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What did you notice in this post?Was is the message? The colour, the font? Or was it the typo right at the bottom?Becaus...
13/11/2025

What did you notice in this post?

Was is the message? The colour, the font? Or was it the typo right at the bottom?

Because that was there on purpose. To demonstrate how quickly our mind goes to the things that are off. The things are not as desired.

Our brain tends to focus on danger, and so we go to the future and fantasise about possible negative things that could occur.

Or it goes to the past, te relive painful experiences so that you will never have to have them again.

In both cases you’re suffering. In both cases you’re out of alignment with joy. In both cases you activate your Fight & Flight system for things that aren’t even there. At least not now. And may never ever happen.

By focusing on joy, you calm your nervous system down. That is where growth happens. That is where healing happens. That is where connection happens.

So do the counterintuitive thing: choose joy. Choose to notice what’s good. Even when not everything is great.

Trauma is having to go through an intense emotional experience, An experience where your (physical) integrity is at risk...
06/11/2025

Trauma is having to go through an intense emotional experience, An experience where your (physical) integrity is at risk.

Trauma can be big, a huge event that you can label as such. But it can also be smaller and repeated. Neglect, not been seen or heard.

What I usually see in my practice, is that trauma is always about feeling alone. No matter if it was a one-time event, a certain period of time or was happening throughout a longer period.

The younger you were when the trauma(s) occurred, the more likely your emotional development stagnated at that time. That is what we call “arrested development”. When entering similar situations, you are likely to react from that emotional age.

The good thing about trauma, is that it can be healed. By revisiting the trauma, accompanied by a certified therapist, we can rewrite the experience. You can normalise the emotions and relabel the thoughts you have formed about yourself, other people and the world around you.

In a visualisation, we virtually experience the things that happened to you, but this time in the presence of someone who stands up for you, supports you and sees you. And this is the beginning of your healing journey, so that the trauma doesn’t cast its shadow forward to the here and now.

Therapy is not for you. Because you are strong. Because you are doing okay-ish. And because other people’s problems are ...
16/07/2025

Therapy is not for you.

Because you are strong. Because you are doing okay-ish. And because other people’s problems are bigger than yours. And most of all: you are not crazy or damaged.

So you have decided to keep going. To be brave, cry when no one is watching. Or just escape in pleasure, work, relationships or substances so as not to feel what is missing.

And that is going really well. You think.

Because somewhere inside, you know that you are not being totally honest to yourself. Deep down, you know you are repeating what you were missing in your childhood: by not listening to yourself you are still not being seen fully. You are not being acknowledged and you continue to let that little child in you strive on their own.

And the pressure of outside success becomes bigger and bigger, to compensate for the loneliness and sense of unworthiness that you are feeling inside.

Because you are afraid of that will happen if you stop. That everything will fall apart. That you will never be able to stop crying. Or that you have no idea of what it is that you actually want. So it’s easier to keep going. Running from this fear of not being good enough. Not being loveable.

Starting therapy takes courage. Both for the patient and for the therapist. Because first there is the breaking down the walls, being vulnerable enough and trusting enough to let somebody in. Because you have been let down and disappointed so many times.

But when you do, that’s where the real magic begins: that’s when I get to perform my miracle surgery of mending the pieces of your broken heart. Because it is BS that time will heal all wounds. It won’t. You just learn to deal with it better.

Truly repairing the wounds, and even Upgrading the operating systems. Replacing the software that was put in there when you were a child and putting in cutting edge techniques will give you the best second half of your life.

When will you start?

Have you ever heard of High Functioning Depression? It sounds a bit weird, right? Because, the classic idea of depressio...
14/07/2025

Have you ever heard of High Functioning Depression? It sounds a bit weird, right?

Because, the classic idea of depression is to not be able to work, not get out of bed, and maybe even being suicidal. Not finding joy in anything you do. And yes, that is a very serious disease that needs serious treatment.

But what if it stays hidden between busy schedules and staying busy? We see more and more people in my practice who are just not happy enough. Who feel tired when they wake up, feel continuously irritated or guilty. Who are still delivering but don’t enjoy it anymore. Who operate on willpower.

They just stop being excited about things.

Stress is the biggest enemy in the process. Espcecially chronic stress.

The good news? It’s fairly easy to beat. By yourself. By doing some lifestyle interventions.

I can take you through these in my practice. Or give a lecture about it for your team or company. In case you decide to once and for all do things differently after you return from your summer break. Or when you don’t recharge enough or at all during your summer break.

Contact or of .academy ® to book me for your next event.

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