29/10/2025
Someone asked me a question recently: “Did you see your husband becoming the man he is today when you both were still courting?” My answer was a BIG YES! I told her that I am not in any way surprised by who my husband and I have become today because I paid attention to his PATTERN OF LIFE and made the decision to get married based on that, same with him.
Truth is, when it comes to choosing a life partner, you don’t just marry potential; you marry patterns. Potential is what someone could be, but patterns reveal who they’re becoming based on certain traits you’re currently seeing. Everyone evolves but evolution follows a direction, and that direction is written in their consistent habits, daily life decisions, and values. You can’t ignore repeated behavior and hope for transformation later. Marriage magnifies who people already are, not who you imagine they will become.
So, before you say “I do,” pay attention to patterns - how they handle pressure, conflict, money, faith, relationship with the opposite s*x and personal responsibility. Potential might impress you, but patterns will determine how peaceful and blissful your marriage will be. People grow, but they usually grow along the same lines they have been walking. So look at their daily choices as that is the truest reflection of their future.
This is also why premarital counseling is very important as it guides you in making a more informed decision regarding marriage. To sign up for our premarital counseling classes, kindly send a DM!
