19/02/2026
Lately, I’ve noticed my own instinct to tighten when things feel uncertain.
To analyse.
To refine.
To ask myself what I should be doing better.
Honesty - as a Virgo, this has been a lifelong pattern, meeting discomfort with perfection.
Meeting fear with effort.
Meeting uncertainty with control.
And for a long time, that worked - in its own way - kind of, not really 😅 so my body started asking for something else.
Because when the nervous system is dysregulated, thinking harder doesn’t bring relief. It often creates more pressure.
We tell ourselves we’re safe now.
We list the reasons everything is okay.
We search for the right next step.
And yet the body stays braced.
Breath shallow, Jaw tight, Body tense.
That’s because dysregulation doesn’t live in the mind.
It lives in the body.
So when we try to reason our way out of it, the system doesn’t hear safety,
it hears expectation - just another thing to get right.
Softening doesn’t come from perfection.
It comes from being met slowly.
From presence instead of pressure.
From allowing the body to lead, even when the mind wants answers.
This season has been nudging me back into old habits - the difference is this time I have the awareness around how tightly I’m holding on, I have a quiet reminder to stop, breathe, and soften.
This is why I opened The Raeki Room, this is why I created the healing ceremony. I know how hard it is to let the reigns go and to feel safe enough to surrender…
Rach ✨🧚🏼 🌱
