Amazingelove

27/09/2017

HOW TO BUILD A STRONGER RELATIONSHIP
Marriage is a home, a refuge against the outside storms. And like any house, it requires a strong, lasting foundation. To build one, every couple needs to take certain steps — seven, to be precise — that turn the two of you into not just you and me but we. You may not move through all the steps in order, and you may circle back to complete certain steps again (and again and again). But if you make it through them all, you'll be well on your way toward creating a marriage that will be your shelter as long as you both shall live.
Step 1: Find a shared dream for your life together.
It's easy to get caught up in the small stuff of married life: What's for dinner tonight? Whose turn is it to clean the litter box? Did you pay the electric bill? But the best partners never lose sight of the fact that they're working together to achieve the same big dreams. "Successful couples quickly develop a mindfulness of 'us,' of being coupled," They have a shared vision, saying things like, 'We want to plan to buy a house, we want to take a vacation to such-and-such a place, we like to do X, we think we want to start a family at Y time.'"
This kind of dream-sharing starts early. "Couples love to tell the story of how they met As you write and rewrite your love story ("our hardest challenge was X, our dream for retirement is Y"), you continually remind yourselves and each other that you're a team with shared values and goals. And P.S.: When you share a dream, you're a heck of a lot more likely to make that dream come true.
Step 2: Ignite (and reignite) a s*xual connection.
In any good relationship, s*x is way more than just a physical act. It's crucial for the health of your emotional connection, too: It's something only the two of you share; it makes you both feel warm and loved; it draws you back together when you're drifting apart. And did I mention that it's a whole lot of fun?
Striking up those sparks when you first meet is easy. Nurturing a strong, steady flame? That's the hard part. When you've got a mortgage, a potbelly, and a decade or two of togetherness under your belts, it can be hard to muster up the fire you felt when you first got together. That's when it's even more important to protect your s*x life and make it a priority. "You have to keep working to create allure and seduction for each other or your s*x life ."Who wants the same turkey sandwich over and over?
As the years go by, you'll keep revisiting and realigning and reimagining the passion you have for each other. And if you keep at it, you'll have a s*x life that transcends your marriage's lack of newness, the stresses of family and work, the physical changes that come with aging. Now that's something worth holding on to.

Step 3: Choose each other as your first family.
For years, you were primarily a member of one family: the one in which you grew up. Then you got married, and suddenly you became the foundation of a new family, one in which husband and wife are the A-team. It can be tough to shift your identity like this, but it's also an important part of building your self-image as a duo (and maybe, eventually, as three or four or...).
Whatever your challenges — an overprotective mother an overly critical father-in-law? — you have to outline together the boundaries between you and all of the families connected to you. Not only will you feel stronger as a united front but when you stick to your shared rules, all that family baggage will weigh on you a lot less.
Step 4: Learn how to fight right.

"Fighting is the big problem every couple has to deal with That's because fights will always come up, so every couple needs to learn how to fight without tearing each other apart.
Fighting right doesn't just mean not throwing produce; it means staying focused on the issue at hand and respecting each other's perspective. Couples that fight right also find ways to defuse the tension"Whenever one of us wants the other to listen up, we mime hitting the TV remote, a thumb pressing down on an invisible mute button," "It cracks us up, in part because it must look insane to others." Even if you fight a lot, when you can find a way to turn fights toward the positive — with a smile, a quick apology, an expression of appreciation for the other person — the storm blows away fast, and that's what matters.
Step 5: Find a balance between time for two and time for you.
This frequently leads to murderous impulses. Though I'm typing away in the bedroom and he's talking to his consulting clients in our small home office, most days it really feels like too much intimacy for me.
Your togetherness needs will also change over time, so you'll have to shift your balance accordingly. " We realized a few months ago that we hadn't had a conversation that didn't involve the kids or our to-do lists in ages, so we committed to a weekly date. We were so happy just to go to the movies and hold hands, something we hadn't done in ages. It felt like we were dating again

