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06/01/2026

06/01/2026

12 WAYS TO KNOW A MAN WHO WILL BREAK YOUR HEART
(From the desk of a Family Therapist)

© Samuel Olagbenjo

A few years ago, a young lady walked into my counseling room with swollen eyes and a broken spirit.

Her words were simple but painful: “Sir, there were signs… but I ignored them because I was in love.”

Love is beautiful, but ignorance is expensive. One of the responsibilities of emotional maturity is learning what to avoid, not just what to desire. If you want peace, safety, and lasting joy in marriage, these are red flags you must never joke with.

Here are 12 ways to know a man who is likely to break your heart:

1. 🛑He loves your body more than your soul
If a man’s attraction to you is centered only on your beauty, shape, complexion, or physical features, be careful. Physical attraction fades or can be replaced. A relationship built only on looks cannot survive the storms of life. True love goes deeper than skin.

2. 🛑He avoids your parents and hides you from his people
A man who is serious about you will want to know your parents and proudly introduce you to his family and friends. If he keeps postponing this or avoids it completely, he may not have honorable intentions.

3. 🛑He uses $£x as a thr£at or bargaining tool
If he says, “If you love me, prove it with $£x,” or thr£atens to leave if you don’t give in, please run. That is not love; that is manipulation. Such a man is interested in your body, not your future.

4. 🛑He rushes intimacy but avoids commitment
If he is quick to demand intimacy but slow to discuss marriage, responsibility, or long-term plans, his priorities are already misplaced.

5. 🛑He womanizes or cheats
Every unrepentant fornicator is a potential adulterer. If he cannot be faithful while dating, marriage will not magically change him. Infidelity before marriage is a loud warning siren.

6. 🛑He is financially selfish and exploitative
If he constantly takes from you, borrows without concern, demands support but never cares about your welfare or gives back, beware. Marriage requires partnership, not parasitism.

7. 🛑He is ashamed of you
If he introduces you as his “sister,” dodges you in public, or hides when he sees you, that is a d@nger sign. A man who loves you will honor you openly and proudly, not secretly.

8. 🛑He lies easily and pretends a lot
Every habitual liar is a potential heartbreaker. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you can’t trust his words, you can’t trust his future promises.

9. 🛑He lusts openly after other women
If he stares at every woman that passes by, flirts recklessly, or compares you with others, he is still searching. A man who has found his treasure is not scanning the market.

10. 🛑He is emotionally unavailable or already involved elsewhere
If he is engaged, married, or emotionally tied to another woman, beware. He may want you as a convenience, not a covenant partner.

11. 🛑He disrespects boundaries
If he constantly pressures you to cross your values, spiritual convictions, or personal limits, he will also disrespect you in marriage.

12. 🛑He dismisses your concerns and emotions
If you express pain and he calls you “too sensitive,” mocks your feelings, or refuses to listen, that is emotional d@nger. A man who cannot empathize cannot protect your heart.

Final Counsel:
Love should bring peace, clarity, and dignity—not confusion, f£ar, and tears. Red flags are not decorations; they are warnings. Don’t ignore them and later blame destiny.

Your heart is precious. Guard it wisely. 💛

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© Samuel Olagbenjo
Family Therapist & Best Selling Author

06/01/2026

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06/01/2026

10 PEOPLE A HUSBAND MUST BE CAUTIOUS WITH TO PROTECT HIS MARRIAGE

© Samuel Olagbenjo

1. 📍Your Secretary or Female Colleagues

Workplace relationships are essential for productivity, but private interactions with female colleagues can foster emotional intimacy that undermines your marriage. Keep conversations professional, avoid discussing personal or emotional issues, and involve your spouse in transparency. Emotional fidelity is as important as physical fidelity.

Practical Steps:

Limit private chats or one-on-one meetings.

Keep conversations strictly work-related.

Inform your spouse when meetings or collaborations involve female colleagues.

2. 📍Friends Who Encourage Temptation

Some male friends normalize infidelity, disrespect, or unhealthy behavior toward women. Being around such friends can subtly influence your choices and weaken your commitment to your spouse.

Practical Steps:

Evaluate friendships based on values alignment and influence.

Politely distance yourself from friends who encourage disloyalty.

Seek friendships that uplift and encourage marital fidelity.

3. 📍Female Neighbors
Close interactions with neighbors of the opposite s*x may seem harmless, but frequent personal sharing, late-night chats, or over-familiarity can lead to emotional entanglements.

Practical Steps:

Maintain cordial but professional or neighborly relationships.

Avoid sharing intimate or emotional details about your marriage.

Set boundaries with private visits or calls.

4. 📍Your Female Pastor or Spiritual Leader
Pastors are spiritual guides, but private counseling sessions or overly personal interactions may inadvertently create emotional dependency if not handled carefully.

Practical Steps:

Attend counseling or mentorship sessions openly and with accountability.

Avoid spending excessive private time that could replace emotional support from your spouse.

Ensure your spouse is aware of spiritual guidance sessions.

