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Relationship Aglow Network, Ekpo Abasi, Calabar (2025)

17/12/2025

My Love, My Heartbeat, My Queen, My Angel, My Treasure, My Best Friend, My Sunshine, My Forever

Happy Birthday, my darling wife, My (IFE)

Today, I celebrate far more than the day you were born, I celebrate the gift of you in my life. You are the melody that brings peace to my chaos, the calm strength behind my dreams, and the gentle love that wraps our family in warmth every single day. Loving you has made me a better man, and walking this journey with you has been the greatest privilege of my life.

Thank you for accepting me exactly as I am-my strengths, my flaws, my growing seasons, and my uncertainties. You never demanded perfection; instead, you offered patience, understanding, and unconditional love. Your resilience amazes me. Even when life tested us, you stood firm with grace, faith, and courage, choosing unity over complaint and love over weariness.

I see your sacrifices-the silent ones no one applauds, the prayers you whisper for our family, the times you put us before yourself. You carry our home with dignity and nurture our family with a heart full of compassion. You are not just my wife; you are my partner, my confidant, my safe place, and my answered prayer.

As you add another beautiful year today, I want you to know this: you are deeply cherished, endlessly admired, and profoundly loved. My life is richer because of you, my future brighter because you walk beside me, and my heart complete because it belongs to you.

I FOREVER LOVE YOU @ UR "IFE"

09/12/2025

FOOD FOR THOUGHT
The Gift of Men

One of the greatest blessings God gives a person is the gift of men men who lift you, speak for you, defend you, open doors for you, and walk with you on the journey of destiny. No matter how anointed, talented, or gifted you are, you cannot rise alone. Destiny is relational. Every height you will ever reach will be because God sent a man.

Apostle Joshua Selman teaches that men are ladders, men are systems, and men are doors. When God wants to bless you, He does not drop miracles from the sky, He sends a man, an encourager, a destiny helper, a lifter. Likewise, when the devil wants to attack a destiny, he also uses men. This is why you must learn to discern the men sent into your life.

Some people are answers to your prayers, while some are tests on your journey. But there are men whose presence is a prophecy their coming into your life marks the beginning of a new season. Honor them, value them, and thank God for them.

Never take relationships for granted. The prayers you prayed yesterday may be answered by the men God brings today. Your rising is tied to the quality of relationships God sends your way. Protect them, appreciate them, and treat them as treasures.

Before you pray for opportunities, pray for the right men. Before you pray for lifting, pray for divine connections. One correct man in your life can do what ten years of labor cannot do.

“Your tomorrow is hidden in the men God sends to you today. Master the art of honor, discernment, and gratitude, for the gift of men is the gateway to destiny.”

© Dr. Mrs. Benita Olayemi

02/12/2025

*FOOD FOR TOUGHT*

15 WAYS TO AVOID PROBLEMS WITH YOUR IN-LAWS

1.Be close to your spouse. Both of you should agree on how to relate with your in-laws. In-law relationships are so delicate. You need wisdom to relate with them and have a blissful relationship with their son/daughter.

2.Don't visit your spouse's family without his/ her approval. He knows them more than you do. All the secret visit, gifts and bribe may backfire one day.

3.Relate with your in-laws the way your spouse advise you to relate with them. They understand their parents and siblings better. One woman lamented she advised her husband not to be too close to her siblings, he took her advise with a pinch of salt and got extremely close to her siblings, he died an untimely death shortly after. The woman claimed her siblings killed her husband so he won't inherit the property due to her that her deceased father left for her as the first born. Take to simple warning. If your partner warns you consistently against his family, be very careful. There is fire on the mountain!

4. Do not advise your spouse to be close to any family member they don't want to be close to. He or she knows what they are seeing or experiencing. They may not give you the details to save their family name. Get the hint and swallow your advice.

5. You and your spouse should be transparently honest with each other and act as one. Don't say A when your spouse is telling your in-laws B, always agree.

