19/10/2022
As promised we like to share more about the facilitators at Intimate Encounters ∞. For those who watched our video in the event discussion board this might be old news ánd it wants to be posted anyway because only few actually watched that video + Oz made an effort to write about himself :):
Hellooooo, my Name is Oskar Oz Bechtold maybe you’ve met me as DBSM - DBSM - Dem Bambi Sei Mudder which is my artsy alter ego.
My passion is not only in creating amazing audio-visual and multi-sensory Art installations but also the arts of sensuality and s*xuality.
Growing up in, a world with good and bad, monogamy, expectations, no real conversation about sensuality, boundaries, or even s*x, and a strict script of how life should be lived, heteronormativity, etc. I always wondered why I don’t fit in. It took me a lot of strength, willpower and some amazing role models and mentors to break out of that world, to leave my comfort zone.
So I began trying to create a better world, for me, but also for everyone who would like to join. I started doing things others would comment with “You can’t do that” or “This is wrong”. And guess what, my life became better, more fulfilling, more juicy, more crazy. I don’t regret anything and I’m glad I was brave enough to go through these steps. I also started saying what society wouldn’t say, educating about what society wouldn't teach. I started organising events, society would not provide, I started believing in what society taught me to be ashamed of. Doing so, I became an inspiration and mentor for other people who wanted to leave the default world.
Today I am at home in the poly scene, the burning man scene, and the s*x-positive community.
Being a DJ and Light Artist, I wanted to play at a party that would not only invite dancing, but would allow people to encounter each other, without fear. My favourite party would be a party where everybody can kiss with everybody on the dance floor and everyone feels safe doing so. It didn’t exist. This is when I started with “Dancen und Schmusen!” (Translates to “Dansen en Knuffelen!” and, even better, “Dansen en Smoochen!”) a s*x-positive Techno party.
It took me a lot of courage to start that. Going slow in the beginning to be able to grow at a comfortable rate proved to be the right decision. It has now become an ecstatic feast of life and sensuality, people keep on asking when the next one is happening.
But creating and holding space at parties was not enough. I wanted to contribute to a better, safer world for everyone. So I started diving more into anti-s*xist awareness, consent culture, did the Sensual Arts Facilitator Training at https://www.sensualarts.school/, got trained by s*xismfreenight.eu, and participated in workshops by the https://www.consent.academy.
Having contributed to Intimate Revolution, Sexolution, Conscious Play Temples, Ta***ic Arts Retreats, Sextalks and others, I am very proud to be back in Amsterdam to facilitate at the Intimate Encounters ∞, which I share a lot of values with.
At the five senses ritual, we will dive into our sensuality, into receiving and giving. We will give ourselves permission to sense, to experience and to enjoy our bodies with our bodies. While this is not a s*xual activity itself, it does open up our perception to receiving with all our senses. It led me to being able to enjoy more things on many more levels, but it also helped me juice up my (s*x-) life. Later on we will dance together, we will shake our bodies, we will be ecstatic and we might kiss each other when Dancen und Schmusen! meets I am s*xuality: “Dansen en Smooching!” Looking forward to an intense and awesome time with you
https://linktr.ee/DemBambiSeiMudder
