Consciouslyreconnect

11/12/2025

I didn’t realise how deeply gaslighting had shaped me
until my coach asked a simple question:

“Why do you keep gaslighting yourself?”

I went quiet.

Because I wasn’t doing it consciously.
It was etched into my psyche.
So normal it felt invisible.

Gaslighting isn’t just something done to you.
Over time, it becomes something you do to yourself
without even realising.

It looks like this:

• You question your own memory even when you know what happened
• You minimise your feelings, “It’s not that bad”
• You override your intuition with logic, explanation, or doubt
• You look outside yourself for reassurance before trusting your own knowing
• You freeze when asked to make a decision, afraid of choosing “wrong”
• You try to keep everyone happy, even at the cost of yourself
• You replay conversations, searching for where you might be at fault
• You feel foggy, indecisive, or disconnected from your sense of truth

When I got curious, I saw how much this had shaped my life.

My daughters would get frustrated with me, not because I didn’t care,
but because I struggled to decide.

Making decisions felt risky.
Pleasing everyone felt safer.

Not because I was weak
but because my body had learned that disagreement, certainty,
or clarity
once came with consequences.

That’s the part people don’t talk about.

Gaslighting doesn’t just distort your thinking.
It retrains your nervous system to doubt itself.

So you hesitate.
You over-explain.
You second-guess.
You scan for reactions before you land in your own truth.

And eventually, you don’t even notice you’re doing it.

Until something, or someone
asks the question.

And awareness begins.

Maybe if you recognise this in yourself,
there is a way to break the cycle.
There is a way to turn it around.

In Kanika, we don’t try to think our way out of self-doubt.
We work at the level where these patterns formed.

In the bones.
In the breath.
In the body.

The bones are where beliefs are held.
The breath is what allows them to release.

And only then
when the body feels safe enough
do new reframes begin to land and align with a different truth.

Not one you force.
One your system can actually trust.

I’m opening 4 one-to-one Kanika spaces
for a 4-month journey,
starting 19th January.

This work is slow, precise, and deeply embodied.

If this speaks to you,
you’re welcome to reach out.

Sometimes the most powerful shift
begins with noticing what you’ve been doing
without even knowing it.

04/09/2025

I’m lit 🔥, beyond excited
and turned all the way on
To be co hosting this
incredible one day event

🔥 Power isn’t found, it’s freed.
From the marrow of your bones to the breath in your lungs, your inner fire is waiting to be unleashed.

✨ Ignite Your Inner Power is a one-day workshop designed to:

Awaken your body’s creative fire through Sacral Pump Activation

Release survival-mode patterns with Somatic Bodywork Practices

Reclaim sovereignty in your nervous system and your life

Your sacrum , the “sacred bone”
is not just structure,
it’s the gateway to your life force. When you learn to unlock its pulse, you unlock the untamed vitality that’s been waiting inside you.

🔥 Are you ready to feel powerful in your body again?

Limited Spaces
Dm to find out more
Or to sign up

31/08/2025

If This Sounds Familiar…

✔️ Anxiety that keeps escalating
✔️ Using wine, food, or distractions just to get by
✔️ Feeling disconnected from yourself
✔️ Shyness, self-doubt, or no motivation

She came to Kanika for peace…
…what she found was a whole new version of herself.

💎 Alcohol-free.
💎 Anxiety eased.
💎 Motivated to exercise.
💎 Confident, bubbly, and grounded.

Kanika isn’t like anything else out there, but once it works, you can’t deny the shift.

If this speaks to you… I’d love to invite you into my 4-month Kanika Journey ✨

🌿 8 x 1:1 sessions (1 hour, fortnightly)
🌿 Everyday support on WhatsApp
🌿 Personalised journal prompts, self-help tools, invocations & rituals

This is a container where you’ll feel supported, guided, and held as you release old patterns and uncover the most alive, grounded version of yourself.

Dm me now limited spaces available

14/08/2025

Have you ever noticed how sometimes the people around
us choose what feels easy over what’s real?

How they’re drawn to the temporary high, the instant approval,
instead of the deeper work
that requires reflection
and accountability?

When we do the work to rise
when we step fully into our truth, our clarity, and our energy
others who aren’t ready,
or aren’t willing,
will often choose the easy path.

It’s never about you
it’s about them.
They aren’t ready to reflect,
to grow, or to take responsibility,
so they seek what makes them feel good for a moment.

Many of us carry the weight of relationships that ask us to dim
our light, to play small
so others don’t have
to face themselves.

Over time, those old patterns lodge in our body
our bones,
our posture,
even the way we breathe
holding stories of fear, disappointment, and self-doubt.

This is where Kanika
works differently.
By holding and supporting the bones where these stories
have lived, we create a space
that feels safe to release them.

We breathe through what has been stuck, honoring every part of the journey, and seed new pathways new ways of thinking, being,
and feeling
that empower rather than
diminish us.

Working this way isn’t just about healing the past
it’s about reclaiming your energy, your clarity, and your freedom
to be fully yourself.
It’s about stepping into life without needing anyone else to validate
your worth, because you
already know it.