6. As a wife, respect your husband before his people. Don't call him names, shout at him and treat him like a slave in front of his people.

7. As a husband, show your wife love, respect and honour in front of your people, they will treat her the way you do. The way you present your wife is the way your people will address her.

8. Do not report each other to your in-laws, seek counsel from godly counsellors instead. Families are prone to take side with their son/daughter either in your presence or absence. Blood is thicker than water.

9. Agree on the amount of money to send to your parents monthly.

11. Respect, honour and have regard for your in-laws.

12. Encourage your spouse to help their people when the need arises but if they don't want to, please, don't push it, they have their reasons.

3. Take care of your spouse and children first before taking care of in-laws. Don't starve your children, go into debt, owe rents and school fees because you want to take care of your parents and siblings.

4. Respect your brothers and sisters-in -law.

15. Pray for wisdom on how to handle your in-laws.

You don't have to encounter problems and conflicts with your in-laws. As long as you walk in wisdom, you can enjoy heaven on earth in your marriage and have excellent relationships with your in-laws. Take note of the 15 rules, add yours and live in paradise forever.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

29/11/2025

UNDERSTANDING YOUR WOMAN!!!

By Dr. Mrs. Becky Enenche

Many men make the mistake of wanting their wives/women to be like them, forgetting they were not created with the same raw materials. A man was formed from the dust but a woman was made from bone, hence we cannot behave or think alike.

An average woman wants to be teased, cared for and pampered. Even if she's h***y she still wants her man to ask her for s*x, this makes her feel like a woman.

Her frequent sickness is not her fault, it is the nature of her body. You must learn to live with this truth. In fact, she wants you to pity her and give her special care when she's sick. Stop getting angry anytime she complain to you about one pain or the other. Sometimes the pain may not be as much as she presents it but she loves to act that drama to get your attention. Her need for attention is really a function of nature and not because she wants to disturb you.

She wants a man who will listen to all her jagons and stories. Some of these stories may not be interesting but if you don't listen, another man will listen and steal her heart away from you. An average woman will willingly give her heart to a man who listens to her. Even if you don't have solution to her stories, share her pain and fear.

Did you find her behaving like a child? Yes, she is your first child. Even her godmother played childishness at the Garden of Eden - she played with the enemy and traded their estate to the devil. You will have peace if you see her as your first child.

Her tear is a way of communication, don't ignore it. Each drop of tear is a message. If you ignore her tears, they will metamorphose into bitterness, anger, nagging and emotional depression. If not well managed it could lead to witchcraft.

She doesn't want to share you with anyone. Her excessive jealousy is not a crime, it is because she loves you and wants to protect you. If you kill that zeal, you will never enjoy her love again. She will never trust you again. Appreciate her jealousy, make her proud and clear all her doubts. Don't accuse her of being over jealous.

Tell her you love her. Say good things about her. Even if it's flattering she doesn't mind. Talk about her dress, complement her hairstyle, appreciate her shape and shout about her sense of humor. Those sweet words bring out the best out of her.

She is a woman, she is not a man.
Peaceful home is my concern.

You Will not fail in marriage in Jesus name.

21/11/2025

This meeting was impactful and Educative with the Singles.
A special moment with the Olayemis @ SUCF-UYO Regional Conference Calabar "Marriage Seminar"

19/11/2025

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, OUR BELOVED BROTHER SIR MARTINS

The Relationship Aglow Network family rejoices with you on this special day! 🎉

We lift heartfelt prayers to God on your behalf, asking that this new year of your life be filled with laughter, peace, and unforgettable testimonies. May your heart overflow with joy and love, and may your deepest desires be fulfilled according to His perfect will. 🙏

You are a light, inspiring others with kindness, compassion, and generosity. We pray that your journey this year will be marked by purpose, passion, and fulfillment. 🌟

Let’s celebrate together! 🎂
Drop your birthday wishes in the comments, share this post, and show your love with a like.

