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At Jen Rieder - Positive Change Integration (PCI) Therapy & Mentoring, we specialise in guiding you through a transformative healing journey. Our personalised approach to trauma healing, mindset rewiring, and confidence mentoring helps you unlock your potential, build confidence, and achieve lasting life transformation. Whether you're seeking emotional healing, self-empowerment, or personal growth, we’re here to support your journey to a more empowered and confident self. Contact us today and start your journey toward lasting change!

11/02/2026

From a psychological perspective, “shrinking” in relationships is rarely about being calm or easy-going…

It’s often a protective strategy.

Many people learn (consciously or unconsciously):
• If I don’t ask for much, I won’t be rejected
• If I stay agreeable, I’ll stay connected
• If I minimise my needs, I’ll feel safer

But over time, this creates a subtle dynamic:

You may stay in the relationship…
while slowly disconnecting from yourself.

Because healthy connection isn’t built on self-editing.

Secure relationships require mutuality:

Not just “Do they want me?”
But also…

Do I feel seen here?
Do my needs have space?
Am I allowed to be fully human in this dynamic?
Do they align with the values I hold?

Shrinking might keep the peace short-term,
but it often breeds resentment, anxiety, or emotional loneliness long-term.

The goal isn’t to become “low maintenance.”

The goal is to become self-honouring.

Because the right relationships don’t require you to disappear to be loved.

🤍✨
DM me “WORTH” if you’re ready to stop shrinking and start showing up fully.

27/01/2026

Real confidence isn’t believing you’re better than others.

It’s releasing the need to convince, explain, or perform for acceptance.

When self-worth is solid, you stop outsourcing your value.

You simply show up, or step away, without self-betrayal.

If confidence has felt conditional for you, it’s often not a motivation issue, it’s a belief and identity pattern that can be gently rewired.

If this resonated, pause and ask yourself:
What belief am I living from right now and is it serving me?

DM “confidence” if you’re ready to explore the beliefs shaping your self-worth.

Jen ✨

26/01/2026

Swipe through and hear it from the real heroes—my incredible clients ❤️ (all messages shared with permission)

These stories aren’t just testimonials. They’re powerful reminders of what’s possible when you decide to heal, grow, and finally back yourself.

These clients showed up, got vulnerable and trusted the full process.

Whether you’re stuck in self-doubt, healing from past wounds, or ready to reclaim your confidence… just know this:

You don’t have to do it alone. And your transformation? It can start today.

Slide into my DMs with “READY”
or
💻 Head to www.jenrieder.com to book your free Strategy Call.

I’m here to help you rediscover you!

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24/01/2026

5️⃣ Advocating for myself more intentionally

This photo was taken just last week. I look healthy, right?

And in many ways, I am. I’m active, I train consistently, I eat well, I have strong mental skills, and from the outside, nothing looks “wrong.”

But over the last 12 months, that hasn’t been the full picture.

Throughout 2025, I experienced reoccurring unexplained episodes that felt like a flu, body aches, sudden fatigue, and sometimes fever and vomiting.

They were unpredictable. Sometimes it lasts a full day, sometimes only a few hours. Sometimes weeks apart, sometimes weekly.

At first, I dismissed it. Because it would pass. I told myself my body was just fighting something and doing a good job. But after five months of this pattern, I sought professional support.

It impacted my work, my training and my overall capacity in life. There were days where I had to cancel everything because I was bed ridden. Out of over 300 workouts in 2025, honestly only about 20 felt like how I would normally feel when I train. I had to pull back, reduce load and intensity and kindly met myself where I was each day.

Sharing this isn’t a request for sympathy (I know what I’ve experienced is minor compared to what many people live with every day). It’s a reveal.

Through appointments, tests, scans and conversations upon reflection I realised I wasn’t very good at advocating for myself.

I downplayed my experience. I softened symptoms. I minimised impact. And I often left appointments feeling dismissed or unheard, without clarity or resolution.

What surprised me most through self enquiry was realising this isn’t something I only do with my health.

This experience highlighted I do this in other areas of my life too. I tolerate. I adapt. I push through. I stay quiet longer than I should. I manage instead of naming what I need.

So this year, I’m practicing advocating for myself more fully.

With my health.
In my work.
In my boundaries.
In my needs.

That means following up, asking clearer questions, naming impact, & making changes before I’m depleted.

So I’m on a mission in 2026 with my five focuses to continually expand & live a beautiful, full life 🤍✨

23/01/2026

Number 4️⃣
Redefining how I stay connected to my closest connections 🫶🏻
#2026

20/01/2026

3️⃣ Creating stronger boundaries with my attention. Why?

Because my attention shapes my nervous system and my life.

I’m unfollowing a lot of accounts across social media to reduce constant attention-grabbing input. Please know this isn’t personal. It doesn’t mean I don’t like you, value you, or your content, or that we aren’t friends. It simply means I’m choosing to reclaim my attention more intentionally.

Alongside that, I’m getting an alarm clock and charging my phone in a different room overnight. No more falling asleep or waking up to stimulation, comparison, or demand. (Notifications, emails, messages)

From a nervous system perspective, constant digital input keeps us in a state of low-grade alertness. Attention fragmentation increases cognitive load, disrupts emotional regulation, and makes it harder to be present with ourselves and with others.

By creating clearer boundaries around my attention, I’m intentionally redirecting that energy back into my work, my clients, and the life I’m consciously shaping. Less scattered input. More depth, presence, and service.

In my day-to-day life, this feels like less mental noise and more space to think, create, and be present. I’m predicting my nervous system to feel quieter, my decisions feel cleaner. Resulting in not rushing or reacting, choosing. 😌

Number 4 tomorrow. 🫶🏻

18/01/2026

Number 2️⃣
Resuming Therapy 😌🤍✨
If this resonates, stay with me — number 3 tomorrow.

17/01/2026

1️⃣ Choosing 5 self-development books and only reading those on repeat. Here’s why?

Growth isn’t about how much you know, it’s about what you practice.
I want to slow down enough to actually practice what I’m learning, not just highlight it, screenshot it, or nod along.

Re-reading gives me the chance to integrate, apply, and actually become the work. Allowing fewer inputs and more embodiment.

I’ve noticed in 2025 how quickly I reach for the next book instead of staying with what’s already asking to be practiced confusing consuming with growing.

This year I’m choosing fewer ideas, deeper focus, and letting the work actually shape how I live.

We’re living in a fast-paced world with unlimited access to information but the brain doesn’t change through exposure alone. Neuroplasticity happens through repetition, reflection, and application over time.

When we constantly move on to the next idea, we interrupt the learning cycle before it has a chance to wire into behaviour. Information becomes noise instead of transformation.

Pause with this. Notice where you might be consuming instead of integrating.

I’ll share Number 2️⃣ tomorrow ✨🫶🏻

14/01/2026

Stop romanticising or being envious of other people’s circumstances or potential in 2026 ✨

Redirect that energy to what you need to do to get where you want to go ❤️‍🔥

Tough love, Jen x

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