Step 6: Build a best friendship.
Think about the things that make your closest friendships irreplaceable: the trust that comes with true intimacy, the willingness to be vulnerable, the confidence that the friendship can withstand some conflict. Don't those sound like good things to have in your marriage, too?
"Happy couples are each other's haven "They can count on the other person to listen and try to meet their needs.When you're true friends, you acknowledge and respect what the other person is; you don't try to control or change them. This creates a sense of safety and security when you're together — you know you're valued for who you are and you see the value in your partner."
Then there's the way, when you've been with someone a while, that you become almost a mind reader. You have a shared history and inside jokes. Your guy knows what you'll find funny, you forward him links to articles you know he'll enjoy, and best of all, you two can make eye contact at a given moment and say volumes without opening your mouths. And is there anything more pleasurable than sharing the newspaper with someone? Sitting in companionable silence, absorbed in your respective reading, sipping coffee, occasionally reading something out loud, but mostly just lazing happily together, communing without needing to speak? Ahh....


Step 7: Face down a major challenge together.
You're sailing along through life, and suddenly you hit a huge bump. A serious illness. Unemployment. The loss of a home. A death in the family. How do you cope?
The truth is, you never know how strong your relationship is until it's tested. All too often, the stress of a crisis can pull a couple apart. But the good news is, when you do make it through in one piece, you might just find yourselves tighter than ever.
"What didn't happen to us A man lost his job and took a minimum-wage job he was way overqualified for just to make ends meet. He was offered a better job outside so we moved. Then during several years ago, his former house burned down and he lost everything. They lived in a one-room converted garage with no running water and a newborn. But they found that this chaos somehow brought them even closer together.."

marriage is no roll in the hay. It's tough, real work. But the reward, the edifice you build together that will shelter you through years of tough times, is more than worth the effort. The small, friendly cottage you build — decorated with your shared history and stories, filled with color and laughter — will be the warmest and safest retreat you can imagine
Kenny
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23/09/2017

15/09/2017

06/09/2017

How to deal with a nagging spouse
Do you love your spouse but really hate the complaints and nagging from them?
Your partner might be a flat-out bully who says and does things that make you feel bad, wrong or inept. Or, your spouse might more subtly pick at you. The criticism may be said in a "sweet" or soft voice, but the sting still hurts.
When living with a critical or nagging partner, you might frequently feel defensive and lash back. Instead, your reaction when you feel attacked could be to withdraw into yourself.
There are many things you do in response to your partner's criticisms. Some of these reactions strain your relationship even more.
For example, when your spouse complaints about how you manage money, you respond with passive-aggressive behaviors like hiding your spending or purposely overspending. This could be an unconscious or unintended reaction, by the way.
You might criticize and push back. For instance, if your mate puts down the way you parent your kids, your reaction may be to look for weaknesses in your spouse's parenting and point that out.
In the short term, some of these reactions feel rewarding and comfortable. However, the lasting effects on your marriage are never positive.
Want to know some effective and positive ways to deal with your partner's nagging and complaints? Here are 4 ways to deal with your husband's or wife's nagging and criticizing:
1. Put your partner's comments in perspective.
Sometimes, an off-handed comment feels like a nag or a criticism when it's actually not. If your spouse has a history of putting you down, you might be reading more into a particular comment than is really there.
This can be tricky to figure out. Remember to pause and get curiouswhen you feel triggered.
Instead of having your usual reaction to what your partner has said or done, back it up. Ask yourself if you absolutely know it's true that your partner meant that you are somehow doing it wrong, are bad, incapable or whatever it is you think he or she was saying.
Ask yourself if it's possible that your partner did not mean anything negative or critical with the comment.
If you are confused about what your partner meant, ask the question, "Would you please help me understand why you said _____." Asking for more information from your partner needs to be done with a true sense of wanting to understand and without an accusatory tone to the voice.
2. Don't take it personally.
There are all kinds of reasons why a person might be prickly and critical. In the vast majority of cases, the criticism has more to do with the one saying it and less to do with the one the criticism seems directed toward.
If at all possible, don't take it personally.
We're not suggesting that you allow yourself to be bullied. At the same time, if you can find a way to see the complaint or nagging for what it is, this can free you up to connect and have the relationship you want.
For example, if you know that your partner is under a lot of strain from work, this can help you not to take a criticism personally. If you are aware that your spouse has been feeling down or depressed lately, take this information into consideration.
Again, we're not saying that it's ever okay for you to be verbally abused. But, there are many times when refusing to take your partner's picking personally can be the key to changing this bad relationship habit.
3. Really listen to what your partner's saying.
What's going to make a positive difference when dealing with your partner's criticisms is to NOT join in with the negativity. Soothe yourself so that you don't go along with your mate to a place of irritation, resentment, and anger.
The calmer and clearer you are, the easier it will be for you to really listen to your mate.
When you really listen to the need that's being expressed (and that may be hidden in nagging or criticism), you can speak to that need and not to the criticism.
For example, your partner might seem to constantly nag you about helping out around the house and says things like, "It's up to me to keep this place clean because you never help..."
You could really listen to his or her need for not only a cleaner house, but also help in keeping things picked up and tidy.
Your response could be a question like, "In what specific ways would you like me to help keep the house clean?"
Be willing to really listen to what your partner says. There might be some truth in the criticism that you don't do your share in keeping the house clean.
Be responsible for your own habits and make sincere apologies when appropriate. This can also defuse a criticism and shift you both toward finding a resolution instead of keeping you stuck in conflict.
4. Create agreements, not disagreements.
The more you can move beyond feeling like it's your partner vs. you, the more easily you can stop the picking and complaints.
Create agreements with your partner that will address both of your needs about the situation. You can also create agreements about how you will communicate with one another.
Be sure that you are creating agreements together instead of merely imposing your idea and not really getting a full agreement.
It's unhealthy for any marriage to be filled with criticism and nagging. When you stop feeling like a victim to your spouse's put downs, you can start making changes that will bring improvement.
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28/08/2017