19/11/2025

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Why You Must Not Miss God’s Will in Marriage
From Knowing the Will of God in Marriage by The Olayemis

Miriam was the kind of girl everyone admired brilliant, beautiful, deeply spiritual. She was the prayer secretary on campus, the girl who spent nights interceding for others while her own battles remained hidden in her chest.

Then she met Daniel.

He wasn’t the man God warned her about, he was the man God screamed about.
But she didn’t want to hear it.

The red flags were everywhere:

The unexplained anger

His jealousy

His mockery of her spiritual activities

The way he said, “Must you always pray?”

The way her peace slowly died… day by day.

But Miriam was in love.
She ignored the dreams.
Ignored the uneasy feeling.
Ignored the counsel.
Ignored God.

And she married him.

The wedding day was colourful.
But the marriage was dark.

The tears began early.
The insults came next.
Then the abuse.
Then the manipulation.
Then the painful silence from the God she ignored.

One night, broken, scared, and bleeding from the wounds she hid under long sleeves, she whispered:

“God… why am I here?”

And she heard the answer:
“You chose this, not Me.”

That sentence broke her more than the marriage ever did.

Today, Miriam tells her story with trembling lips:

“The greatest tragedy of my life was not the abuse…
It was missing the will of God when He was still speaking.”

Many people don’t lose destiny in one day…
They lose it one ignored warning at a time.

WHY YOU NEED THIS BOOK, NOW

There are mistakes you can make and recover.
But marrying outside God’s will is not one of them.

Some wounds heal.
Some tears dry.
Some losses can be restored.

But a wrong marriage?
It drains your strength…
It suffocates your purpose…
It poisons your peace…
It delays your destiny…
It can break the very voice of God in your life.

And the worst part?

By the time many people realize this,
it is already too late.

But it doesn’t have to be too late for you.

This is why The Olayemis wrote
“KNOWING THE WILL OF GOD IN MARRIAGE.”

Not as another Christian book…
But as a lamp for those at the edge of marital decisions,
and a warning bell to rescue anyone walking blindly into a lifetime of pain.

This is what you will get from the book:

How to discern God’s voice from your emotions

How to avoid the traps that have destroyed many destinies

How to know when God is saying NO

How to escape manipulative relationships

How to recognize divine signals early

How to position yourself spiritually for the right partner

How to avoid being another Miriam

Before you say “YES” to anyone…
Before you attend that proposal dinner…
Before you walk down the aisle…
Before you make the decision that will shape the next 50 years of your life…

GET THIS BOOK.
READ THIS BOOK.
SAVE YOUR DESTINY.

One book today can save you from
a lifetime of pain tomorrow.

GRAB YOUR COPY

15/11/2025

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

A Story That Will Stay With You…

Her name was Ada.
A soft-spoken, brilliant young woman with a heart completely sold out to God.
Everyone who knew her said the same thing:
“She is destined for greatness.”

Ada served God faithfully.
She led prayers on campus.
She encouraged others to wait on the Lord.
But her test came quietly… wrapped in a smile she couldn’t resist.

His name was Daniel.
Handsome, confident, always carrying a Bible.
He prayed loudly in fellowship.
He quoted Scriptures impressively.
He looked like everything Ada thought a godly man should be.

She felt something strong for him… and she assumed it must be God.

She didn’t pray.
She didn’t wait.
She didn’t ask.
Her emotions drowned the gentle warnings in her spirit.

“God cannot be against something this beautiful,” she told herself.

The first cracks appeared after the wedding.
Small, almost invisible.
He stopped joining family devotion.
He complained about her church activities.
He said she was “too spiritual.”

But Ada kept hoping marriage would change him.

Then came the real storm.
Daniel started coming home late.
He stopped praying completely.
He mocked her for fasting.
He began to cheat, boldly and without apology.

