues reside and for me that was my room,I still have the bad memories but now they're a testimony everything in here reminds me of how God found me right here and saved me so I have good memories too.

05/12/2021

Don't forget who you are

I have these moments where when I'm in a group of people and someone says something about me like they're joking but it gets to me,it upsets me and I'll act like I'm okay while my whole day has been ruined from just one comment/joke. My head starts spinning and I start looking down on my self and I just say horrible things to myself,I judge myself and bring myself down all because someone said something kinda mean to me.
And today I was asking myself why I do this,then I asked God because I obviously don't know why this happens to me and the answer I got was that sometimes I forget who I am, and forgetting means that I know who I am but I unintentionally can't seem to remember who that person is.

For it was always in his perfect plan to adopt us as his delightful children, through our union with Jesus, the Anointed One, so that his tremendous love that cascades over us would glorify his grace—for the same love he has for his Beloved One, Jesus, he has for us. And this unfolding plan brings him great pleasure!
Ephesians 1:5‭-‬6 TPT
https://bible.com/bible/1849/eph.1.5-6.TPT

Those verses tell us that we are Gods delightful children,that's who we are and we are loved,loved so much that we're a part of a perfect plan a plan that brings God great pleasure,that's how God feels about your life
Your life brings him great pleasure never forget that.
I know that it's easier said than done but I hope this encourages you and helps you remember who you are,people will talk and look down on you but what matters is that you don't look down on you because you have a father who doesn't look down on you.
Dear reader I hope this helps you feel better 🤍

For it was always in his perfect plan to adopt us as his delightful children, through our union with Jesus, the Anointed One, so that his tremendous love that cascades over us would glorify his grace

30/11/2021

SHATTERED

If you're shattered every piece of you that's on the floor he can restore - Blanca.

So this is a song that I love to listen to when I'm feeling low,down,hopeless and everything else because it reminds me that I'm not alone,in the song she talks about being shattered and one of the definitions of the word shatter is to smash or break into tiny pieces.
When something is shattered it can't be put back together because it's been broken into a million tiny pieces and let's be realistic when you break something you don't usually try to put it back together even if it's something you can do but something that's shattered has no hope you just have to let it go.
So in that song she says that if youre shattered every piece of you that's on the floor he(God) can restore, God can put you back together in ways you never thought were possible the world tells us that something that's been shattered can not be put back together because it's beyond repair but God says he can restore you,he can restore every area of your life and you'll be stronger than before.
So if you feel like your world has shattered or you're shattered and you just don't know what to do or where to go let me encourage you today you have God on your side he knows you and he knows how to put you and your life back together no matter the circumstance,trust him and talk to him.
Isaiah 58:8 Then shall your light break forth like the morning, and your healing (your restoration and the power of a new life) shall spring forth speedily; your righteousness (your rightness, your justice, and your right relationship with God) shall go before you [conducting you to peace and prosperity], and the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.
Dear reader you're not alone🤍

25/11/2021

BE YOU

A few years ago I would've given anything to be someone else or to be the girl that everyone liked but the funny thing is the more I tried to be someone I wasn't or someone I thought people would like the more uncomfortable I felt.
I lied about the music I liked, changed the way I dressed I even tried to hate my favorite food all because I wanted to be liked so that meant I had to do everything I loved in secret but there's really no secret under the Sun,people would find me being me and say things like "I can't believe you like that" or "you're so boring " like it meant nothing and I would be left heart broken and frustrated thinking is there something wrong with people who are like me?
Here's the answer,NO.
Took me a while to realise that but if you're out there having those thoughts I want you to know that's there's nothing wrong with you ,you're fine just the way you are.
Be yourself and you'll meet people who genuinely like you and also enjoy the things you like sometimes not because they like those things but because they truly care about you and that means respecting everything that matters to you.
Psalm 139 vs 14 says I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made,marvelous are your works and that my soul knows very well.
Marvelous are Gods works and you're one of them.
So dear reader I hope this gives you peace today and also gives you courage to be the fearfully and wonderfully made you that you are.
🤍

09/11/2021

HEALING

Something that I've learnt about healing this year is that most of us think/believe that after the healing process we'll become perfect people,we think we'll never remember that situation again or we'll never think of those people again, the things that used to trigger us won't etc but that train of thought is why we're not getting better. We're looking for the impossible, nobody's perfect.
True healing is when you think about that person that hurt you but you no longer feel like strangling them,when you remember that situation but you don't lock yourself in your room for a week instead you say okay that happened, I'm still sad about it but I'd rather do something fun to keep my mind off it.
So give yourself some credit and don't be too hard on yourself,you're getting better.
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