5. 📍Gym Trainers or Sports Buddies

Fitness is important, but exclusive interactions with trainers or exercise partners can foster a personal bond that competes with your marriage.

Practical Steps:

Prefer group training sessions or workouts in public settings.

Avoid sharing personal marital issues with female trainers or buddies.

Set limits on time and interactions outside training.

6. 📍Exes
Past romantic relationships are best left in the past. Unnecessary contact with ex-girlfriends can reopen emotional wounds or create temptation.

Practical Steps:

Limit or cut contact with exes unless necessary for professional reasons.

Avoid emotional conversations, private calls, or reminiscing about the past.

Prioritize loyalty and transparency with your spouse.

7. 📍Social Media Friends
Online connections can be deceptive and emotionally intense. Social media can create temptation if boundaries are not maintained.

Practical Steps:

Avoid private chats with women who are not family or close friends.

Keep online interactions transparent and appropriate.

Consider limiting time spent on social media if it leads to emotional distraction.

8. 📍Family Members Who Undermine Your Marriage
Sometimes, relatives unintentionally interfere in your marriage by giving unsolicited advice, taking sides, or creating conflicts.

Practical Steps:

Communicate clearly with family about boundaries in marital matters.

Avoid sharing every marital detail with relatives.

Protect your marriage from gossip, judgment, or manipulation.

9. 📍Business Associates Who Cross Boundaries
Networking is important, but private meetings or personal favors can create risky dynamics if not handled carefully.

Practical Steps:

Keep business meetings professional and public when possible.

Avoid private trips or dinners without your spouse’s awareness.

Prioritize ethical and transparent conduct in all professional dealings.

10. 📍Anyone Who Triggers Secrets or Lies
If interactions require dishonesty or secrecy, that is a major red flag. Trust is foundational to marriage, and any relationships that undermine it must be managed.

Practical Steps:

Avoid friendships or interactions that require hiding details from your spouse.

Maintain honesty in all social and professional relationships.

Foster accountability and transparency as non-negotiable values in your life.

Key Takeaway:
Marriage protection requires emotional vigilance. While physical fidelity is often discussed, emotional fidelity—through appropriate boundaries, transparency, and accountability—is just as critical. A husband who guards his heart and relationships protects not only his marriage but also his own integrity and peace.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name

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© Samuel Olagbenjo
Marriage/Family Therapist | Best-Selling Author | Publisher | Book Project Consultant | Book Editor | Ghostwriter | Founder, Marital Success Academy

06/01/2026

10 PEOPLE A WIFE MUST BE CAUTIOUS WITH TO PROTECT HER MARRIAGE

© Samuel Olagbenjo

A wife’s world is filled with different relationships—some professional, some spiritual, some social. But as beautiful as these connections may be, every wife must recognize that closeness can sometimes lead to vulnerability. Without healthy boundaries, what starts as innocent can quickly turn into emotional or marital trouble.

Here are 10 categories of people wives must wisely set boundaries with:

1. Your Doctor 👩‍⚕️👨‍⚕️

Doctors see you at your most vulnerable—emotionally and physically. Because you trust them with your health, never let professional care slide into personal attachment.

2. Your Pastor 🙏

Your pastor is a spiritual guide, not an emotional replacement for your spouse. Keep counseling and prayers transparent—don’t hide conversations or make them overly personal.

3. Your Gym Instructor 🏋️

Physical training, body encouragement, and time together can create unhealthy closeness. Remember: you are there for fitness, not emotional validation.

4. Your Exes 💌

History carries strong emotions. Don’t reopen old doors with “harmless” chats or meetups. Your marriage deserves fresh energy, not recycled affections.

5. Your Colleague at Work 💼

You spend long hours together, sometimes more than with your husband. Respect boundaries and keep conversations professional, not personal.

6. Fellow Church Members ⛪

Brotherly love in Christ must never cross into private intimacy. Keep friendships balanced and open—don’t isolate yourself with any male member.

7. Your Masseuse/Massager 💆‍♀️

Massage is physical and emotional at the same time. If possible, choose female professionals. If male, ensure it’s strictly professional.

8. Family Friends & Neighbors 👥

Closeness with familiar faces often feels “safe” but can become d@ng£rous. Be friendly but don’t blur boundaries.

9. Your Children’s Teacher 👩‍🏫👨‍🏫

Teachers often communicate regularly with parents. Professional updates about your kids should never become personal chats about your life or feelings.

10. Social Media “Friends” 📱

Online conversations can feel harmless but quickly grow into emotional attachments. Be wise with chats, DMs, or late-night talks with strangers or acquaintances.

✅ Final Word
Boundaries don’t mean f£ar—they mean wisdom. Protecting your marriage is not about cutting off relationships but about managing them with maturity, clarity, and respect for your spouse.

👉 Wives, safeguard your hearts.

👉 Husbands, create an environment of trust and openness.

❤️ Your marriage is too precious to leave unguarded!

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

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© Samuel Olagbenjo
Marriage/Family Therapist | Best-Selling Author | Publisher | Book Project Consultant | Book Editor | Ghostwriter | Founder, Marital Success Academy

06/01/2026

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