WHEN LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH
If you’ve ever been in love you know that there’s really nothing better in the world. I mean, if you’ve truly, 100%, loved someone with every piece of your being and every morsel of your soul, you know not much else tops it. Many people spend their lives in relationships or marriages with people they merely like, with people they keep around for company, but few enjoy the benefit of being madly, deeply, and crazy in love with another person. If you’ve ever felt that way, you know that person is at the forefront of your mind right now. Maybe you’re lucky enough to still be together... or maybe they now live only in your memory.
Their face, their touch, the way you laughed together, the adventures you went on, the butterflies they gave you. All those things that you haven’t seen since it ended but still remember so clearly make you believe that maybe one day, maybe somehow, you will be reunited and live happily ever after (again). You watch The Notebook and you cry thinking maybe that could happen for you. You watch it again and think that true love never goes away and never ends. You watch it again and again and each time you watch it you believe in your heart of hearts that the love you shared is strong enough to bring you back together and each time you watch it you wonder when your time will come.
But your time may never come. Love is strong and love is magnificent but sometimes two people are just not meant to be together. Sometimes divorce happens even if you don’t want it to. Then things get in the way: Life, circumstance, distance, other people and eventually the hope for a new beginning starts to fade. The reality of it all comes crashing down hard and leaves you stranded, wondering what you could have done differently. The truth is, there’s nothing you could have done differently and if you had changed even a mere moment of your past, there’s no guarantee you would still be with that person or that you would even be in the exact position you’re in right now.
As much as two people could love each other, sometimes the cards just don’t fall in your favour. That is not to say that the strength of your love could not still, to this day, move mountains. Believe in the love that you felt and know that they felt it too. If it was as real as you know it to be, then you can be positive that you still cross their mind as well. But crossing minds and crossing paths are two very different things. There’s a chance that the love of your life may have a new life now, just as you do. A life that only includes the memory of what you had and the love you shared. You may never cross their path again in your entire life, even though you may think about them often and wish for just one more glimpse. There may be songs on the radio or certain movies that bring them to mind and make you cry, and that’s okay. Maybe they think of you when that song comes on too.
Find comfort in the fact that you were lucky enough to find such a love. If only for a few years or a few months you found something that many people will never really know. You found a connection with another soul that made you feel alive, that made you smile bigger than you ever thought possible, and someone that you will never forget. You may still believe that one day your love will be strong enough to reconnect you and bring you back together and if that gives you comfort, then never stop hoping or believing. But don’t stop living the life ahead of you because you are reluctant to give up the past. Don’t allow the past love of your life to prevent you from bearing your soul and your heart to someone new who you might end up falling even more in love with.
You will never again love someone the same way as you did the one who got away, but you can love again and only when you allow yourself to give up the dream of finding your way back to that one certain person will you really see what else lies ahead. True love never ends but relationships and marriages do and sometimes the broken pieces are just never meant to be put back together. Heal yourself, heal your heart, and believe that new love can be just as great, or even better, than the idealistic love you have carried around with you for much too long. Free yourself and new love will come again.
KENNY
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14/08/2017

