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28/10/2025

"The horse is always responding - not to our commands, but to our coherence. When we’re braced, they brace. When we soften, they breathe. When we find safety inside ourselves, they finally can too.

This is why true horsemanship begins with self-awareness.
It’s not about perfect technique. It’s about emotional maturity. It’s about having the humility to look at yourself before blaming the horse. It’s about knowing that every reaction - yours or theirs - is a conversation about safety"

There’s a quiet crisis in the horse world - and it isn’t just ignorance. It’s disconnection. It’s how many people are handling, training, and even loving horses without ever learning how a horse’s nervous system truly works - or how deeply it reflects their own.

So much of what we call “training” is really human pain in disguise. People projecting their frustration, fear, and unmet emotions onto an animal that can’t fight back. People punishing what they don’t understand, controlling what they can’t connect with. And what makes it so tragic is that most don’t even realise they’re doing it or some do and don't care to change anything because THEY can't change or heal themselves.

We’ve been taught to manage behaviour, not to recognise dysregulation. We call stillness “good” when it’s shutdown.
We call obedience “respect” when it’s actually resignation.
We call force “discipline” when it’s our own unhealed anger trying to find power somewhere.

Sadly, cruelty doesn’t always look like violence. It can look like indifference. It can sound like impatience. It can hide behind “standards” and “corrections.” It’s in the handler who ignores the small signs - the brace in the neck, the flicker of fear in the eye -because they’ve learned to ignore those same signals in themselves.

When a person is disconnected from their own body, they can’t feel the horse’s. When they’ve spent their life surviving their own pain, they don’t notice when the horse goes into survival too. Their nervous system is locked in fight, flight, or freeze - and the horse, being the mirror that it is, simply joins them there.

Horses end up carrying the weight of our unprocessed emotions. They absorb our tension, our grief, our impatience. They learn to tiptoe around our storms. And because they are so forgiving, so loyal, they often keep trying to please us even as they break down quietly under the burden of our unconsciousness.

It’s easy to point fingers at “abusers,” but the truth is more complex. Yes, there are people who use dominance, pain, and fear to control horses - and it’s wrong. But many of them aren’t monsters. They’re unhealed humans. They were taught that control equals safety, that force equals respect, that emotion equals weakness. They don’t realise they’re replaying the same fear-based systems they grew up in. They’re training from trauma - theirs, not the horse’s.

That doesn’t excuse it. But it explains it.
And understanding it is how we begin to change it.

Because a horse can only find as much safety as the human beside them can hold. You cannot create calm in another being if your own nervous system is broadcasting chaos. You cannot offer softness when your heart is clenched around unhealed anger. You cannot teach trust through fear.

The horse is always responding - not to our commands, but to our coherence. When we’re braced, they brace. When we soften, they breathe. When we find safety inside ourselves, they finally can too.

This is why true horsemanship begins with self-awareness.
It’s not about perfect technique. It’s about emotional maturity. It’s about having the humility to look at yourself before blaming the horse. It’s about knowing that every reaction - yours or theirs - is a conversation about safety.

If we want better horses, we need better humans. Humans who regulate before they correct. Humans who pause before they punish. Humans who can feel themselves enough to feel another being. Because every time we reach for force instead of understanding, we teach fear. And every time we choose patience, breath, and presence, we teach safety.

This isn’t about being “soft.” It’s about being sovereign.
It’s about recognising that leadership is not domination, it’s responsibility - the responsibility to create the kind of environment where another nervous system can thrive.

Horses aren’t here to absorb our pain or to make us feel powerful. They’re here to show us the truth of who we are. If you can’t meet a horse without your ego, they’ll show it to you. If you can’t stand still without tension, they’ll mirror it back. If you can’t handle vulnerability, they’ll stay guarded too.

That’s not defiance. That’s feedback.

This is the real awakening in horsemanship - to see that every “problem” horse is a reflection of human dysregulation. Every explosion, every brace, every act of so-called resistance is the horse saying, “I can’t feel safe with you like this.” That truth might hurt. And maybe it should. Because it’s the kind of hurt that wakes us up - the kind that cracks the shell of our unconsciousness and asks us to become someone a horse can finally exhale beside.

