Eigen Weg, praktijk voor Rebalancing, Monique Pellens

07/12/2025

Een wijze pleitbezorger voor Rebalancing!🙏🏻

Wat als we pijn durven toe te laten in ons hart? Dan zou onze diepste wond zomaar eens onze grootste kracht kunnen worden, zegt Lisette Thooft in De verwondering.

Stream De verwondering met Lisette Thooft op NPO Start 👉 bit.ly/deverwondering-gemist

De inspiratietekst van Lisette Thooft:

Waar was jij toen ik de aarde grondvestte? Vertel het me, als je zoveel weet. Wie stelde haar grenzen vast? Jij weet dat toch? Wie strekte het meetlint over haar uit? Waar zijn haar sokkels verankerd, wie heeft haar hoeksteen gelegd, terwijl de morgensterren samen jubelden en Gods zonen het uitschreeuwden van vreugde?
- Job 38: 3-7 (NBV)

14/10/2025

Toewijding. Zo mooi om dit met de eenvoudigste dingen toe te passen en te kijken hoe dat voelt. Mij voert het met liefde en aandacht in het moment.
Een fijne plek om te zijn…

17/05/2025

De kern van mijn eigen ervaren in Rebalancing. Nog steeds zo dankbaar dat dit op mijn pad kwam.
Kom het ook ervaren. Welkom!

When you welcome a feeling without resistance, it loses its power over you.

The moment you choose to FEEL it rather than FLEE it, it begins to FLOW through you, revealing its ancient wisdom.

This understanding could change your life.

- Jeff Foster

02/12/2024

Jeff Foster had Rebalancer kunnen zijn…
Welkom voor een sessie in mijn praktijk met alles wat nog niet geleefd mocht worden, of dat niet durfde. Vanuit ruimte, aandacht en zachte bedding, nodig ik je uit.

Trauma is not some big dark scary monster inside of us, some mysterious evil force working against us. Trauma is simply undigested life energy. It’s the tears we need to cry but have not yet cried, the screams we wanted to scream but didn’t. It is the shakes left unshaken, the loneliness left unfelt, the feelings repressed and stifled in order to hold up a self-image and stay safe and not fall apart.

It’s not our fault. We simply weren’t taught how to let terror, rage, or grief move through us safely to completion and we were only trying to protect ourselves. We weren’t shown how to feel it all and give it all conscious expression. Some of us as children were shamed or mocked for our thoughts, opinions, beliefs. Some of us were judged or even punished for having or showing certain feelings. Some of us were outright abused and had to squash down our authentic rage, grief, terror, or joy, in order to survive. Some of us were so neglected we wondered if we even existed at all.

That was the past. In the safety of the present we can begin to thaw. To recontact our precious authentic wild selves. To allow ourselves to think our original thoughts, and come to realise that we aren’t going to be struck down by some vengeful god, or punished, or damaged, for having ‘bad’ thoughts. We are free to think up entire universes, to fantasise, to have dark negative thoughts, and sexual thoughts, and ungodly thoughts, and thoughts are just thoughts, and all thoughts are allowed on the movie screen of awareness, and awareness doesn’t judge.

We aren’t going to die if we feel rage, or grief, or let fear move through us. We aren’t going to go mad or lose control. We can begin to discover that all our feelings are safe, and we can actually allow them in our bodies instead of reacting to them and running from them and numbing them out and fleeing into the mind.

In short, we can begin to bring love to the unloved regions of the body-mind, we can illuminate the achy, lonely, painful places inside with the warm, radiant light of our curious attention. We can begin to give ourselves the love and empathy we were starved of as children, begin to thaw the icy places, and breathe into the abandoned children inside.

As all our outdated coping strategies (which is what trauma really is) begin to collapse and deconstruct themselves in the light of love, we can recontact all the repressed energies that originally just wanted to move through us, and discover how damn safe they actually are. Anger is safe to feel, it won’t kill us. Sadness is safe, it won’t take us down. Fear is safe, it’s uncomfortable and intense but safe. Loneliness is safe, it can be hot and sticky and heavy inside but it’s safe.

We come out of our heads and return to our humanity, to our bodies, to our vulnerable hearts, and to the present moment itself.

We don’t have to live inside of our fear and shame any longer.

We can take the risk of letting love in. Of letting ourselves be seen without the mask. Of opening up our deepest truths to other safe human beings, showing them our awkwardness, our mess, our imperfections, revealing our secret thoughts and ‘shameful’ feelings, and let them love us for who we really are.

It is love that heals trauma. Love, and time, and patience, and a willingness to lean into the painful and contracted and lonely places inside.

