18/11/2025
š„ CONTROVERSIAL CONTENT AHEAD:
Hereās a review for WAKE THE HELL UP that popped up on Goodreads.
See that bit about the husbands? Yeah, Iāve talked about this before, and I donāt hold back in the book, either.
A couple of weeks ago I had a discussion with my niece and her partner, and how I hoped that their generation gets it right.
What I was referring to was the level of control husbands *still* have over their wives, and their inability to take ownership of their own health.
Historically this was all very ānormalā (dumb, but accepted). Husbands ruled the roost and that was that.
What continues to shock me, is how many women around my age (late 40s heading into 50s) STILL HAVE TO ASK FOR PERMISSION FROM THEIR HUSBANDS TO SPEND MONEY ON THEIR HEALTH.
Yup, I see it daily.
The āoh, I just need to discuss this with my husband.ā (Translation: heāll drop thousands on a car but I have to check if itās ok to spend a fraction of that getting my health sorted.)
The number of potential clients I lose as a result of that ādiscuss with the husbandā business is astonishing. Having a healthy and vibrant wife is not that desirable, apparently. But the new car is awesome! š¤¦āāļø
Now, Iām not so naive to know that sometimes, āI just need to speak with my husbandā is code for āIām just window shopping with my lifeā OR āI canāt commit so Iāll just throw him under the bus and blame him for why I canātā. I get it, no judgement, ok?
But I also know that often, they ARE actually seeking his permission.
Donāt get me wrong. There are PLENTY of amazing and supportive husbands out there. Loads. But thereās also plenty who arenāt. And it sucks.
Ladies, I see you. I speak with you every week. My heart sinks for you when I hear those words. Because I know, a lot of the time, heās going to say no. And youāre going to stay stuck, against your wishes.
I encourage you to be brave and speak up. Nothing is worth fighting for more than ownership of your own health and wellbeing.
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