Pastor Sam Onyeji

10/01/2023

Celebrating my 7th year on Facebook. Thank you for your continuing support. I could never have made it without you. 🙏🤗🎉

28/12/2022

WHY YOU MAY NEED MARRIAGE COUNSELLING IN 2023
By Pastor Sam Onyeji*

One mistake many people make is thinking that only couples that are about to divorce should seek marriage counselling. This is not true. There are those who allow problems in their relationship to fester and get worst before seeking for help. Then, there are those who believe that praying and possibly fasting about their marital challenges is enough to resolve every issue. This is also wrong and should be discouraged. Just like going to the the clinic or hospital because of physical health challenges is not an indication of lack of faith, going to see a counsellor does not indicate you're not spiritual.

The words of Jesus Christ in Matthew 18:15ff shows there are times when two people may be unable to resolve a misunderstanding or problem in their relationship. It may therefore become necessary to get others involved.

Marriage counselling helps to address marital concerns because it helps couples take time out of their busy lives and come together and focus on themselves. The counsellor acts as a sort of mediator between the spouses and facilitates healthy and effective communication.

Most marriage counsellors encourage both partners to attend counselling sessions because how you both communicate, plays an effective role in counselling. However, if your partner is unwilling to attend, this should not stop you from attending marriage counselling.

There are some issues that usually indicate a need for counselling. Let’s talk about some of them.

When Should You Seek Marriage Counseling?

1. When you realize that you and your partner keep quarrelling and fighting over the same issue; you're unable to see eye to eye or come up with a solution.

2. Disagreement over child upbringing, financial, or lifestyle choices.

3. When you feel that your partner is emotionally unavailable and you're unable work things out on your own.

4. When you feel that you or both of you have lost s*xual or romantic chemistry.

5. When there are mental health issues, substance abuse and domestic violence.

6. You recently experienced a loss and are having trouble processing it together.

7. Couples who feel that household responsibilities are unequal and cannot figure out how to work out solutions.

If you are facing any of these issues and there seem to be no solution in sight you should seek for marriage counselling.

to be continued.
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*Pastor Sam Onyeji is a Biblical Marriage Counsellor and Family Life Coach based in Owerri, Imo State, Nigeria. He could be reached on WhatsApp through this number: +2348035787556.

24/12/2022

Marriage Evaluation Questions
(Questions to stimulate discussion and understanding of one another as husbands and wives)

Our 8-day marriage evaluation begins today and the eight different areas we shall be evaluating include:
- Conflict resolution
- Parenting
- Finances
- S*x
- Communication
- inlaws/Extended Family
- Recreation
- Spiritual

Day 1: Dealing with Conflict
1. How did your parents deal with conflicts?

2. When conflicts arose in your family, what happened (silence, withdrawal, anger, open discussion, etc.)?

3. How was conflicts resolved?

4. Did one parent always seem to "win in the end"?

13/12/2022

When last did you say "I'm sorry" to him.... to her?

13/12/2022

7 KEYS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!
By Mike Murdock

Introduction

1. Decisions create seasons. Not God. Not the Calendar.

2. You are one decision away from your next season!

3. You are the person responsible for how long you stay in one season.

4. Honor is earth’s greatest law. If you master the law of honour, you have mastered life itself.

5. The first FOUR commandments deal with how to HONOR God while the last SIX deal with how to HONOR Men. Dishonour for both will cost you heaven.

6. Your success will be determined by whom you’ve chosen to HONOUR.

7. I wish I could tell you that if you had a great father you’ll be successful but Solomon and Absalom had the same father. One succeeded and the other failed. Why? One practiced honour towards the father and the other one didn’t.

8. I wish I could tell you that if you had breakfast every morning with a man of God you’d be successful but Demas and Timothy did, however, only one succeeded. Why? Timothy chose to honor Paul.

9. WISDOM is the ability to recognize DIFFERENCE in people. HONOR is REWARDING that DIFFERENCE in them. John did, Judas didn’t.

10. Do not treat everybody the same. If you do, how do you honour/reward the faithful?

13/12/2022

John Peterson, a very prolific gospel songwriter was called by a major music company who was interested in a song that he had written and offered him a huge sum of money for the song, with the provision that they alter it slightly taking out the name of Jesus from the lyrics. He refused the contract and on the way home wrote: "Why should I sing of lesser things, of things that pass away, When I've a friend like Jesus now to sing about each day. I have no song to sing, but that of Christ my king, To Him my praise I'll bring forevermore. His love beyond degree, His grace that ransomed me, Now and eternally, I'll sing it 'oer. I find no more delight in other songs, my melody of love To Christ belongs, I have no song to sing, but that of Christ my king, to Him my praise I'll bring, forevermore."

13/12/2022

Throwback on understanding s*x conference 2022.

DANGERS OF SEXUAL SINS.

I AM WRITING THIS LETTER TO THOSE WHO ARE GENUINELY BORN AGAIN, BUT THEY ARE STRUGGLING WITH SOME SECRET SINS... BECAUSE, I WAS ONCE THERE!

There is something glorious about your future God will show you, you will not need your pastor to keep preaching holiness message to you daily...

When you see a girl singing in the choir, yet, from the choir, she keeps s*xual appointments, check that girl, she has not seen anything yet about her future...

When you see a young boy who dresses to church, to seduce those small girls to bed and his mates will be clapping for him, check that boy, he has a spiritual eye problem...

He hasn't seen anything about his future yet...
If you do it again and again and again, God will forgive you again and again and again...

