24/12/2025
Despite all the praises that I give to my lovely wife, I am still the one that tell you that women do not love men.
And that's God's design.
You can argue this all you want.
But my honest prayer for you, is that may something bad not happen to your source of livelihood.
That is when you would see the true woman that you married.
I am telling you young men now, because you may do everything right and legitimate, but life happens to some of the best and kind of us.
You really need to take your relationship seriously.
Take the harder right, than the easier wrong.
How you date your future wife, will determine how well she would cope with you, treat you and respect you in marriage, when or if things go wrong with your finances.
You will surely notice changes in your wife, should anything happen to your shield.
And you would notice them in two forms.
1) is she changing because she is silently regretting getting married to you, and is ready to crash the marriage unless you sit up?
2) Or is she changing because she's genuinely worried about you, the children that you both have, & is feeling so depressed because the man she truly wants to spend the rest of her life with, is in distress?
If it's the former, the foundation of your relationship was poor, and you did not take time to vet and date with all sincerity of purpose, and she didn't really earn her place.
If it's the latter, then you married right and did things the proper way. And life is just happening to you, but you're married to a kind woman.
All these things that I have saying for years, are as a result of things that I have experienced, seen in real life from others, & from thousands of DMs that I have read from this community.
Nothing is more difficult for you to achieve as young men, like finding a wife.
It's very hard.
You must do it the right way, and do it afraid, too.
As long as you believe in marriage, and you want to have children under a balanced home, this is something that you must not treat with levity.
Finance is so important in marriage.
But it's not important in relationship.
It's so because you must first find your wife without money inducement, so that you can mold her to prepare for the times of lack.
And then, even if it happens that she surpasses you financially, she may still be submissive to you as her husband.
Even though this one is tough, but it happens.
Everything depends on how you led her before you married her.
The reality of marriage is different from the realities of relationship.
That woman that you thought was the next best thing to slice bread, will show you what you never imagined.
I don't know how else to explain these things, but I sincerely hope I am passing a message to those who would care to think deep, far, and assimilate it.
End.
