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The Safe Kids Project, Napier (2026)

08/04/2026

We want to believe our children will never face harm.

That if we keep things “innocent” and avoid the hard conversations, they’ll stay safe.

But pretending danger doesn’t exist doesn’t make it disappear. I once spoke to a young woman who had lived through years of abuse.

She didn’t tell anyone, because she didn’t know there was anything to tell. No one had ever taught her what was okay and what wasn’t.

No one had given her the words.
So she stayed silent, thinking this was just how things were.

It wasn’t until she heard friends talking about boundaries and consent that she realised, this should never have been happening.

That’s the gap education fills.
Teaching children about their bodies, their boundaries, and their right to say no, doesn’t take away their innocence, it protects it.

We don’t need to do it perfectly.
We just need to start.

Because knowledge gives children power.
And silence takes it away.

If you’re the mother who knows this matters but feels unsure where to begin, this is for you.

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06/04/2026

Ten years from now, your child is at their first party.

The music is loud, laughter spills through the house, shoes are scattered by the door. They’re excited in a way you’ve been waiting for, this is independence. This is them growing up.

And then it happens.
A moment that doesn’t look dangerous from the outside, but feels a little off on the inside.

Someone pushes a drink into their hand.
A group laughs and says “don’t be boring.”
Someone doesn’t take no for an answer.

And in that split second, everything you’ve taught them either shows up, or doesn’t.

Will they recognise that uneasy feeling in their stomach?
Will they trust it?
Will they have the confidence to say no, to leave, to choose themselves?
“I’m going home.”
“No.”
“This doesn’t feel right.”

As parents, we don’t just hope they’ll make safe choices one day, we build the skills for them now.

In the everyday moments:
When we say their body belongs to them.
When we let them say no without pressure.
When we believe them the first time something feels wrong.
When we teach them their instincts matter.

Because body safety isn’t a one-time talk.
It’s a daily foundation.

This is why I created Break the Silence: a 14-day guided programme for parents to make body safety part of early development.

So your child grows up knowing:
their “no” is enough
their gut feeling can be trusted
they can leave any situation
and they can always come to you

All for $14. That’s $1 a day for 14 days of guided support from a psychologist, so you’re not doing this alone.

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05/04/2026

These aren’t just numbers.
They’re children.
They’re families.
Their lives changed forever.

In New Zealand, 33% of females and 14% of males experience sexual abuse.

This isn’t something that happens “somewhere else.”
It’s not limited to certain families, communities, or backgrounds.

It happens in homes that look “normal.”
In families that are loved.
In spaces that feel safe.

Which means this conversation belongs to all of us.
Silence doesn’t protect children.
Avoidance doesn’t protect children.
Hope alone doesn’t protect children.
Education does.
Preparation does.
You do.
Because the reality is, if we don’t have these conversations first, the world will introduce them in ways we never wanted.

This is your chance to be the safe place they come to.
The voice they hear.
The reason they speak up.

If something in you is saying “I need to do more, but I don’t know how”, don’t ignore that.

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03/04/2026

Silence feels safe, until it isn’t.

I once spoke to a young woman who had experienced abuse for years. But she didn’t have the language for it.
She didn’t even know it was abuse.

It wasn’t until she overheard friends talking, openly, honestly, about what intimacy, respect, and consent should look like, that something clicked.

What she had been experiencing?
Wasn’t normal.
Wasn’t okay.

And was never her fault.

But no one had ever told her.
That’s the cost of silence.

When we don’t talk to our children about their bodies, boundaries, and safety, we don’t protect their innocence we leave them without a map.

Education doesn’t have to be perfect.
It just has to begin.
Because one conversation, one simple, brave moment,
can be the difference between confusion and clarity,
between harm continuing and a child speaking up.

Silence does not keep children safe.
Education does.

If you’re the mother who wants to protect her child but doesn’t know where to start, this is for you.

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02/04/2026

I worked with a mum recently who said something that stuck with me. She told me, “I know I should be talking to my child about body safety, but every time I try, I freeze.”

Not because she didn’t care.
But because she cared so much about getting it right.