But, while He is busy forgiving you, angels are busy searching for some one else heaven will use to replace you ...

What separates men before God is not how long they can pray or how much scriptures they know...

The value God places on people is not determined by the position they occupy in the church...
But how much they can bear for His Name sake...

Some times, He allows your salary to be delayed, to know if you will start stealing in your office...

Sometimes, He allows some lose ladies to start suggesting s*x with you, to know if you have grown...

But unfortunately, you still fall again ....
Yes, He will forgive....
But, you will still remain in the same class in the school of glory...

Decision separates men...
There is an OIL that comes with separation...
The weight of a man is buried in the decisions he makes when no one is watching him ...

Many times, God allows you to be lonely so that you can be holy...

Forget this public revival messages all of us are preaching...
Many are still behind in the school of glory...

Not because they chose to, but because they still don't want to pay the price of separation...

If it takes a man to be married to be responsible, we will not have many married irresponsible men scattered all over the place who are renting houses for their girlfriends, while their wives are still at home....

When a man is due for marriage, he should get married...

But don't tell me to get married because you want me to escape fornication...
Marriage is not an escape route into a responsible life...

What you cannot control when you are single has the power to control you even when you are married ...

No matter how beautiful your wife will be, you will still see other beautiful ladies....
Teach me how to die to flesh sir...
Teach me that I can live alone in a house alone and yet, I will not think rubbish thoughts...

Joseph was not married before he ran away naked from Portiphar's wife bedroom ...
It was not a marital ring on his finger that made him refuse that gesture....

But because he knew the future God has planned for Him will be messed up by a single decision....

God wants to raise a generation of young boys and girls that will love God where no one is seeing them ...

God wants to raise a breed that doesn't appear holy only when they see their parents or their pastors...

This holiness by dressing is sending people from choir seats to hell fire...
They are dying in secret sins, yet, they have none to cry to, because, once they confess, they will be stigmatized...

Consequently, we are raising a generation that is speaking in tongues on their way to hell...

Sister, singing in choir doesn't confer value on men before God, but decision...
Stop attaching your spiritual growth on night vigils where you go and flog enemies ...

God is waiting for you when no one is there...
If you can succeed there, you will be a commander of the supernatural...

The greatest tool against the end time church is the adulteration of the message of grace...
They teach you that God will forgive...
But they will not teach you that God will not promote you to another class...

No matter how you love your child, you will not give him your car key to use when you know he has not perfected his driving...

As long as that child is finding it hard to drive perfectly, he will keep trekking to school...

There is someone reading this posts now, heaven is saying that you are due for manifestation, but you have not made a decision yet...

You are still afraid of hunger....
You don't want to starve....
You are ashamed of what people will say when you stop sleeping with men for money to pay bills...

They have even told you that there is no young person like you that doesn't have s*xual partners...
That human beings were wired by God to fall and rise again...

Several times, you have made moves to delete all those phone numbers that connect you to your vomits...
But you have been afraid of the days of loneliness...

You don't want to miss those cuddles...
You don't know if you can ever look into his eyes and tell him: "No more s*x"...

Even if he accepts, you are afraid that you might never cope...

Sister, don't let weekend or***ms rob you of eternal value...

Your enemy is no more that witch in the village....

But any man that is making you comfortable in a place of rebellion with God ...

Don't be in church singing in the choir and God will go to the nearest hotel and catch a pr******te, wash her, clean her and fill her with His power...

I know you have been trying to make amends ...
You have answered altar calls several times, yet, you still fall back, even more deeper ...

Some of us were there not too long ago...
Singing in choir, leading in powerful prayer sections, yet, battling with addictions...

Worse of all we were afraid to tell anyone...
Because, people around would never have understood how much we were trying to be better ...

We bought different anointing oil, from different men of God, yet, we were not free...
We even afflicted ourselves with fastings...
Yet, nothing changed ...

Until we encountered the Word of God.....
When Jesus said that " We are made clean by the Words that I speak unto you..."

We began to read and study the Bible...
Like Job, we began to esteem God's Word above our necessary food...

Gradually, addictions began to lose its grip...
God began to change our appetites...
Until today, the darkness is past, the true Light now shineth ...

Brother, I want to recommend you to the Word of God....
The Word of God will settle that lust issue...
Don't go and rush into marriage if you are not ready, because you want to avoid temptation...

The spirit of lust does not respect wedding ring...

Especially now that our sisters who are still in Babylon even prefer having it with married men ...

There are still single guys who are serving God in spirit and in truth...
5 chapters of the bible every day and 1 hour prayers or more...

You will see that your mind will stop going to those thoughts ...
Jesus did not say it is easy...
But He said that with God all things are possible ...

Your heart is beating faster now as you are reading this...
You are wondering if you will ever get free from the things you are struggling with...

Friend, that God that did it for us, He will show up on your case...

Receive grace to feast on the Word from now....
In Jesus Name...please teach the young ones in your church and God bless you.

There is no obligation to share. No whips or curses if you don't share. But we both know that when you share this, it goes a long way to help someone.

So I'm asking you to help someone .
Thank you for reading (and for sharing too).

04/12/2022

https://youtu.be/hkU1MS2HMmY

BUILDING A SECURE FOUNDATION FOR A GODLY HOME_A Premarital, Marriage Counselling Course@SamOnyeji

04/12/2022

https://youtu.be/v-PgvN8cvSA

04/12/2022

https://youtu.be/IoRq14s0ViE

04/12/2022

https://youtu.be/V_yHoti4Nsg

04/12/2022

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