Womenin4counselling

30/12/2025

See you in 2026 everyone 🎉🎆✨️
1 day to go💫

01/12/2025

I once counseled a woman who said,
“Coach, I do everything a wife does, but he still says he’s not ready for commitment.”

She cooked.
She prayed with him.
She encouraged him.
She moved in with him.
She picks up his laundry.
She calls his family to check on them.
She was loyal… to a man who gave her confusion in return.

You sef is all these not too much for a man who hasn't proposed yet🤷‍♀️ if you're the man would you remember to propose when you already had a wife?

And when I asked her “Why do you keep showing up like his wife when he’s showing up like a guest?”
She went silent.
Because deep down, she knew, she had been auditioning for a role he never intended to give her.

The truth is:
Too many women are in half-relationships doing full-time emotional labor.

You give him access to your peace, your body, your care, your loyalty,
while he gives you uncertainty, excuses, and “let’s see how it goes.”

That’s not love.
That’s convenience.

If he wants a wife’s benefits, he must bring a husband’s responsibility.
If he wants partnership, he must show commitment.
And if he only offers situationship energy,
you owe him nothing.

Stop giving wife energy to a man who hasn’t earned the position.
Let him meet you where you deserve to be or not at all.

27/11/2025

He warned her, don't do that o, guess she thought she's the baddie 🤣🤣🤣

25/11/2025

24/11/2025

I once sat across from a woman who whispered something most women are afraid to admit:

“Coach… I want to submit, but I don’t feel safe with him.”

She wasn’t rebellious.
She wasn’t stubborn.
She wasn’t trying to “be the man.”

She was simply tired.

Tired of carrying a relationship on her back.
Tired of being led by someone who had no direction.
Tired of being called “disrespectful” for asking for the bare minimum, consistency, effort, accountability.

So I asked her a question that changed everything:

“Has he earned the position he’s demanding?”

She went quiet.

Because submission is not magic.
It doesn’t appear just because a man says “I’m the head.”
Leadership isn’t a title, it’s a responsibility.

A woman naturally submits to a man who leads with integrity, not authority.
A man who listens, not controls.
A man who protects, not manipulates.
A man who provides stability, not excuses.

The truth is simple but uncomfortable:

Some men don’t deserve submissive women, because they haven’t earned leadership.

And no woman should feel guilty for refusing to shrink herself just to make a man look bigger.

A real leader doesn’t demand submission.
He inspires it.

Yes submission is the duty of a woman but you've to show leadership as a man.

17/11/2025

Seeking clarity in matters of the heart? You’re not alone.
I’m CoachChidimma, a Mental Health Psychologist & Family Life Therapist, passionate about guiding individuals, couples, and families toward healing, understanding, and emotional wellness.

Whether you’re navigating relationship struggles, emotional confusion, or just need a safe space to breathe — I’m here to walk the journey with you. 💬🧠❤️

Let’s work together to create a healthier you and stronger connections.

📍Marriage Counselor | 💼 Mental Well-being Coach | 🧘🏽‍♀️ Emotional Clarity Advocate

14/11/2025

12/11/2025

What sort of society are we living in? 😱

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07/11/2025

It always starts beautifully.
He calls every morning.
He says you’re “the one.”
He moves fast, so fast that you mistake urgency for connection.

But then, slowly, you start to notice
his compliments come with control.
His love feels conditional.
His warmth turns cold when you ask for space.

In therapy, I often tell women:
love bombing isn’t passion, it’s pressure.
It’s an attempt to make you emotionally dependent before trust can truly form.

Real love doesn’t need to rush.
It respects your pace, your boundaries, and your peace. 💛

📩 Book a session if you’re ready to unlearn unhealthy attachment and build relationships rooted in safety, not intensity.