She was terrified of saying the wrong thing.
Terrified of making it awkward.
Terrified of putting ideas in her child’s head.

So she stayed quiet.
And like so many parents I support, she thought silence was safer. But what she noticed over time, was that her child was still learning.

Just not from her.
From gaps.
From guessing.
From other kids.
From the world.

And that’s when it clicked for her: Avoiding the conversation wasn’t protecting her child.

It was just delaying their understanding of safety.
We didn’t aim for perfect scripts or perfect timing.

We started small.
Messy.
Simple.
Real.

And that changed everything for her confidence.
Because here’s what I see over and over again:

You don’t build safety through silence.
You build it through small, imperfect conversations that grow over time.

I created Break the Silence for the mother who knows this matters, but feels stuck in fear, overthinking, and not knowing what to say.

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01/04/2026

A parent once told me about a moment that stopped them in their tracks. They had set a boundary: No forced hugs.

Their child could choose how they greeted family members. But a grandparent pushed back. “Oh don’t be ridiculous,” they said.
“We’re family, we would never hurt them.” And this is the myth that keeps children vulnerable.

Because the reality is, most children are harmed by someone they know and trust.

Not strangers.
Not “bad people” that stand out.
People within their world.

This isn’t about blame.
It’s about truth.

Because when we prioritise politeness over boundaries, we teach children to override their instincts.

The most dangerous beliefs are the ones that feel the safest.
“They’re too young.”
“It won’t happen to us.”
“We’ll talk about it later.”

But the data tells a different story.
Children are often harmed younger than we expect. Many never tell anyone at all.
So this work doesn’t start later.

It starts now.
In small conversations.
In everyday moments.
In giving your child a voice over their own body.

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This is for the parent who can feel the gap between knowing this matters, and actually knowing how to do it.

The parent who doesn’t want fear-based parenting, but also doesn’t want to stay silent anymore.

Inside, you’ll learn how to have these conversations in a way that feels calm, age-appropriate, and natural, so you can raise a child who understands their body, trusts their instincts, and knows how to speak up.
And you can finally break the silence.

31/03/2026

A father once sat in my office and said something I’ll never forget.

“I wish I had started the conversation…
I just didn’t know how.”
But now, he wasn’t asking when to start.
He was there because his child had already been harmed.

That’s the reality so many parents quietly carry.
Not a lack of love.
Not a lack of intention.

Just fear.
Fear of saying the wrong thing.
Fear of doing harm.
Fear of getting it wrong.

I hear it in mothers all the time…
the quiet thoughts they don’t always say out loud:
“What if I scare them?”
“What if I introduce something too early?”
“What if I mess this up?”

So instead… they wait.

Fear like this is normal.
It means you care deeply.

But staying silent doesn’t protect your child.
These conversations don’t need to be perfect.
They just need to begin.
In small moments.
In everyday language.
In ways that feel safe for both of you.

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This is for the mother who knows these conversations matter. Who can feel that protecting her child goes beyond hoping for the best.

She doesn’t need more fear.

She needs support, guidance, and the words to begin.
A way to move from overthinking and hesitation, into calm, clear, connected conversations with her child.
A way to finally break the silence.

31/03/2026

You know body safety matters, but have you actually started?

Most parents haven’t, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know what to say.

So the moments pass. And you’re left thinking: “I know this is important… I just haven’t started.”

This is your starting point.

A 14-day plan to help you stop staying silent and start teaching your child body safety in everyday moments.

✔ Know what to say (and how to say it)
✔ Have simple, natural conversations
✔ Build your child’s confidence in their body and voice

✨ 14 days of audio guidance (self-paced so you can listen in your own time)
✨ Live Q&A support
✨ Private community

First audio drops 13th April
All for $14 USD ($1 a day)

You don’t need more information.
You just need to start.

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30/03/2026

Sexual abuse prevention doesn’t come from one big talk.

At a recent presentation I held, a parent came up to me afterwards and asked, “When is the right time to have this conversation?”

I could feel the hesitation behind the question.
The worry about getting it wrong.
The pressure to say the right thing.

And I told her this…
You’re already having the conversation.
Just not in the way you think.