5 Financial Problems That Can Kill Your Relationship
Most couples fight, but financial arguments often have a lasting effects on a relationship. Several studies have found a correlation between financial disagreements and divorce, and these arguments also affect relationships in other stages as well. According to research arguments about money are the top predictor of divorce. This may be because it takes longer to recover from an argument about money than it does to recover from other arguments, and these arguments decrease relationship satisfaction, according to the research.
Since arguments about money can lead to divorce or the end of a relationship, it’s important to get financial problems in order so that you can avoid these fights. There are many financial problems that couples face, and some are really detrimental.
Here are five financial problems that can eventually kill your relationship if you don’t deal with them.
1. Hiding debt or poor spending habits
If you truly want to trust someone, and have them trust you, then you need to be open and transparent with them about most things. If you are starting a new relationship, you don’t need to go into great detail about your debt or spending habits (and you might scare away your potential partner if you do). However, once you are in a committed relationship that you see lasting for a long time, it’s important to discuss where you are financially, particularly if you plan to move in together or eventually get married.
Not only can lying about your debt or spending habits — or simply failing to tell your partner about them — potentially cause a lack of trust, but if you wait too long, you may later find that you and your partner are on completely different paths as far as finances go. This can be devastating to a relationship. Money issues can cause feelings of shame, fear, and isolation, and those are sometimes hard to get past.
2. Harming your partner’s credit or savings
While most people who truly care about another person would never intentionally destroy the credit of their partner, this can happen if you let fail to pay bills or keep up your part of a financial agreement. Often couples purchase a home together, a car, or they make other purchases together under the assumption that both people will pay for the item. If you or your partner fails to pay your share and an account becomes delinquent, this can ruin your partner’s credit in addition to your relationship.
Another way to quickly kill a relationship is to eat away at your partner’s savings account or to take money without asking them first. While many people would lend money to a partner (or give it completely), if you regularly take advantage of your partner’s stronger savings habits, or they do the same to you, your relationship probably won’t last.

3. Not discussing purchases before you make them
Once you begin to share or pool your money together, it’s important that you lay out ground rules. You need to determine at what price point you are going to talk to each other about a purchase, and when it’s acceptable to just spend money as you see fit. It’s best to come up with these rules as early as possible, because otherwise you risk having a big argument if one person purchases something with joint money without asking.
The line becomes a little less clear if you are in a committed relationship, but you are not pooling your money. Still, if you have agreed to save for a vacation or a home together, but then you go out and buy a car, it’s likely that your partner will be upset. So even if you are still keeping your money separate, you should have a plan for just how separate that money really is. Otherwise, you risk someone feeling resentful or angry, which can start a fight, and eventually harm your relationship.

4. Not figuring out the details
Whether you are dating, married, or just starting to know each other, it’s important to figure out who will pay for things and when. Men are not necessarily in charge of every restaurant bill anymore. If possible, figure out who is paying ahead of time when you go on a date, or split the bill. If you are living with someone or married, sit down and figure out who is going to pay for which bills (if your money is still separate), or when bills will get paid and who is going to keep track of them (if you are married or have joint finances). Also figure out how much you want to save and what your future goals are together. If you regularly wing financial decisions, you may find that you fight more often, and that your relationship takes a hit.