If this feels like where you are,
I have spaces available
to journey together.
To hold the bones,
breathe through the old stories,
and cultivate the new pathways your mind and body
are ready to embody.

10/07/2025

Feeling incredibly grateful to be invited as a vendor to support clients through Rahanni and Kanika energy work. Honoured to hold space for healing and transformation in this way. 🌟

08/07/2025

I’ve been in tears of JOY
after receiving this.
To feel, see, and witness the power and shifts in my own life, and then watch them ripple out into th
lives of my clients
is one of the most incredible feelings in the world.

This brave soul came to Kanika Therapy in search of peace.
Together, we found so much more: freedom from old patterns,
a new relationship with the body, and a deep sense of trust in self.

These words remind me why I do what I do. This is why I believe in
this work with every bone in
my body because it brings us
back home to ourselves.

Help me celebrate this beautiful transformation for my client,
for all of us, for what’s possible
when we say yes to our own healing.

Testimonial for Kanika Therapy

When I started working with Karen & Kanika, due to some stressful situations I was experiencing daily anxiety and bouts of depression—something I’d never dealt with before. It was escalating quickly, and I found myself using alcohol just to get through. I knew something had to change. I came into Kanika therapy hoping to find some sense of daily peace.

What I found has been far more powerful than I expected.

I've now been alcohol-free for four months, without struggle. My anxiety has eased significantly—of course, life still throws curveballs, but now I have tools. The breathing techniques, body awareness, and belief work Kanika taught me have been game-changing. I feel calm and capable of coping.

The Kanika method is unlike any other therapy I’ve tried. At first, it felt unfamiliar—working with breath, bones, and beliefs—but once I leaned in and trusted the process, it became incredibly exciting to start letting go of old beliefs and patterns that were holding me back.

Karen has an amazing talent—her intuitiveness, calm, and caring manner made every session feel safe and grounded. I always felt relaxed and 100% trusted that she had my best interests at heart.

One of the most transformative moments was recognising how I react to things, and why. That awareness has helped me pause, check in with myself, and respond differently. Understanding that so much of my fear and worry came from outdated beliefs—and that I don’t have to carry them anymore—has been a huge shift.

Another powerful realisation was understanding how our body is always speaking to us—if we slow down and listen. It's not easy at first but with Kanika you can learn to listen. This work taught me to drop in, feel the feels and learn what my body is saying. It's all about letting go.

Since beginning this journey, I’m calmer, happier, more confident, and surprisingly bubbly and chatty—something I never thought I’d say about myself. My shyness has taken a back seat, and I feel more connected to myself than ever before. Plus I've gone from zero exercise to a committed weekly exercise plan 3-4 times weekly. My motivation is back and increasing.

If you’ve tried other therapies and still feel stuck, or if you're searching for something more embodied and transformational, I’d say this: the Kanika method is hard to explain, but impossible to deny once it starts working. It brings you back to yourself in a way that feels deep, grounded, and real. I’m no longer just reacting to life—I’m living it.

06/07/2025

04/07/2025

✨ Brilliant Self-Awareness Isn’t
Enough Here’s Why ✨

I’ve had a huge realisation
I feel called to share today
maybe it will unlock something
for you too.

I’ve always known I have brilliant self-awareness, sharp, deep, piercing right to the root of my patterns.
I can see why I do what I do.
I can name the wound.
I can track the loop.

But here’s the raw truth I woke up to:

👉🏼 Awareness alone doesn’t break
the loop.
Without a new action, a new way of being, a new way of breathing
it into my bones
awareness just circles back on itself.
It can even become another trap.

The old beliefs
It must be me.
I’m the problem.
I deserve crumbs.
I have to fix it all.
They don’t live in my mind alone.
They live in the bones.
They live in the frozen places my body has held tight for years,
sometimes decades.

This is where Kanika comes in.
Kanika is not just beautiful energy work, it’s a bone-deep remembrance.

When the bones are held, witnessed, softened, the old stories start to loosen their grip.
When the breath moves through places that once held only fear, punishment, or shame
a new truth can settle in:
I am safe. I am enough.
I am free to choose differently.

Awareness + new action + breath + bone = freedom.
This is the living medicine
I’m devoted to now.
This is why I keep showing up
in ritual, in prayer, in my own healing, in guiding others.

If you’re tired of circling the same loop I see you.
If you know so much but still feel stuck I get it.
If you’re ready to anchor your brilliant awareness into your bones, into your breath, into your life
Kanika is here for you too.

Your bones remember who you are. Let them breathe.

✨ If this is calling you, DM me to go on my ‘From Knowing to Living’
4-Month Kanika Journey waitlist.
We begin mid August when I’m back from Glastonbury. ✨

06/06/2025

This is what happens when you heal…

Your energy shifts.
Your boundaries recalibrate.
Your nervous system stops tolerating what it once made excuses for.

You begin to feel it
not just in your mind,
but in your body.
A deep, clear “No thank you.”
A quiet but firm “That doesn’t feel good anymore.”