One night, when she confronted him respectfully, he shouted,
“Did I ever tell you I wanted a prayerful wife? If you don’t like this marriage, get out!”

Ada froze.
Her tears fell silently.
Her heart broke loudly.

But the worst pain wasn’t his words.
It was the realization that God had warned her, gently, quietly, repeatedly…
And she ignored Him.

She remembered the dream where she saw herself crying.
She remembered the scripture that kept coming:
“Be still.”
She remembered the lack of peace she pushed aside.

She remembered the elder who told her, “My dear, wait.”

But she didn’t wait.
She didn’t listen.
She followed her heart… and lost her future.

Now Ada wakes up beside a man who is physically present but emotionally distant.
She attends church alone.
She hides her bruises behind smiles.
She cries on her pillow every night.

And the words that haunt her the most are the ones she whispered to a friend:
“If I had known God’s will, I would never be here.”

Dear reader, pause and think.

How many Adas are suffering today because they rushed into love without asking God?
How many destinies have been reduced because someone ignored the still small voice?
How many tears could have been avoided if they had waited just a little longer?

Marriage can make you, or break you.
One wrong choice can silence your purpose, your peace, and your joy.

This is why you need “Knowing the Will of God in Marriage” by The Olayemis.
It will help you:
• Recognize God’s voice
• Discern emotions from divine signals
• Avoid counterfeits wrapped in spirituality
• Escape the traps that swallowed Ada
• Choose peace instead of pain
• Marry into destiny, not disaster

Don’t become the next sad story.
Don’t let emotions bury your future.
Get the knowledge now, before regret becomes your teacher.

📖 Get your copy of “Knowing the Will of God in Marriage” today.
Your tears are too precious.
Your destiny is too important.
Your future is too valuable.

12/11/2025

RELATIONSHIP AGLOW NETWORK
WITH THE OLAYEMI’S
PRESENT

THENE: HEALTH CONNECTION.

Health is not just a personal matter; it’s a spiritual partnership. To experience lasting wholeness, our spirit, soul, and body must align. That’s why you cannot afford to miss this life‑transforming Online Program.

🔥 *Get ready to discover:👇
✅ The divine link between spiritual health and physical vitality.
✅ Practical prayers that activate healing and strength.
✅ How to maintain a balanced lifestyle that honors God.
✅ Secrets to nurturing a healthy marriage through health‑focused unity.
✅ Practical steps to cultivate spiritual discipline for total wellness.

📅 *Date:* Sunday, 23rd November 2025
⏰ Time:* 8:00 PM
🎙️ *Guest Minister:( Evang Odu Godbe)
👥 *Hosts:* Apostle Dr. Joshua & Dr. (Mrs.) Benita Olayemi

This is more than a program, it’s a divine encounter for singles, engaged couples, and married partners who desire wholeness, vitality, and a deeper walk with God.

📲 *Join Live on WhatsApp Call or WhatsApp:*
07031106076 | 07035451638

💡 *Don’t just dream of total health. learn how to sustain it spiritually and physically!

07/11/2025

WHEN SINGLE SISTERS PRAY 🔥
Theme: BREAKING LIMITS

There comes a time when heaven calls you to rise, to lift your voice, and to command a shift in your destiny, and that time is NOW!

Every limitation standing between you and your divine promise will crumble as we gather in the place of prayer.
This is not just another meeting, it’s a spiritual awakening for single sisters who are tired of cycles, delays, and stagnation.

Join Dr. (Mrs.) Benita Olayemi this Thursday, 7th November 2025 by 10PM on Relationship Aglow Network (Telegram) for a night of prophetic prayers, healing, and divine release.

🔥 Expect:
✅ Chains to break
✅ Closed doors to open
✅ Long-awaited answers to be released
✅ Fresh fire to pray and prevail

📅 Date: Thursday, 7th November 2025
🕙 Time: 10PM
📍 Live on Telegram:

It’s your time to rise above every limit and walk in divine possibilities!
Don’t just hear about it, be part of it. Your testimony is waiting! 🙌🔥

05/11/2025

HAPPY 3RD MARRIAGE ANNIVERSARY TO THE OLAYEMIS

It’s been three beautiful years of God’s unwavering faithfulness!