The future of horsemanship isn’t in better tools or new methods. It’s in better nervous systems. Humans who can regulate. Humans who can feel. Humans who can hold presence so steady that the horse doesn’t have to protect itself anymore.

Because the horse was never the one who needed fixing.
It’s us. And once we heal - once we stop projecting, stop forcing, stop fleeing from our own discomfort - the horse will meet us there. Soft, open, curious, ready.

Because that’s who they’ve been all along.

24/10/2025

Healing doesn't need to happen in isolation

In fact, healing blossoms in the witnessing act of others

In the learnt experience of what safe co-regulation feels like in the body

And in the direct exposure of a safe reliable presence and a newly formed secure attachment

Healing doesn't need to happen alone

It is in the exposure of our innermost shadows; the raw, the dirty and the unfiltered - and being witnessed in these states - that healing truly sets roots

It's in the courageous act of showing ourselves to the Other, whether human or animal, in our most authentic form.

And being met there, with absolute presence and compassion.

This is my wish and prayer for every person whom come to me for help.

That they get to experience the humble sense of liberation by being Seen, fully, for who they are, in that moment.

Perhaps for the very first time ever.

🤍


Inspirational words from a private healing session with this majestic Madame in horse form. Connect with me if this stirs your heart and if you have a deep knowingness that horses are calling you home now; home to yourself. And that it's time.
As a trained equine psychotherapist and intuitive, I will guide you along the way.

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Ingvild Mikkelborg

27/09/2025

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16/09/2025

Remove the blindfolds of your Soul ◇ 🌕🌓🌔

This eclipse portal is but a beautiful and tender passage to walk through for those courageous and vulnerable Hearts willing to let themselves become stripped naked of any mental and emotional clutter that's been holding us back for too long now.

It's energy felt piercing and raw and involuntary caused a tidalwave of deeply buried emotions, old hurts and disappointments - only this time to be looked directly into the eyes and bid farewell to once and for all.

The higher encouragement was to let these triggers pass us by - without getting involved or making it personal.

We were invited to engage with our inner child in a deeper way. Locating the hurt and mending it - internally, and thereby taking our power back.

This portal is offering us a golden opportunity to love and accept ourselves as the imperfect perfect version of ourselves that we already are.

To demonstrate a deepened trust in the higher forces and the path that we are on.

This eclipse portal offered us a simple choice and ultimatum.

Where are you still controlled by fear?

Are you willing to continue being ruled by fear, or are you willing to commit to a higher way of living by letting your Soul finally speak?

Spirit will test our commitment and show us exactly where fear is still controlling our life.

♡ 🌙

○ If you've found yourself facing a whirlwind of emotions, triggers and old wounds resurfacing during this eclipse window, book a Soul Empowerment Session to help assist you in getting the clarity and the sense of direction that you need to get back on track.

♡
Your Soul already knows.

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06/09/2025

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06/07/2025

Acceptance holds the key to liberation.
Softness will bring you closer to God than any force, pull or will.
Love greatly.
And surrender the rest.

09/06/2025

DON'T FALL FOR HER BEAUTY - FALL FOR HER SOUL.
AND THEN COMMIT WHOLEHEARTEDLY

Valuable lessons my rescue ex race horse has taught me these past few months. Boy has she humbled me and tested my level of commitment.

What I love about her the most is that she won't settle for less than authenticity. She won't perform and she won't pretend. She'll tell you exactly how she feels.

She doesn't like to be placed in a box or be a piece of some imaginary puzzle. She told me this in the beginning and already then my proud illusions started to crumble.

Because I admit; I did fall for her Beauty.

And I did have my own agenda and intention. I placed her in a box, even unknowingly, and didn't even realize how I had already then projected my version onto her without the courtesy of allowing HER to show ME her true self.

Without the courtesy of asking her what SHE wanted out of all this.

In the beginning, I was afraid of her strength and power. Especially combined with her raw sensitivity.

This led me to ask those important introspective questions; Where am I afraid of my own power? Where am I judging my own sensitivity and how I show up in this world? The list goes on.

