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Join the Team to Support White Ribbon Day tomorrow!"White Ribbon Day, observed on November 25, is dedicated to raising a...
20/11/2025

Join the Team to Support White Ribbon Day tomorrow!

"White Ribbon Day, observed on November 25, is dedicated to raising awareness about and taking action to prevent violence against women and girls. It is also known as the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. The day encourages communities to reflect on the challenges of overcoming men's violence against women and promotes the message that violence is a problem that everyone must address."

Addiction and the Brain: We Are the Champions! By Dr. Vera Tarman, Renascent Medical DirectorNovember 2, 2013."This is a...
18/11/2025

Addiction and the Brain: We Are the Champions! By Dr. Vera Tarman, Renascent Medical Director
November 2, 2013.

"This is a physical condition, much like diabetes. A diabetic is unable to self-regulate their blood sugar, either because their insulin is insufficient or, more commonly, because their receptor sites are blunted."
Seventy years ago, Dr. Silkworth told Bill W., the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, that alcoholism was a disease – that alcoholism was not a result of poor judgment or a lack of will power or a sign of moral depravity.
Dr. Silkworth explained that Bill simply had an allergy to alcohol. If he, and others who drank like him, had one drink, the phenomenon of brain craving would flare up so that they would not be able to stop drinking.
Bill used this information to build his program of recovery. Once he knew that there was a physical cause to his unmanageable drinking, he knew there was a physical solution.
First things first: stop the drinking. Only then could normal life even hope to resume.

Today we rarely refer to this physical condition as an allergy, though the term is still appropriate.
Alcoholics and addicts have a severe life-threatening hypersensitivity (allergy) to dopamine; they are unable to control and contain the dopamine that floods the reward center of their brain whenever something pleasurable occurs.

This is a physical condition, much like diabetes. A diabetic is unable to self-regulate their blood sugar, either because their insulin is insufficient or, more commonly, because their receptor sites are blunted. This results in faulty regulatory “on/off switch”; to the amount of sugar that can course through the blood vessels. If the blood sugar is too high or too low, the diabetic will become sick; extreme sugar fluctuations are a matter of life and death. Diabetes is a physical condition with a physical solution. First things first: Don’t eat sugar (remember, the body will make its own)!

Addiction can be viewed as the same type of disease process. The addict is unable to regulate the dopamine that floods the reward center. Once activated, the amount of dopamine is not containable and can surge beyond the normal ranges that the brain is equipped to regulate behavior.

This leaves the addicted brain overwhelmed. The addict will be bombarded with cravings and agitations beyond what the brain can reasonably manage. If the dopamine surges are too high or dip too low, like the diabetic, the addict battles a life and death situation: Too much dopamine and addiction with all its risky behaviors occurs; too little dopamine and depression, lethargy and suicidal thoughts result.
One week ago, a client asked me if there was an evolutionary advantage to this phenomenon. Why would our body behave this way in at least one tenth of our population? Was this simply a mutation? A common error that has repeatedly popped up across the centuries, generations, countries and cultures! Usually, people with dangerous mutations eventually die off. Why does addiction continue to surface everywhere? Is there some evolutionary advantage to this allergy built into some of our DNA?
We have discovered that a person with diabetes does have a biological advantage under certain conditions. Under extremely cold temperatures, excess sugar in the blood acts as an anti-freeze, meaning that a person with high blood sugar is less likely to suffer from frostbite or deadly hypothermia. It has been postulated that the human race was almost extinguished at one point when temperatures were near Ice Age lows. The diabetic subgroup of our population fared the extreme cold the best. Certainly they would not live into old age; we know that the long-term consequences of diabetes, such as blindness, kidney failure and heart disease, awaited them. But these are the diseases of old age. The diabetics survived into early adulthood – long enough to procreate and save the human race from extinction.

Can we look at addiction in the same manner? Addicts have a hyper-response to dopamine, so they are attracted to the extraordinary events of life that produce these surges of dopamine. They love the “taste” of this neurochemical that comes with the thrill of the chase, the rush, the excitement, and the larger-than life-expectations.

Because of this heightened sense of pleasure, these hyper-responders to dopamine are willing to challenge their comfort and safety, the routines of daily life. In the broad panorama of human history, these individuals were our ancestral explorers, our warriors, inventors, artists, and our spiritual seekers.

The rest of the population scratches its collective head, unable to understand the reckless behavior that comes from stepping outside the societal norms. They do not have that same hypersensitivity to dopamine to entice them onwards. The addicted 10% of our population that is willing to challenge conventions and to seek out the new and larger-than-life experiences were the adventurers and inventors of yesterday. We needed these daredevils. Without them, our civilization may not have advanced to where it is now.

The tragedy is not the addict’s faulty “on/off switch” of desire. One misfortune is the easy availability of drugs and alcohol that have allowed the explorer spirit in the addict/alcoholic brain to become hijacked by the “easier, softer way "that drink and drugs provide.
The would-be champions of society have had their drive toward seeking splendour thwarted into self-destructive actions instead. Drugs and alcohol have derailed this natural tendency to shine, thrive, burst out and stand out.

