08/10/2025
The worst thing about depression?
Not having anything specific to be depressed about — it's the pits.
I’ve seen clients, time and time again, who haven’t experienced a ‘big life trauma’ or who don’t have anything in particular to feel ‘down’ about — who therefore feel guilty about admitting that they are suffering from depression. They know rationally, that by all accounts, their life is great (they have a loving partner, healthy kids, a nice house, a stable income, and they live in lovely little New Zealand). However, regardless of all of this, they still feel inherently gloomy.
Note: This is why I used to hide it, because I couldn’t find a logical reason for constantly feeling bad. And, if you were to tell someone who wasn’t familiar with depression then you would come-off looking ungrateful, illogical, petty or just plain crazy. And, you just don’t need the judgement when you’re already condemning yourself for feeling this way.
Yes, depression can be situational (you’re just going through a ‘bad patch’, you’re lonely, or you’ve recently been made redundant), or it can be kicked-off by something (abuse or bullying). But a lot of the time, it ‘just is’. It’s just a matter of how your brain has become structured — and therefore how it is currently functioning. For a variety of reasons, when you suffer from depression, your brain isn’t as resilient as it should be to certain stressors (I talk about this more fully in part-two).
I recommend that instead of feeling guilty about being depressed, try to simply accept the inherent sadness. Otherwise your brain desperately tries to make sense of it by naturally linking it to all the ‘sad sh!t’ out-there. You know — things like world hunger, mean people, global warming… and baby seals being clubbed on the head for their fur-skin pelts. Trust me, all of this just makes things so MUCH worse for you 😏
Note: Aspirational Social Media is NOT helpful in this respect either. It is a bunch of contrived clap-trap designed to make you feel bad about feeling unmotivated & unappreciative. My advice? Just use your phone for making and receiving calls on.
So, the reason you’ve been looking for — as to why you feel depressed — is that your brain isn’t very healthy at the moment. And, the more your brain is unhealthy, the more you will starting running it unhealthily. Which is why you need the counselling or the psychotherapy to help you understand, validate and monitor your way of thinking — so that you don’t exacerbate your fragile condition.
If anything, I hope this realisation brings you some relief — and that you no longer seek to justify your depression, or to continuously analyse it, or that you stop trying to hide it from your ‘people’, or worse still — that you hide it from yourself. And, rather than ruminating on the world’s problems, feeling guilty or trying to figure out what’s wrong with you, instead spend this time supporting your brain health with the necessary nutrients it requires to rewire itself so that it may happily run itself correctly.
https://lisasaidso.co.nz/know-if-you-suffer-from-depression-treat-cure-with-natural-medicine-anxiety/
