25/09/2025
Facing Change and Loss, We All Share a Similar Emotional Map
Life is full of various forms of "loss"; A failed plan, the end of a relationship, farewell to an era, or a decline in health. In these moments, our emotions often go through a process that can be understood.
This is what the famous Kübler-Ross Model (also known as the "Five Stages of Grief") describes as the DABDA process:
1️⃣ Denial
"This can't be happening." A defense mechanism that helps cushion the initial shock.
2️⃣ Anger
"Why me?" When denial fades, frustration turns into anger, which may be directed at others, circumstances, or even oneself.
3️⃣ Bargaining
"If only I had... would things be different?" We try to "negotiate" to reverse or change the outcome, filled with regret and "what ifs."
4️⃣ Depression
Intense sadness, emptiness, and despair set in. This is not an illness, but a deep mourning of the reality of the loss.
5️⃣ Acceptance
This doesn’t mean you’re "all better," but rather that you’ve learned to coexist with reality and found a sense of peace and strength to move forward.
It’s important to note: These five stages are not linear. Everyone may cycle through them in different orders and intensities. Understanding this model helps us better accept ourselves in each emotional phase.
Have you experienced these stages in your life? Which one resonates with you the most? Feel free to share your story or thoughts in the comments below.