This isn't how I'd want anyone to approach me either. I don't want anyone to fall for my beauty. To put me on a pedalstone and worship a version of me that simply does not exist. I know how that feels and it ain't good.

My horse made it very clear that I had to drop all expectations. I had to become empty and allow Her to show Me who she truly is.

I had to let her come to me. And my main responsibility was to show up. That's it. Over and over again.

Demonstrate my trustworthiness despite days where I could hardly get out of bed. Despite rain, snow blizzards or negative 20 degrees Celsius.

I had to show up in an authentic way despite her fluctuating moods and initial negative reaction to physical touch and connection.

I had to learn to reach deeper within her to the place where her Soul resided. And approach it with neutrality and respect.

I learned to see and accept her for who she is. She is different and more sensitive than any other horse I've been around. She's more fiery and reactive than any other horse I've been around.

And she'll continue to be this - and that's perfect. She shouldn't have to change.

We are both learning to let our guards down and to feel safe in this world. She's reflecting my own unhealed tendencies and wounds. My own fear of intimacy and lack of trust.

Today - she's learning to trust more. She approaches me as I come with an open and curious look on her face. She's with me. I can feel her in my heart.

We're becoming something tangible.

She allows me to touch her body now and offer her affection. I had to give it all up in order for her to feel safe enough to invite me in.

Now we are content just Being.

I hold no expectations of her other than the hope and prayer that she'll continue to open and blossom and feel safe to show us her true self.

Because she is more beautiful than most. And certainly unique. She's powerfully strong yet soft and warm.

Is the journey over? Absolutely not. It has merely just begun.

We're both finding our ways on this strange place called Earth.

Taking as much time as we need along the way.

04/06/2025

◇ Giving horses a voice ◇

I find that more and more horses seek a deeper level of connection and communication with us fellow globetrotters. They encourage us to open our ears and hearts wider and to challenge our perception of them and their role here with us. They ask us to question our conditioning and what we used to believe to be true.

For those horse people contacting me for an intuitive healing session; it's not that their horses need healing per se but rather hold a desire for a freeer flow of energy and a deeper relationship with their human.

Often, the horse mirror back unresolved emotional or even physical issues stemming from their human.

Other times, they request that certain messages be shared with their human to help better their day to day comfort and well-being.

Humans have tender hearts. As a fellow horse guardian slowly being immersed into the horse world, I now see the common and often unspoken underlying worry of not being good enough for our horse. We take on so much of the responsibility in providing for them that we often end up overcompensating, and this costs us deeply.

Instead, I find that the horses sincerely wish for us to understand them better and to release the unnecessary worry and self-doubt.

Horses are masterful creatures. Many even take insult in the mere notion that humans need 'heal' them. Therefore, I never approach them like that. My intention is never to 'heal' them but rather to stay open and allow for a deeper understanding to occur.

Understanding their past better.

Seeing if they are open to releasing past memories that no longer serve them.

Seeing if they are open to moving any energy that feels stuck, tense, or heavy.

Seeing if they allow me to send energy into their field and body to help ignite the memory of who they are. Because horses can forget too, and I've seen many disassociated horses stuck in a trauma response.

I seek to help understand the human too and help assist in the release of any trapped or unconscious emotions related to their role as the horses guardian. (note that I try to avoid using the word "owner" as in my opinion one can never own anyone else, let alone the spirit of a horse). Changing the way we speak about them and our relationship with them will help shift the old paradigm.

Lastly, horses bring with them powerful energies and are connected to other realms in ways we cannot even begin to grasp. Many are Master Souls in horse bodies. Let us approach them with the respect and dignity that they deserve and humble ourselves enough to see them for who they truly are. We need to open up and dare to let go of old outdated perceptions and allow new ones to be formed. That's how we help form a new paradigm where horses and humans coexist harmonious.

Note - this approach and higher understanding apply to all animals, of course, not only horses. ♡

I'm available for in-person intuitive communication and energywork for horses and other pets in central Norway, Scandinavia - or remotely worldwide. 🕊🌸🐾 Contact me if interested.