- Jeff Foster

07/11/2024

Hoe waardevol kan een sessie zijn als je even durft te blijven bij de pijn. Misschien is het wel voor het eerst in je leven dat die pijn niet weghoeft, niet uit zelfbescherming weggestopt wordt. Het vergt moed en kracht, maar die heb je al bewezen.
De heling kan zich als vanzelf voltrekken als de pijn op dat moment een stem/beweging krijgt, alsnog kan uiten wat er ooit echt nodig was.
Stroming en bevrijding. Eindelijk…

02/10/2024

08/08/2024

29/02/2024

Enorm respect en liefde voor deze levenswijze vrouw…

17/12/2023

De donkere maanden van het jaar brengen me soms in andere velden, andere verlangens. Ik voel dat Vertraging me zo goed doet. Het is een groot woord binnen Rebalancing en ik voel waarom. Het brengt me naar mijn kern, naar wat er echt in mij leeft, naar wat ik diep kan voelen als van mij, waardevol, echt. Vertraagde, afgestemde aanraking brengt me daar, nodigt me uit.
Ik ging deze week zelf naar een sessie van een meester Rebalancer. Deze mooie prent doet me eraan terugdenken. Op pad, in een rustig tempo, koude en warmte ervarend, lichtjes voor de donkerte en in goed en veilig gezelschap.
Warme, liefdevolle feestdagen gewenst❤️

05/12/2023

Healing for the most part means grieving. You won’t get through this without grieving, my love.

Disappointment is sacred, you see. You have to grieve out the past, the things you lost, the roads you could have taken. You have to grieve out your stolen childhood, those shattered dreams, a life you thought you were meant to live. You have to grieve out those missed opportunities, words and behaviours you regret, choices made or unmade that led you to where you are, or not.

You have to grieve out the dream that it could have been any different, the lie that you believed in order to keep yourself going, or keep yourself safe, or keep you on the pathless path to where you find yourself now.

Let yourself be disappointed then! Turn towards the pain of “things not turning out the way I wanted them to”. This is the death of your ego, and it hurts like hell sometimes. You want to fight it, you want to run, you want to protest, but soften. Soften. Let it hurt today. Weep it out today. Scream it all out. The will of the Universe is much more powerful than your own individual will, my love. Fall to your knees and grieve, then.

Not my will but Thy will.
Not that, but this.
This, here, now.

Grief will return you to the ground, to reality, if you can soften into it, receive its blessing.

In a pool of tears, the past integrated, you will begin your new life.

- Jeff Foster

09/11/2023

Deze uitspraak van Rumi past zo in het onderzoek en de ervaring van Rebalancing. In mijn sessies kun je, onder andere, je kritische stemmen of patronen “ontmaskeren”. Niet door ze te veroordelen of ertegen te vechten, maar ze in het licht te zetten, echt te zien en te omarmen. De ontspanning door massage/aanraking in de sessie nodigt uit tot openen van ongekende lagen in jezelf. Op jouw tempo, op jouw Eigen Weg… to the light you seek💫

16/09/2023

Dit kan Jeff Foster alleen maar zo verwoorden door eigen ervaring.
Het is zo passend bij de Rebalancingway.
Wees welkom om ermee te durven zijn en te ontdekken.

TRAUMA
is the invisible force
that keeps us running, restless,
in pursuit of some intangible goal.
Caught up in some unnecessary activity.
Addiction. Compulsions. Distractions.
Makes us escape into thinking.
Makes the body feel unsafe.
Makes the present moment into an enemy.

If we slow down.
If we stop.
If we rest.
If we simply do nothing.
Then we will have to face ... ourselves.
We will have to face buried feelings.
All the s**t we were running from.
All the darkness.
The gunk.
The muck.
The loneliness.
The aches and the boredom.
The night and the emptiness.

Trauma says, “Run!”.
Trauma says, “Do Not Stop!”.
Trauma says, “Just keep going!”
Trauma says, “Stopping is unsafe!”.

We start by proving to ourselves
that it is safe to rest! Safe to be still.
Safe to do nothing, just for a moment.
Safe to think our thoughts and feel our feelings ..... and not ‘fix’ the moment in any way.

We can begin - one moment at a time –
to digest all the undigested things inside.
Stay with sadness for a moment longer.
Be present with our joy or shame for an instant more.
Breathe into our anxiety instead of running from it.
Become curious about our discomfort
instead of distracting ourselves with unnecessary food,
drink,
cleaning,
drugs,
shopping,
Internet,
thinking,
talking,
overworking,
yoga,
seeking,
more thinking,
rumination,
fantasy and false hope.

We can challenge the core story at the heart of trauma:
That the present moment is unsafe.
That the body is somehow working against us.
That feelings, sensations or thoughts are dangerous.
That stillness and silence equal non-existence and death.
And that we have to ‘do’ something
in order to be worthy,
and loved,
and whole.

It takes courage to stop running.
It takes courage to lean into the storm.
It takes courage to touch the darkness inside
with the infinite light of our curious attention.

It takes courage to break the addiction to futures.
And be present.
And breathe.

And not know.

- Jeff Foster