What used to feel familiar now feels misaligned.
What used to pass as “connection” now feels like confusion.
And suddenly, you’re no longer available for it.

Not because you’re hard or closed.
But because you’re finally rooted.
You’re finally listening to your body before your conditioning.

This is the power of healing.

You stop abandoning yourself just to keep the peace.
You stop over-explaining your needs.
You stop saying yes when your whole body is screaming no.

Instead, you pause.
You breathe.
You honour the space between stimulus and response.
And in that space… you choose differently.

You choose you.
Not out of ego
but out of integrity.

Because when your boundaries evolve,
so does your reality.
And what no longer fits naturally begins to fall away.

That’s not failure.
That’s alignment.

If this resonates in your bones
If you’re feeling your boundaries shifting, you’re nervous system
desiring to rewire and your ready
to stand rooted in your own energy

This is the exact work we do
inside my 4 month Kanika journeys

Dm if you’re ready to explore what
alignment actually feels like

29/04/2025

Reclaiming Safety Through the Body

The body remembers.
But it can also relearn
that it’s safe to stay,
to breathe, to be here."

In my Kanika work,
one of the core foundations I support clients with is learning to feel safe inside their own bodies again.

For many who have experienced trauma — especially relational trauma such as narcissistic abuse — the body can feel like an unsafe place.
In moments of stress or threat, the natural response can be to dissociate: to leave the body in order to survive overwhelming emotions.

But true healing happens when we can stay present through the intensity, and find ways to anchor ourselves back into the body with safety, compassion, and trust.

When I work with clients in this area, we build what I call a "Safety Toolkit" personalized, body-centered practices that bring them back to themselves during moments
of activation.

This might include:

Grounding touch (like placing a hand on the heart) combined with affirmations of self-safety.

Regulating the breath to soothe the nervous system.

Shaking out stuck energy to prevent it from overwhelming the body.

Using sensory anchors — familiar scents, soothing textures — that immediately connect them to feelings of nurture and calm.

Each tool is not just a technique
it is a new experience of safety.
A message to the nervous system:
"You are no longer alone. You are no longer in danger. You are safe here, now, in yourself."

This work is vital because trauma is not just stored in the mind — it lives in the body.
And so healing must also happen through the body: gently,
lovingly, patiently.

In Kanika, we do not force or override the body’s responses.
We meet them with reverence.
We listen.
We bring the body new evidence that it is safe to stay.

From here,
true transformation begins.
From survival to sovereignty.
From fragmentation to wholeness.
From fear to deep, embodied freedom.

This is the heart of the journey.
And it is one of the most courageous journeys a human being can make.

I felt two courageous souls
just waiting to receive this message today and find the support required
Dm for a chat if you’re one of them

21/04/2025

So often we wait
consciously or unconsciously
for someone else to notice
we’re not okay.
To reach out, to fix it, to know.
But the truth is: no one else can truly know what we need unless we do.

The journey of healing, growth, and embodiment begins when we learn to pause, check in, and ask ourselves:
"What do I need right now?"

Not what someone else thinks
we should need.
Not what we’ve been conditioned to believe we deserve.
But what our body, heart, and soul
are whispering (or sometimes screaming) for.

💡 Here’s the thing:

You are the expert of your inner world.
You are the only one who can give voice to your needs.
And once you’re clear, you can start to lovingly and clearly communicate them to others.

Let’s look at a few areas where needs might be asking to be seen and met:

🌿 Physical Needs
These are the basics our body depends on to function and feel safe.

Examples:
• I need more rest—I’ve been running on empty.
• I need nourishing food that supports my energy.
• I need touch—like a hug or gentle massage.
• I need to move my body and release tension.

💓 Emotional Needs
These help us feel seen, held, and connected—to ourselves and others.

Examples:
• I need to be listened to without being fixed.
• I need space to cry and feel without judgment.
• I need reassurance that I’m still loved, even when I’m not “on.”
• I need to laugh and feel lightness again.

🧠 Mental Needs
Our minds also have needs—for clarity, stimulation, peace, and rest.

Examples:
• I need time away from screens and mental clutter.
• I need to focus on one thing at a time.
• I need inspiration—something that lights up my thinking.
• I need space to process my thoughts without pressure.
• I need healthy boundaries with information or conversations that drain me.

✨ Spiritual Needs
These are the longings of the soul—for meaning, connection, stillness, and truth.

Examples:
• I need silence and space to reconnect with myself.
• I need time in nature to remember I belong.
• I need ritual—something sacred that grounds me.
• I need to be reminded of beauty and grace in this moment.

You don’t have to meet every need on your own but you do have to
name them.
This is where your power and
choice begin.

Start right now by asking yourself

What need in you is currently going unmet?
What would shift if you gave yourself permission to name it—and honor it?

You might like to journal on:
• What do I need right now—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually?
• What gets in the way of me meeting my own needs?
• What’s one small action I could take today to tend to one of those needs?

✨ If this brings up something tender or you're not sure where to begin, you’re not alone.
Sometimes, our needs have been quiet for a long time, waiting for us to listen. Start small.
Start where you are.
I'm here if you want to explore this more deeply