5. Being too controlling
No one wants to be in a controlling relationship, and if you or your partner regularly shows financially controlling behaviors, this can be a red flag for the other person. Money decisions should be made together, and if you are your partner gets angry or upset when the other person tries to have a say in a discussion, this can come off as controlling. It can also damage a relationship if one person demands to keep track of all of the money and won’t let the other person make any decisions. Another financially controlling behavior is to criticize your partner’s decisions, or to accuse them of being too frugal or too loose with money in a demeaning way and with no intention of trying to make the situation better.
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07/08/2017

Consider this the ultimate relationship cheat sheet. You're welcome.
Besides the meaning of life , many men are confused questioned "what exactly do women want?", we operate on a different wavelength especially when it comes to relationships.
Thanks to testosterone, the man noticed less of an emotional attachment to s*x and more of a physical urge to engage, regardless of consequences. Fascinating.
So, we're different. But, woman isn’t exactly the great mystery that men had to battle with. However, these are things women want in a relationship
1. Respect. Show them through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies and minds. You don't have to agree with all that they say or do, but try to honor their opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat women as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.
2. S*x. Yes, they love s*x. But, remember that there are four bases to cover in the bedroom, not just one. Try stopping at each base instead of being so focused on the home run—believe , they will thank you for it! Likewise, remember small physical touches like massages. One can never, ever, have too many shoulder rubs. And scratching our heads is pretty great, too.
3. Romance. It's another night on the couch Just because you staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat your girlfriend special , even after she become your wife. Date night, kissing like when you first started dating—all of the things that made you fall in love with her don't have to stop just .Bring home flowers for no reason. It doesn’t have to be expensive but should make her smile.
4. Time. They understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with them and treating her like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. If you happen to get home before why not take vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.
5. Dinner. Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting her at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrestle up) makes them swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about her.
PART TWO CONTINUE SOON !!!!

Kenny.
07060404217
www.amazingelove.wordpress.com

07/08/2017

Consider this the ultimate relationship cheat sheet. You're welcome.
Besides the meaning of life , many men are confused questioned "what exactly do women want?", we operate on a different wavelength especially when it comes to relationships.
Thanks to testosterone, the man noticed less of an emotional attachment to s*x and more of a physical urge to engage, regardless of consequences. Fascinating.
So, we're different. But, woman isn’t exactly the great mystery that men had to battle with. However, these are things women want in a relationship
1. Respect. Show them through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies and minds. You don't have to agree with all that they say or do, but try to honor their opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat women as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.
2. S*x. Yes, they love s*x. But, remember that there are four bases to cover in the bedroom, not just one. Try stopping at each base instead of being so focused on the home run—believe , they will thank you for it! Likewise, remember small physical touches like massages. One can never, ever, have too many shoulder rubs. And scratching our heads is pretty great, too.
3. Romance. It's another night on the couch Just because you staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat your girlfriend special , even after she become your wife. Date night, kissing like when you first started dating—all of the things that made you fall in love with her don't have to stop just .Bring home flowers for no reason. It doesn’t have to be expensive but should make her smile.
4. Time. They understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with them and treating her like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. If you happen to get home before why not take vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.
5. Dinner. Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting her at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrestle up) makes them swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about her.
PART TWO CONTINUE SOON !!!!

Kenny.
07060404217
www.amazeinglove.wordpress.com

24/07/2017

i stumble to report on how a guy is having difficulty approaching the opposite s*x . men i know there are many out there having same similar problem.
come to think of it is a problem for some guys to make friend with the opposite s*x,
this will be some few guide to help you at least kick start
first you have to take your appearance very serious , cos people a moved to beautiful sight . you must pay like a 100 percent to how you look. this does not mean it has to be expensive NO , a nice Blend of T shirt could do with a fitted Jean and a nice fitting face cap and matched boot or shoe . then we co to what we call you need the flow
so what do i mean by dat? pronunciation intonation and sound modulation of voice. if you need to speak men you must have that charming voice that would want to make the lady to trun,

there is need to consider the sense of smell , how do you smell times a bad body o dour Which i call (BO) or Mouth o dour (MO) is a total turn off,this is number one turn off . please ensure u clean , i repeat ensure you are clean .

you need to pass a sweet complement on her attire on her hair , make her look special, that which will bring a smile from her . then you flow with conversation on a friendly ground not on love she cant start loving you immediately . is not possible , but you have to create a long lasting impression that can keep this angel thinking about you.
dont encroach her with all about you,try and listen more to her than talking. and when leave ensure you say i would like to see you again. then is a way of getting the number easy .
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24/07/2017

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