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26/10/2025

If your girl is 15 or 16 and above, know that she is now very much aware of herself and may have even developed interest in someone among the opposite s*x. After all, some of us married brothers we knew back in secondary school, even though there was no relationship before the time of engagement.

That means it is time to start the conversation with your girls and even the boys. Talk to them about self awareness, confidence and family values. These talks will help them understand the kind of individuals you will be comfortable with when they are ready for marriage.

When this is not done early, our children may fall in love and want to marry people who do not share our religious beliefs or family values. By then, we start trying to decide for them who to marry and who not to marry, but at that point, it may be too late. I have seen 17 year olds elope from home and cut off communication with their parents because the parents did not agree with their choice of spouse.

To avoid this kind of painful situation, let us start the discussion now that they are still young and willing to listen, not when they have already fallen in love.

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24/10/2025

Rules of Conflict That Will Help Your Marriage

1. Do not bring up the past. Focus on what is happening now.

2. No threats of divorce or using fear tactics. Find solutions instead and move forward.

3. Respect yourself. No name calling or insults.

4. When the argument gets heated, it is okay to take a break to breathe and calm your nerves. Then come back to the conversation later.

5. No grudges, no silent treatment, and no running away from the room or avoiding food.

6. Forgive your spouse and make dua for them to become better.

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23/10/2025

In marriage, we learn to make compromises even when it doesn’t make sense to us. You can’t always be right.

Avoid using petty ways to dismiss or ignore your spouse’s complaints simply because you feel you’re already doing so much and they shouldn’t complain.

You cannot keep overlooking the good things your spouse does while constantly pointing out their faults—without reflecting on how you might also be contributing to the problem.

Learn to calm down and reason things out, even when you believe you are right.

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19/10/2025

What is allowed to be seen

19/10/2025

You don't have to send your n**e pictures to an intending spouse.

Be careful

A good man will not ask you for your n**es pictures.

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18/10/2025

Courtship in Islam

“Courtship” in the modern sense is not allowed in Islam because it usually involves private emotional or physical closeness between a man and a woman who are not yet married.

What, then, is allowed? — Khitbah

Khitbah (engagement) is when a man proposes to a woman through her guardian, and she (or her family) accepts in principle.

During this period, they may speak or meet only for necessary purposes related to marriage — such as discussing compatibility, plans, or future goals.

How long should this period last?

There is no specified duration in Islam. However, scholars advise that it should be as short as possible to avoid the fitnah of zina (fornication).

In my opinion, it’s not only to avoid zina but also to prevent disrespect or emotional strain that may arise from prolonged engagement. Couples should work towards a specific date for the nikah, rather than remaining in an indefinite engagement — especially when the man knows he is not financially ready for marriage.

Many of us do not truly know ourselves or what we want. And even when we do, we sometimes hold onto what is unsuitable — convincing ourselves mistakenly that “a bird in hand is worth more than a million in the bush.”

Long periods of studying each other or staying in a relationship often lead to zina and loss of respect.

Make your decision — and then rely on Allah.

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25/09/2025

24/08/2025

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*🌸 Sisters’ Seminar – For Young Muslim sisters 🌸*

*Theme: "Navigating Life as a Young Muslimah in Today’s World"*

📍 Are you a young Muslim woman trying to balance your faith, career, emotions, and relationships in a world that pulls you in every direction?

Do you sometimes feel:

Pressured to marry… but unsure if you’re ready?

Tired of pretending to be okay… when you're really struggling inside?

Confused about your identity… your purpose… or your connection with Allah?

Like no one truly understands what it means to be you?

You’re not alone.

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Let’s talk real issues — love, heartbreak, hijab, confidence, mental health, friendships, family pressure, and more — all from an Islamic and relatable perspective.

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07/08/2025

Alhamdulillah we have successfully completed our islamic S*x Education class.

24/07/2025

When I was younger, we had a neighbor who was a tenant in my father’s house and worked as a lecturer. Whenever my cousin and I were washing clothes in the backyard, he would call out to us from his window, saying, “Come, come.” On one occasion, he came outside completely naked, which was terrifying and deeply unsettling. Looking back , I see that moment as Allah's divine protection

We later noticed that he frequently invited young female students to his apartment. He would play loud music, and sometimes these girls would leave his house in tears. At the time, I didn’t fully understand what was happening, but it became clear that he was ra**ng these young, innocent girls.

Many of us have experienced or witnessed inappropriate behavior from an aunt, uncle, neighbor, friend, or teacher—actions that were kept hidden but deeply wrong.

Among my peers, some girls became pregnant, some gave birth, and others had abortions. Back then, we had no way of knowing how many were affected by s*xually transmitted diseases.While some of us were exploited in early adulthood under the guise of romantic relationships that never led to marriage.

Some of these experiences left lasting impacts, carrying into adulthood as low self-esteem, anger issues, s*xual dysfunction, or perfectionist behavior.

The only form of s*x education we received was my mother’s warning that “if a man touches you, you’ll get pregnant.” But many girls learned the hard way that mere touching didn’t lead to pregnancy, and in exploring further, some ended up pregnant.

This is why we must equip our children and young adults with the knowledge and tools to protect themselves and avoid the life-damaging impacts of s*xual abuse.

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17/07/2025

Many of our children are being exposed to things we never imagined they'd come across—at ages we never expected.

I’ve seen heartbreaking cases of homos*xualism and lesbianism not just in boarding schools, but right at home—among siblings, cousins, and neighbours.

And the truth is:
📌 Day school children are not exempt.
📌 Strict homes are not immune.

So, I ask you:
Isn’t it time we equipped our children?
Isn’t it time we had the difficult conversations?

Because the effects of early s*xual exposure and abuse don’t end in childhood.
They show up later as:
🔸 Perfectionism
🔸 Relationship struggles
🔸 S*xual dysfunction
🔸 Chronic low self-esteem

Silence is no longer safety. Knowledge is.
Let’s raise children who are aware, confident, and protected.