11/11/2025
Most confusing behaviours in relationships stem from the inner child's desperate quest for affirmation—a deep need for undeniable proof that the safety of this relationship is real.
But confirmation (validation, proof, certainty) is a closed loop, often leading to more testing and instability.
Connection is an open loop. It's built on mutual vulnerability and acceptance, even when the data is imperfect.
The path to secure love starts when we stop using our partners to satisfy our need for proof and start letting them simply connect with us. This is where your inner work becomes outer peace.
Ready to shift from testing to trusting?