28/02/2024
You´re tired from a long day and all you want is at least 7 hours of quality sleep 🛌 😴
However, that little voice inside your head is likely telling you how your partner or friend should have treated you more kindly, how your boss should have given you more praise, or how you can´t get sick this week, and here you are staring at the ceiling for what seems like 5 hours 😵💫
Naturally, you want to blame other people´s behavior and unwanted circumstances for your sleepless night. I mean, if only they could get their act together and behave differently you wouldn´t be overthinking and feeling this way in the first place, right? 🙄
In fact, you would probably feel a whole lot better most of the time 🤔
However, have you ever considered that it might not be other people or circumstances that need to change but where you are placing your focus and attention? 😳
You see, relying on certain cirumstances or people to act a certain way so that we can feel better is like being a plant that only blooms when the sun shines on it just right. The plant probably won´t have a long and healthy life, right? 🪴
So, instead of focusing on your partner or friend not behaving in a way you desire, what about focusing on all the ways they bring you joy and being thankful that they´re in your life? 🫣
Of course this is easier said than done, especially in moments of anger 😠
So, allow yourself to move through it first: feel and release any disempowering emotion, in a healthy way, then proceed to switch your focus.
It all starts with awareness and repeatedly moving our focus and attention until it becomes an automatic habit.
Gaining awareness around our focus and attention can be compared to cleaning a dirty window. As you clean the window, you gain a clearer view of the outside world. Similarily, increasing our self-awareness helps us gain a clearer perspective on ourselves and our life 🥰
So, next time you lay in bed starting at the ceiling, notice whether your focus is on what you want or do NOT want 😉
Then be a resilient plant that blooms in ANY condition 🌱