To anyone battling with the shame of his or her addiction, please hear this. Addiction to drugs and alcohol has robbed you of your evolutionary birth right to be extraordinary in some way. Underneath every addict or alcoholic, there is a great person wanting to explode out of his or her skin and make a mark on the world.
"Re-posted from Addiction Actually "

Check in with your friends a little aroha goes a long way. ❤️❤️❤️
18/11/2025

Check in with your friends a little aroha goes a long way. ❤️❤️❤️

Happy Tuesday.
18/11/2025

Happy Tuesday.

We would like to thank Trust Waikato for their support and grant. These funds go towards helping us support whānau who h...
17/11/2025

We would like to thank Trust Waikato for their support and grant. These funds go towards helping us support whānau who have a loved one struggling with substance harm.
Ngā mihi from all of us at Brave Hearts.

  End Domestic Violence.
16/11/2025

End Domestic Violence.

Many survivors grow up in homes where silence is mistaken for strength — where appearances matter more than honesty, and truth is buried to protect an image.
But when truth is hidden, the pain doesn’t disappear — it festers.
That kind of silence teaches children to doubt themselves, to question their memories, and to carry guilt that never belonged to them.
Breaking family silence isn’t betrayal — it’s healing.
💜 Truth doesn’t destroy families. Silence does.

16/11/2025

Letting Go Is A Process

Loving someone who struggles with addiction can be a heartbreaking experience. You grieve the loss of the person they were before drugs and/or alcohol altered them, and you don't like the stranger they've become.

As a family member, you find yourself in a tight spot, doing your best to help. You make suggestions, call rehab centers, pay their bills, and provide support. You work harder on their problems than they do. But instead of being thanked, you're told your efforts aren't good enough, and when you confront them on it, you're the one who feels crazy.

You fall into a tug-of-war relationship with your sick loved one; you pull to bring them closer, and they push to get away. It seems the only time they want to talk to you is when they need money.

The relationship erodes into one where you give, they take, but you don't like it and feel resentful. Your loved one's addiction isn't only hurting them, it's hurting you.

Without outside support, the family's feelings of anxiety, fear, and guilt can override common sense and logic. Saying no and setting boundaries is difficult. Uncomfortable emotions, like guilt, can lead families back to giving 'just one more time.'

Enabling becomes an act of desperation driven by a combination of love, fear, and a desire to help. In any other situation, this behavior would be called supportive and loving. But in families with addiction, helping has the opposite effect and ultimately aids in your loved one's demise. Enabling is detrimental, as doing for them what they can and should be doing for themselves undermines their motivation to seek help.

Letting go is an act of love, not abandonment. But it's not easy. You may feel it’s disloyal and uncaring, but remind yourself that letting go allows the consequences to belong to the person who created them. When the consequences outweigh the rewards of using, recovery is sought.

Looking back, you see that the harder you try to control their addiction, the more their addiction controls you.

You learn that letting go is a process.
First, you will hold on
Then you will hold on tighter
You may feel exhausted, depressed, and angry
You might rant and nag and scream
And finally, you will cry
Embrace your tears
Embrace your grief
And allow the process of letting go
To create balance in your life.

By engaging in your own recovery process and learning how to set healthy boundaries, you enrich your family dynamics, motivate change, love your life again, and significantly increase the chance of a successful outcome for you and your addicted loved one.

Lorelie Rozzano
www.jaggedlittleedges.com

Sunday thoughts ❣️
15/11/2025

Sunday thoughts ❣️

Our Bravehearts team had the privilege of attending this years Cutting Edge conference in Rotorua where over 900 addicti...
13/11/2025

Our Bravehearts team had the privilege of attending this years Cutting Edge conference in Rotorua where over 900 addiction and mental health workers listened, learned and cried.
The kōrero was powerful and moving.

There are so many incredible humans doing beautiful work all around Aotearoa, most on a shoestring budget. We need support but most of all we need funding. The need is great sadly.
Here's to 2027, see you again in Ōtautahi.

Rotorua Group Meeting Tonight at 7pm, join for whanau support and connection at Rotorua library.
13/11/2025

Rotorua Group Meeting Tonight at 7pm, join for whanau support and connection at Rotorua library.

Ōtautahi Christchurch: Group whānau support meeting tonight at 7pm, join for connection and support, our experienced fac...
12/11/2025

Ōtautahi Christchurch: Group whānau support meeting tonight at 7pm, join for connection and support, our experienced facilitators will welcome you to this space.
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Brave Hearts is a Support Group for those who have loved ones in addiction. Our objective is to educate & inform family and friends and to provide ongoing support or referral to professional help. Please be aware if you attend a support group meeting that what is said in these meetings is confidential to those in attendance. Please also note that views expressed in Posts and all subsequent Comments are not necessarily the views of Brave Hearts NZ. Please also be aware that this is a Public Page. We believe addiction is not something that should be hidden and we want the stigma around it removed from public perception. Participation in this Page can result in your comments being available and open to the public.