PlayFull Living - Simon Magnus

02/02/2026

Safety isn’t something we think our way into.
It’s something the body recognises.

Often, that recognition doesn’t come from being alone with our thoughts,
but from being met —
in tone, in pace, in presence.

When that happens, something settles.
And from there, change becomes possible.

29/01/2026

Consent is an ongoing conversation, it isn't just a box we tick.

Because what happens when we are in total agreement to what we are doing, when we totally dive in to our desires and know for certain that the other is totally on board with that.

It is essential when we are consciously doing kink work together. So we are not actually USING the other, but entering into an experience together.

These are the spaces I love to host.

If you are interested in finding out more we're hosting a conscious kink retreat for men+ in Spain .project in June.

More info in the bio!

25/01/2026

What happens when you stop negotiating with your edges
and let yourself be met there?

Rite of Surrender is a deliberate descent for men+.

Into sensation.
Into trust.
Into the charged space where power is not taken, but offered—and received with care.

This is conscious kink as initiation rather than escape.

Structure that holds you steady enough to soften.
Ritual that allows something real to move.

If your body responds before your mind catches up,
you already know why you’re here.

Happening in June .project.

More details in the bio... See you there

23/01/2026

What is it to learn to trust another?

How do you allow another into your world so that you are able to let go? So that you are able to submit?

For many, having fantasies about b**m is taboo. It might be something you have thought about and imaged but feel self-conscious or shame about stepping into it.

But how do we trust?
Trust is a choice.
It is a relationship.

It is not solely up to the other to make you feel trust, you can also choose for this.

That might be difficult to fully agree too, it is sometimes much more comfortable and easy to put this onto the other....
It is their fault that I'm not getting the experience that I want to be having.

But f*ck that, f*ck giving up your power to another. You can choose this. It takes work to let go to understand that it is your choice, because if it is all your choice what are you not choosing for your life?

Where are you placing your desires outside yourself?

If you want support stepping into these things and spending a week diving into it we're hosting a week of conscious kink and power play in June .project

More info in the bio.

17/01/2026

We’re very good at calling it discernment.
At saying we’re “just listening to ourselves.”

But often, we’re waiting until nothing real is at stake.

The truth is:
the moment something matters, fear shows up.

Not because it’s wrong — but because it might ask something of us.
Not more effort.
More honesty.
More presence.
Less armour.

No space will ever feel completely safe before you arrive.

If it did, it probably wouldn’t change you.

The spaces I hold aren’t designed to keep you comfortable.
They’re designed to be trustworthy.

To be consensual.
To be brave.

If something in you feels stirred by this — and another part wants to scroll past — both make sense.

One of them already knows.

15/01/2026

Our sensations are gateways.
Gateways to opening and pleasure.

This is a key.

What happens when we allow all our attention to rest on our sensations. To the feeling of someone touching us, to the feeling of touching another.

There is a place where everything else disappears, where all that matters is that connection, between you are your partner... between you and yourself...

To step into conscious kink we need to really learn to understand sensation, how to use it for pleasure, control, surrender, transformation.

In June I'll be hosting a conscious kink week long retreat for men+ .project

Interested? There's more info in my bio, or message me here and let's have a chat.

12/01/2026

For many gay and q***r men+, intimacy has quietly become something we perform.

We read the room.
We manage expectations.
We stay alert to how we’re being seen.

This retreat weekend in the Austrian Alps is an invitation to do something different.

The Peak of Sensation is a conscious, facilitated space for gay and q***r men+ to slow down, come back into the body, and explore touch and connection with clarity, care, and consent.

There is no pressure to perform.
No roles to fit into.
No expectation to go further than what feels true for you.

Through guided practices, clear boundaries, and a strong emphasis on choice, we create the conditions for honest connection — with yourself and with other men.

If you’re curious about intimacy that feels grounded, present, and deeply human, you’re warmly invited.

I'll be hosting this retreat with an amazing body artist and facilitator.

More info in my bio.

Let me know if you have any questions.

09/01/2026

What's creatity got to do with kink or any other kind of intimacy?

So often it is something that's forgotten, or put aside. Creativity is seen as something that is left to the relm of artists, musicians or poets. But the best experiences of pleasure are when we are able to fall into our creativity, to really let go into inspiration and to allow our ideas to flow within the ideas of another.

In June I'll be hosting a week long retreat called The Rite of Surrender. This is all about how to harness our creativity to support your discovery of a deeper sense of conscious kink, intimacy and freedom.

Taking place from 8th to 14th June .project

More information in the bio!

04/01/2026

What happens at a conscious kink retreat isn’t about performance, proving anything, or pushing yourself past your limits.

It’s about choice.
Choice to explore power or surrender in a way that feels safe.
Choice to meet parts of yourself you’ve kept hidden.
Choice to soften the armour you’ve learned to wear in order to belong.

When kink is held consciously, with consent and care, it becomes a space for learning, play, pleasure — and real self-meeting.

Not to fix yourself.
Not to become someone else.
But to come home more fully to who you already are.

In June, we gather for The Rite of Surrender at .project in Spain. I'll be co-creating with the powerful .love.

Our Early-Bird spaces have sold out, but there are still regular spaces left.

If you’re curious, hesitant, or feel something stirring in your body — you’re welcome to reach out or book a call.

No pressure.
Just an invitation.
🖤

29/12/2025

16/12/2025

Something's coming...

Over my years of creating work both for self development and in the theatre world, and doing a load of self work alongside this, I have noticed a lot of things about being human. How we do relationships, how we speak to ourselves, how we engage with the world and many other bits.

I've always wanted to create something where I can talk about these observations. If you've been to one of my sessions you'll know that I like to take a holistic view of things. It isn't just about the subject we are working on but about what this brings deeper awareness to in our lives.

Over the past few months I've been in a studio creating some videos. At first I felt scared, 'what if I'm just talking s**t', 'what if it is just ridiculous', but then I thought, well f*ck it.
I want to share this.
Some things will resonate and other things won't, it doesn't really matter. What matters is that I'm in my integrity when sharing and trust the you'll hear the things that you need to and leave the things that you don't.

As you might know I take personal development seriously and at the same time not seriously at all! These videos are a reflection of that. If we take it all too seriously we are losing the whole point of development, but if we don't take it seriously enough we're stuck in the same problem.

So here a few teaser photos of videos that I'll be publishing over the next few months.

Can wait to share these videos with you.

08/12/2025

Been doing a lot of reflecting lately.

On my work, my creativity, and what I actually want to bring into the world.

And honestly… it’s feeling really good to just be more myself.

I’m shifting away from old labels and leaning into the things that make me feel alive: connection, kink, dance, presence, curiosity, q***rness.

The whole messy mix.

I’m excited to share more of that here — thanks for being part of this with me. 💛