Lydia Nicholson Therapy

03/01/2026

Why Repair Matters More Than Perfection Every family makes mistakes.
That part is human.

What determines whether a family stays emotionally safe or slowly fractures isn’t perfection—it’s repair.

Repair means naming harm instead of minimizing it.
Taking accountability instead of defensiveness.
Apologizing without excuses. Not ignoring the harm.
And making things right, even when it’s uncomfortable.

When repair doesn’t happen, the wound doesn’t disappear.
It becomes the pattern—eroding trust, emotional safety, and connection over time.

Healthy families aren’t flawless.
They’re willing to repair.

31/12/2025

20/12/2025

The importance of witnessing grief and the value of rituals in grief.

20/12/2025

Christmas is not a happy or easy time for everyone

A seasonal reminder, for the weekend of the shortest day, that Christmas and the winter holiday season isn't always 'merry.'

If this season of jollity and connection jars for you, snags at your raw edges or catches your breath with loss, I'm sorry.

You're not alone. In fact, you're almost certainly near other people pretending to feel jolly whose hearts are numb, or empty, or broken.

I'm sorry the festivities leave little room for the things that matter most to some of us: memories of happier times, companionship that doesn't insist on good cheer, space for the names of the people or relationships we are yearning for.

In our compassionate community here, there are kind souls who help us hold our pain for a while. Thank you to all those loving hearts.

However you get through the season, I wish you moments of inner gladness, sparks of hope, and a sense that you matter whatever your mood. If you find yourself unexpectedly merry, I hope you'll be able to relish that moment. If you find it too hard to pretend, then don't. Instead, give yourself permission to sit with your distress. And remember that others often wonder how to help - so invite them to sit with you if you would welcome company.

We can get through this. We can do hard things. We are doing hard things - this is just another one.

Sending love.

Photo is a December sunset. A moment of radiance. One of those soul-supporting . I hope you'll find yours xx

22/10/2025

“Bring your people with you”

13/10/2025

Doing the best we can is enough

In this beautifully animated clip from Dirt! The Movie, Wangari Maathai tells an inspiring tale of doing the best you can under seemingly interminable odds. ...

03/09/2025

Grief is the bed-fellow of life and is too often assigned only to the final chapter. Acknowledging grief and loss in our living lives can offer the opportunity for self- compassion and a gentler moving forward with a kinder inner understanding of our sadness.

There’s a particular kind of grief that often goes unnamed. It’s not the grief of losing someone we love or even the grief that accompanies a devastating diagnosis.

19/05/2025

Spirituality, I love this definition

05/05/2025

The unfixable - other people’s happiness