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02/12/2024

I will be returning to the office post maternity leave in February 2025 for a limited amount of clients. Please note this is for ONLINE therapy only.

Email victoriathompsonpsychology@gmail.com to secure your spot 👩‍💻

04/01/2024

Affairs. They happen. And they are devastating. Sometimes they lead to the breakdown of a relationship and sometimes they don’t. Staying with someone after an affair often feels like the ‘frowned upon’ option but many couples do make it through infidelity, and you are entitled to make a choice that feels best to you (with the option of course to change your mind).

Here are a few things to think about when working with your partner to recover from an affair. If possible and available to you I do recommend seeking therapy following infidelity - it is no easy feat to recover from.

18/09/2023

This is something that often comes up in conversation with parents - why are my two kids so different under stress. Understanding Temperament is such an important part of learning to support your child.

Temperament has some biological disposition, whereas personality is the expression of it. You can start to see a child’s temperament really early on - perhaps you notice that they are a bit more shy around other people than your other child, or more cautious playing with other children.

I think that this analogy is useful to get some insight into the idea of temperament. There are some developments to this idea too (a tulip child) but here are the bare bones of this idea to start with!

05/09/2023

Here’s one for all my parents out there!

Parenting style can have a massive influence on children and in particular how they manage distress. I can’t take credit for this idea - it’s actually something used for eating disorder treatment but I think it’s applicable outside of that too! It’s a useful tool to reflect more on what your style might be and if you have a co parent what their style is.

Ideally we want to be more like a dolphin. Swimming alongside, gently guiding and nudging rather than dragging our young person through their problems.

Let me know in the comments which one you are!

31/08/2023

Who has felt like this before? 🤚

I feel this one deeply. It was particularly apparent when I was doing my clinical training to become a psychologist. I kept wondering why I had been selected for the course or if they had made a mistake.

Overcoming this sometimes is about ‘faking it until you make it’ - going forward even though you have a lot of self doubt.

Interestingly there are a lot of personality factors that can influence the likelihood of experiencing this, things like perfectionism and neuroticism.

Remember to focus on you not anyone else. You are on your own journey.

27/08/2023

It’s really hard to know what to say to our friends when they’re struggling with body image concerns and/or eating disorders. It can almost feel automatic to compliment others physically. However, even with the best intentions sometimes these compliments can do more harm than good.

Rule of thumb is to stay away from compliments about their physical status. Instead, focus on all of the other parts of them that have so much more meaning - their kindness, their joy for life, their humour…perhaps you’ve noticed a few of these things starting to return for them. Maybe you feel like you lost a bit of them there for a while, but slowly but surely you can see those parts come back.

Here are some ideas of things to say and also a short comment about how the sh*tty eating disorder can twist our words.

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02/08/2023

There are many challenges experienced by those with eating disorders. It’s not an easy thing to struggle with. Certain situations often prove to be more challenging and require a lot of courage and where possible support! These are some of the situations that my clients often struggle with ♥️

26/07/2023

Sometimes we say things we don’t mean an argument. Let’s be honest. There are times where we can recognise that things aren’t going well in conflict. As tempting as it is to keep going sometimes - we do know when to step away and to redirect the way the argument is going.

Here are some pointers to get you back on the right track! Let’s learn how to fight well 💜

20/07/2023

This is such an important topic. Im not talking about weight in this graph but rather ‘progress’. All too often my clients say “Vic I think I’m going backwards” or “it all feels so hard again” and I have to remind them that recovery is bloody hard. Perhaps after a few meals out they found that one last Saturday overwhelming, and felt like they had lost all their progress. Perhaps last night after doing evening snack consistently for the past few weeks they just couldn’t do it. The process of recovery is full of ups and downs, wins and misses and at the end of it a recovered life full of opportunity. But it’s not a straight road to get there. Recovery is not linear. I say this so often my clients often say it before I can now. But it’s true!

Just because you are struggling doesn’t mean you’ve gone backwards. Progress is recognising the struggle, being compassionate to it and making small choices towards your bigger goals. Sometimes that means just focusing on the basics, for example making sure you hit those regular eating targets.

Im not saying it’s easy because it’s done. But you deserve to feel better than you do right now. You deserve a life outside of this. Just keep going. One step at a time.

16/07/2023

Here’s a cheery one for your Sunday night!

I think this is quite an interesting piece of research (I have linked the article for any of my fellow psych enthusiasts).

Let me know your thoughts! 🧠

13/07/2023

It’s rough out here.
Exercise is good for us. It nourishes body and soul BUT diet culture has made it inextricably linked to thinness and shape. Such a shame! We have been taught that exercise should be a way to manipulate our shape and to ‘make up for’ eating outside of diet rules. Which is utter bu****it IMO.

Exercise should be used as a way to celebrate your body. A way to relieve stress not to add more stress on to you. Here are just a few signs that you might need to re explore your relationship with exercise.

Sometimes it can be helpful to dial back the exercise slightly and see how it feels. See if any discomfort shows up emotionally or any self punishing thoughts. Ask yourself if this is the relationship you want to have with movement or whether you want to establish a more compassionate sustainable relationship with it

Look after yourselves x

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