It’s in the moment you stop tickling when they say “stop.”
It’s when you ask before helping them get dressed.
It’s when you let them choose whether they hug someone goodbye.
It’s when you say, “My body needs some space right now.”

These small, everyday moments?
That’s where body safety is actually taught.
Not in one perfect sit-down talk.

Because what children need isn’t one big conversation, They need hundreds of small moments where they feel what consent, boundaries, and safety look like.

That’s what builds confidence.
That’s what builds safety.

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and I’ll send you the details for my new programme Break the Silence

Where you’ll go from:

Not knowing what to say → to feeling calm, clear, and confident
Avoiding the topic → to having natural, everyday conversations
Hoping they’ll be safe → to actively teaching them how to be

12/03/2026

A client asked me a question recently that really got me thinking:

“How does teaching children body autonomy work in cultures where respecting elders and community expectations are deeply important?”

It’s such a thoughtful question. Many cultures place a strong emphasis on respect, connection, and honouring elders. So naturally, parents wonder where a child’s body autonomy fits within that.

From both my professional experience and the research, I believe body autonomy matters in every cultural context.

When we override a child’s bodily autonomy, whether for family expectations, cultural practices, or social norms, we risk teaching them that they should ignore feelings of discomfort in their own body to keep others happy.

Our goal isn’t to reject cultural traditions or practices. The goal is to ensure children are invited, not obligated, when it comes to their bodies.

When children are given opportunities while they’re young to notice what feels right in their body and practise advocating for themselves, they build skills they will use for the rest of their lives.

Over time, they’re far more likely to participate in cultural or family traditions because they want to, because they feel safe and connected, not because they were pressured.

I also believe an individualistic approach to the body can coexist with collectivist values. Our children can learn to contribute to their community, respect elders, and honour culture while still knowing their body belongs to them.

Sadly, I have also seen situations where hierarchy or power in collective settings has been misused. Teaching body autonomy helps give children the lifelong skills to navigate those dynamics safely.

If you want to raise children who are confident in their boundaries and respectful of others, follow along. I share practical ways to teach body safety and autonomy in everyday family life.

11/03/2026

Over the weekend, while brushing my daughter’s hair after our family camping trip, I asked her a few simple questions:

• What did you enjoy most about our trip?
• Did anything make you feel uncomfortable?
• Did you try or play anything new?
• What’s something that happened that I might not know about?

Let me be clear, I by no means thought a family member or anyone close to us would cause harm. That’s not the point. It would actually be irresponsible of me not to check in and continue building open communication.

The reality is, statistics show that around 90% of children who are harmed know the person who harmed them. This isn’t about fear, it’s about trust, awareness, and connection. By regularly asking gentle questions, I’m creating a foundation where my daughter knows she can share the good, the confusing, and even the uncomfortable, no matter who it involves.

These everyday moments, brushing hair, bedtime chats, car rides, are where we teach children body safety without saying a single “scary” word. We’re building a relationship where they feel safe, listened to, and empowered.

This is exactly what I teach in my course Foundations of Body Safety: how to build trust, connection, and open communication so your child feels safe to use their voice.

Follow along if you want practical strategies to create these safe, everyday moments with your child.

09/03/2026

Most parents don’t realise how connected these things are.

A child who is constipated…
A child who refuses food…
A child who struggles to speak up about their body…

They’re all part of the same picture: children learning to understand, trust, and advocate for their bodies.

Over the years working with parents, I’ve seen how confusing this can feel.

You know something isn’t quite right, but you’re not sure:
• Is this normal?
• Should I be worried?
• What do I actually say or do to help my child?

That’s exactly why we created this workshop.

Together with two other incredible child-health professionals, we’ll spend an afternoon unpacking three big areas parents ask about all the time:
✨ Healthy bowels & bladder (constipation, soiling, what’s normal)
✨ Feeding your child & managing fussy eating
✨ Helping kids feel confident in their bodies and speak up to keep themselves safe

Because when children understand their bodies, they’re more confident, more comfortable, and more able to advocate for themselves.

And when parents have the right tools, everything gets easier.

If this is something you’ve been navigating with your child, we’d love to see you there.

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