Three years of learning, unlearning, and relearning.
Three years of standing beside this great man of God, my visionary Apostle, my king, and my crown. 👑

Three years of doing life and ministry together, sharing dreams, prayers, and cooking his favorite delicacies.

Three years of remarkable growth, undeniable progress, and divine elevation.
Three years of astounding miracles and testimonies that bear witness to God’s grace.
Three years of love wrapped in sweetness, favour, and the beauty of God’s presence.

Oh, what a journey it has been!
Happy 3rd Wedding Anniversary to us! ❤️

We remain ever grateful to God for the gift of life, love, and purpose.
Family, please join us as we lift our hearts in thanksgiving to the LORD for His goodness and mercy.

04/11/2025

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

What Every Sister Must Know Before Entering a Relationship

Text: Proverbs 4:23, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Theme: Preparing your heart before giving it away.

1. Know Your Identity in Christ

Before you can love anyone rightly, you must first know who you are.
You are not just any woman, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), a royal priesthood (1 Peter 2:9), and God’s beloved daughter.

If you don’t know your worth, you will settle for less.
Don’t let anyone define you by their attention or affection. Let God define you by His Word

2. Know Your Purpose Before Partnership

Many sisters enter relationships without clarity of purpose. A relationship should enhance your purpose, not erase it.
Adam was busy tending the garden when Eve was brought to him purpose came before partnership.
Before you say yes to any man, ask:

Does this relationship align with my God-given assignment?

Will it draw me closer to God or away from Him?

3. Know the Difference Between Love and Lust

Not every emotional excitement is love. Love is patient, kind, enduring (1 Corinthians 13:4–8).
Lust is impatient, selfish, and short-lived.

If he pressures you to do what displeases God, that’s not love, that’s lust.
True love protects your purity and respects your boundaries.

4. Know the Power of Spiritual Discernment

Sisters, not every man that prays is spiritually mature.
Some wear the garment of spirituality but lack the fruit of the Spirit.

Pray and seek God’s voice before you commit.
Ask the Holy Spirit: “Is this relationship Your will or my desire?”
1 John 4:1 — “Test every spirit.”

5. Know the Value of Emotional Healing

Don’t carry the wounds of your past into a new relationship.
If you are still hurting, angry, or bitter, take time to heal.

Healing before dating prevents heartbreak later.
Let God restore your confidence, forgive those who hurt you, and renew your mind.

6. Know What to Look for in a Godly Man

A godly man will:

Fear God and love righteousness.

Take responsibility and lead with humility.

Value your boundaries and honor your body.

Encourage your growth, not suppress it.

Don’t look for charm; look for character (Proverbs 31:30)

7. Know the Power of Waiting

Waiting is not wasting. God uses the waiting season to refine you, prepare you, and align you.

Don’t rush because others are in relationships.
It’s better to wait long than marry wrong.

8. Know the Place of Prayer

Before entering any relationship, kneel before God.
Prayer will reveal what excitement may hide.

A praying sister will not be easily deceived.
Ask God to give you peace or remove peace, He speaks through both.

9. Know the Counsel of Wisdom

Seek godly counsel from mentors, spiritual leaders, or mature believers.
Proverbs 11:14 says, “In the multitude of counsellors there is safety.”

Don’t isolate yourself in love. Wise counsel protects you from emotional blindness.

10. Know Your Worth and Set Boundaries

If you don’t set boundaries, people will cross them.
Boundaries are not signs of pride — they are signs of self-respect.

Say no when necessary.
You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate.

Before you give your heart to any man, give it fully to God.
When God becomes your first love, He will guide you to the right one.

© The Olayemis

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