DreamsWork

20/01/2026

Geloven we het nu?

19/01/2026

(1/4) ''Ever since I can remember, my father would beat me. He was a dictator and there was no way my mother could interfere. One time he was beating me so hard that my mother tried to stop it. While my little brother was crying, she begged my father to stop hitting me. She said: “If you keep hitting him, he is going to hate you one day!”

My father had an important job at the airport with many responsibilities, and together with my mother he worked in a bar at night. They were away a lot, so my grandmother took care of my brother and me. But when my grandmother got Alzheimer’s she could no longer look after us so my father hired an acquaintance to be our babysitter.

He would play games with me, such as strip poker. He made me take off my clothes and he abused me for three years. I never told my parents about the abuse. I think I was too ashamed; I felt it was my own fault.

When I finally confronted my parents with it, they didn’t believe me. Then my brother interrupted the conversation and said: “Michel is right.” My dad asked him how he knew for sure. My brother replied: “Because it also happened to me.”

19/01/2026

18/01/2026

Mensen die hun eigen fabels, ofwel verdraaiing van de waarheid, geloven maken dat jij aan jezelf twijfelt.

You’re Arguing with a Delusion. Not Reality. And this must be understood in order to truly heal.

If you’re struggling with issues associated with Narcissistic Abuse, and you’re interested in coaching sessions with me, please visit my website linked in the bio. Sometimes getting the help from a professional who has lived through it is a necessary step. Visit my website linked in the bio of this account at www.jillwise.com for information on all services.

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16/01/2026

16/01/2026

In andere woorden: het complex bezit… bezet ons. Hoe dat in te zien? Daarvoor hebben we de Ander nodig.

16/01/2026

16/01/2026

Al wat ik hier plaats is voor mezelf, natuurlijk, ik ben mijn eigen ijkpunt. Maar deze is ook voor N., die het zo moeilijk vindt uit zijn comfort zone te stappen.

IMPOSTER SYNDROME ISN'T INCAPABILITY, IT'S INEXPERIENCE... understanding this difference changed my life👇🏾

5 years ago today, at 27 years old the BBC called me and asked:

"Do you want to become a Dragon on Dragon's Den".

I was shocked. But I said, Yes.

To me it’s not just an iconic show, it’s a culturally, economically and entrepreneurially important one.

I was 28 when I entered the Den.

About to sit in a chair I'd role-played myself in since I was 12.

To my left: Peter Jones. There since episode one, 2005.

To my right: Deborah Meaden. 19 years in that seat.

Producer counts down: "30 seconds until the first entrepreneur."

My hands are sweating?! Heart thumping in my ears!

Not because I couldn't evaluate businesses. I'd built and sold companies and made investments - in fact my first ever investment was into a young Hyrum Cook for an idea he pitched me pre-launch called Adanola.

But I'd never done it with cameras rolling and millions watching.

For 15 years, I'd watched from my parents' sofa.
Paused the TV as a child to give my verdict before the Dragons.

Played businessman in my living room.

Now I was.... inside the TV. In the actual Den.

The lights really hot. The chair stiffer than expected and the silence before that lift opens, deafening.

Here's what I learnt:

Imposter syndrome isn't about incapability. It's about inexperience.

Your brain literally can't tell the difference between: "I've never done this" and "I can't do this"

Same signal. Same fear. Completely different realities.

First entrepreneur walks in. Pitches. The Dragons turn to me.

My mind goes blank for exactly one second.

Then muscle memory kicks in.

"Your customer acquisition costs across social media is 3x your lifetime value," I hear myself saying. "How do you fix that?"

Peter nods. Deborah builds on my point.

I belonged there. I just hadn't belonged there before.

One pitch in, the nerves are gone. 10 pitches in and I forgot the cameras, 50 pitches in and that chair felt comfortable, 500 pitches later - I'm having fun, experimenting, pushing boundaries a little.

And the thing is, Imposter syndrome hits the hardest when you're doing something that really matters - that you really care about. When you're exactly where you should be. When you're growing!

That's why I call imposter syndrome, "growth syndrome" - who would choose a life without that?

I wasn't an imposter. I was a 28-year-old who'd never been a Dragon before.

And, it turns out that's exactly what they wanted - someone who was a bit naive, inexperienced - different.

The lack of experience is not the problem,
but it always holds an advantage - that's what you focus on.

To everyone facing their own Dragon's Den moment, please remember this:

You belong in every room you're brave enough to enter and the room that intimidates you most is the one that needs your perspective the most!

15/01/2026

14/01/2026