La Luna Yoga & Coaching

28/11/2025

Immature parents want love, not work.⁠
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Many childhood trauma survivors were raised by highly immature parents with unresolved childhood trauma. An immature parent is confusing because they are an adult in charge of our lives with the emotional maturity of an eight-year-old. Unfortunately, survivors do not catch this problem in their parents, usually until adulthood.⁠
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The immature parent can often look like⁠
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1) Having a high deficit in parental responsibility.⁠
(They don't know they are the adult in charge throughout their children's development and beyond.)⁠
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2) Poor handling of emotions. (They can be limited, basic, and avoidant of difficult conversations and issues, making them shut down, become victimized, or have low frustration tolerance).⁠
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3) Exhibit crazy-making behaviors. (They might be able to partially understand a boundary but revert to the old issue anyway.) For example, they can agree their partner is off or abusive but quickly give up any attempts or strategies to progress.⁠
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4) They believe it's all happening to them or around them, but never see themselves as having a part in things. "You know how hard things are for me!"⁠
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An emotionally mature parent understands their task of raising a child in emotional safety as best they can and engages the child in growing emotionally. With an immature parent, the role is reversed, with the child raising the adult through issues from job changes, romantic partnerships, and emotional soothing.⁠
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For the survivor working on themselves with an immature parent like this, there is a slow process of gradually seeing that the parent establishes a one-way street with their children. They demand love, care, and acceptance but will not work on themselves or the relationship in any way.⁠
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They will not take in your words, go to therapy, get sober, respect the boundary, or be consistent.⁠
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The survivor processing their trauma may need space and time to process being parentified and losing out on a safe home base outside the ongoing dynamic.⁠
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Do you have a parent who wants the love without the work?

28/11/2025

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28/11/2025

addict diaries;
no more running.

28/11/2025

What role do you play in your family system? 🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒

For this private constellation I used elements.

A constellation provides a spatial and visual image of a system. It is certainly not only about people in the system. It is mainly about how our families have dealt with history and how they have survived painful situations. That way of survival of our (ancestors) parents is often the source of patterns. And patterns are often (unconsciously) passed on.

In a family constellation you investigate personal questions and patterns within a system with the help of a systemic facilitator. By observing and exploring without judgement, the facilitator tries to make dynamics visible and to create space for a new movement or change.

In a family constellation you set up persons or elements that touch on the personal question of the questioner. The facilitator and the questioner together determine which persons or elements these are. By what or by whom they should be represented, the questioner decides. You can perform the constellation with representatives or with materials.

28/11/2025

The stuff you're avoiding isn't random.

It's a map.

That conversation you keep putting off? That's where the breakthrough is.

That project that feels too hard? That's where the growth is.

That truth you don't want to face? That's where freedom lives.

Your brain isn't trying to protect you by making you avoid things.

It's showing you exactly where you need to go.

I spent two years avoiding learning to sell.

Hated it. Made excuses. Built everything else around my business except that.

Revenue stayed flat the entire time.

Finally faced it. Learned to sell.

Revenue doubled in six months.

The thing I was running from was the only thing that mattered.

Your avoidance is a compass:

→ Whatever you're dodging is what needs attention
→ Whatever makes you uncomfortable is where you're stuck
→ Whatever you keep procrastinating on is your next level

Stop treating avoidance like it's random resistance.

It's specific. And it's telling you something.

The thing you least want to do is usually the thing you most need to do.

Turn around. Face it.

That's the work.

27/11/2025

For the ones who build
their own village because
no one else was there…
you are seen, and you are enough.

27/11/2025

27/11/2025

Rest your heart.




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